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She wore no makeup, not even lipstick to give color. She was so slim I wondered if she were anorexic. She could not be called pretty, or even attractive, I thought, because she seemed so depressed. Perhaps after treatment, when she liked herself more and felt happier, she would appear attractive. I remember what Paul Federn, a famous analyst of Freud's day, said to women patient: "I can't promise you too much, but I can promise that you'll be prettier."
My new patent, Mary Winthrop, was ready to see me as a father who would exploit her and as mother who had been unavailable since Mary was six. I was all ready to see her as a young date whom I wanted to dance with and seduce.
An unresponsive woman means different things to different men and therefore different things to different analysts. Each analyst, if he is to help an unresponsive woman patient, must become aware of his reactions to each patient. I had to carefully review the many times I had felt like an impotent, rejected lover to my mother and to adolescent girl friends. I had to deal with the anger and hurt I had felt toward them and that I now felt with Mary.
"Earlier in the evening I fancied that the mummy smells were making me drowsy, so I went out and got a respirator."