MetaChat - Question for women about their men:

I had a good time guessing what the "more inside" was going to say. Money? Hair?

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 15 November | 14:45

TPS--that's what I was thinking too. Although I was hoping for "a flashy car", so I could get on my tired soapbox and shout "Not at all!"

posted by crush-onastick 15 November | 14:47

You know, truthfully? This is not a conversation I'm comfortable having with someone named "Meatbomb."

posted by occhiblu 15 November | 14:49

Actually, *I* don't want to have sex when I've got my period. I don't usually feel that well during it, and sex is messy enough as it is without adding that stuff into the mix.

posted by JanetLand 15 November | 14:51

(Meatbomb is a good guy, occhiblu; have no fear! I'm just tired and don't really feel like talking about it)

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 15 November | 14:51

If you share your views on it, I'll share mine...

posted by Specklet 15 November | 14:51

This is not a conversation I'm comfortable having with someone named "Meatbomb."

Well said Occiblu, and we all know how much I like to share TMI!

posted by getoffmylawn 15 November | 14:52

I had a good time guessing what the "more inside" was going to say. Money? Hair?

I was certain it was going to say "Meatbomb." I'm relieved, frankly.

posted by mudpuppie 15 November | 14:52

Does this arise from the AskMe about predicting time of menstruation?

And I'll happily answer: yeah, it's important. I don't want somebody whose irrational squickiness is going to do me out of nearly a quarter time of my sex life.

posted by gaspode 15 November | 14:52

Wow, glad you asked, Specklet! Because, you know, I really don't mind it at all. I have a lot of respect for menstruating women.

posted by Meatbomb 15 November | 14:54

Meatbomb's been putting the "men" in "menstruation" all morning.

posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson 15 November | 14:54

Thanks gaspode -- I thought for a minute there I was going to be the only one who shared. :)

posted by JanetLand 15 November | 14:55

Meatbomb is a good guy, occhiblu

I don't doubt it, it's just... I'm trying to post a response about girl parts to If I Had an Anus on MeTa, now this. It's too much for my frilly girl brain to process. :-)

posted by occhiblu 15 November | 14:56

Because, you know, I really don't mind it at all.

Dude, the OP clearly stated he was only interested in the ladies' opinions.

posted by danostuporstar 15 November | 14:59

That's right, I'm the guy. The guy with a good attitude towards menstruation.

youtube. Because somebody had to do it.

posted by elizard 15 November | 15:02

The Instead cup is good to use when you have your period and think you'll be getting some.

...or so I've heard. ; )

posted by sisterhavana 15 November | 15:07

Dude, the OP clearly stated he was only interested in the +straight ladies' opinions.

posted by mudpuppie 15 November | 15:07

Why must anyone possess any attitude at all towards menstruation? It's a body function. Should we have positive attitudes about pissing, shitting, burping and sneezing, too?

posted by jonmc 15 November | 15:11

Yes, jonmc. Yes, we should.

posted by Meatbomb 15 November | 15:15

jonmc, are you saying you don't like to have sex with girls while they are pissing, shitting, burping and sneezing? I'd call you a neanderthal, but you'd take it as a compliment!

posted by agropyron 15 November | 15:16

my point is: whatever attitudes you have about them, they're still going to happen, so why worry so much about them. They're just facts of life.

posted by jonmc 15 November | 15:16

jonmc has an interesting point. Me, I've always had very a negative attitude about burping. Other people's, anyway. I think it comes from those icky 5th-grade boys who tried to do it loud on purpose. Same with farting.

As for sneezing, I unfortunately always sneeze in multiples, and I'm sick to death of people saying "Bless you!" after each and every one.

posted by JanetLand 15 November | 15:17

And I won't have sex with anyone who does that.

posted by JanetLand 15 November | 15:18

I WILL NOT HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE WHO BREATHES, LAUGHS, OR SMILES!

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 15 November | 15:20

And Meatbomb, to answer your question, I don't know about dealbreaker, but I'd be showing the door to anyone who reacted with, "ew, ick, gross, what the hell is thaaaaaaat?!?" and ran away in a sissy fit (or any less-exaggerated version of the same). There are many thing you can do besides your usual penetrative sex if it's a problem, but a little mess never hurt no-one (provided I'm not curled up in a foetal position around a hot water bottle, that is. In that case, stay the fuck away from me).

posted by elizard 15 November | 15:23

(np JanetLand: I'll share away)

jonmc: whether people should or should not is kind of irrelevant. People DO. So it factors into who I (used to) have sex with.

posted by gaspode 15 November | 15:24

I WILL NOT HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE WHO BREATHES, LAUGHS, OR SMILES!

*throws pinky a depressed dead fish*

knock yourself out.

jonmc: whether people should or should not is kind of irrelevant. People DO. So it factors into who I (used to) have sex with.

Well sure. People who are all 'ooh icky' are big crybabies, but the Moon Goddess, let's fingerpaint with the muenstral blood and hang our used tampons from the solstice tree crew are just silly. Seeing it as simply fact of life seems to be the correct attitude to me.

posted by jonmc 15 November | 15:28

was anyone expressing those sentiments?

posted by gaspode 15 November | 15:31

You aren't going to score with the chicks with that kind of anti-menstruation attitude, jonmc.

posted by Meatbomb 15 November | 15:32

That's right, gaspode. And Jon, the question wasn't "Should people have a specific attitude about menstruation?" it was "How important is it for you that your significant other has a positive attitude towards menstruation?"

The answer for me is: pretty important. If you're squicked out by something my body does naturally and regularly, I don't want to share with you the part of my body that does it.

I don't need to hang my tampons on the Solstice tree, but I expect my partner to not say "ooh icky" when I tell him/her I'm bleeding.

posted by Specklet 15 November | 15:32

Also: I sometimes like having sex on my period. The mess, not so much, but the sensation is very different from other times of the month.

posted by Specklet 15 November | 15:35

I'm not anti-menstruation. I'm explicitly saying that it's merely a body function. And I have seen that kind of 'solstice tree/muenstral art' rhetoric before. And there's only one chick I wanna score with and that's a done deal.

posted by jonmc 15 November | 15:35

Is it positive to have a positive attitude and still not want to have sex during the middle of my wife's period? I don't go "ohh icky" but waiting out the heaviest days is a requirement. (Fortunately my wife and I are on the same page.)

posted by danostuporstar 15 November | 15:36

Seeing it as simply fact of life seems to be the correct attitude to me.

I think lots of things that are simply facts of life are nevertheless icky, my period definitely being one of them. But I will admit that that's a lot different than somebody else calling my period icky . . . .

posted by JanetLand 15 November | 15:37

err, the first 'positive' above should be 'possible'.

posted by danostuporstar 15 November | 15:39

Jon, shut up.

This was not a question for you.

And stop spelling the word "menstrual" incorrectly.

posted by Specklet 15 November | 15:42

And there's only one chick I wanna score with and that's a done deal.

So why are you even weighing in?

There's no quota for number of comments a user must inject into each and every thread, you know. It's okay to have nothing to contribute. Not so okay is not realizing that you have nothing to contribute, and then dismissing everyone else's contributions with a "why are you even talking about this?".

posted by mudpuppie 15 November | 15:50

And stop spelling the word "menstrual" incorrectly.

I see that as just another indicator of his incorrect perspective on this issue, and lack of respect for this biological miracle.

If there were any justice in this world someone in a position of authority would tape his mouth shut, strip him down to his underpants, paint him in menstrual blood, and chain him to a park bench in Union Square with a placard saying "I have a negative attitude towards menstruation".

posted by Meatbomb 15 November | 15:51

*hugs Specklet and mudpuppie*

dano, yes it is indeed. I'm on that page as well.

posted by elizard 15 November | 15:51

I am definitely anti-minstrel shows.

posted by mullacc 15 November | 15:52

Also, I will only share my messy parts with girls who like my flashy car. Thanks.

posted by mullacc 15 November | 15:53

You mention jizz, a similarly sex-specific and seldom publicly seen fluid, in your next comment, so here's my musing on that: TONS of mainstream, readily available pornography contains cum shots, but does any mass-market (meant for the same audience as cum-shot) porn deal with menstrual blood (or real blood at all, really--I'm leaving out alternative porn like Bella Vendetta, here)? I know that's a bit specious, as a comparison, but, I dunno, it makes me think.

I never thought about that, but it's a good point

posted by matteo 15 November | 15:54

Jon, shut up.
So why are you even weighing in?

(and people wonder why I have an inferiority complex.) I thought shrugging and accepting it as just something that happens was a good thing.

*backs out of thread slowly*

posted by jonmc 15 November | 15:57

I'll tell y'all what is a deal-breaker for me: Using "maybe it's that time of the month" as a code for "something's obviously wrong with him/her/it."

The craftily hidden link above also makes me a little suspicious of the motives behind the original question, but maybe I'm just over-thinking.

posted by mudpuppie 15 November | 16:00

I'll tell y'all what is a deal-breaker for me: Using "maybe it's that time of the month" as a code for "something's obviously wrong with him/her/it."

Agreed!

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 15 November | 16:04

lack of respect for this biological miracle

I don't think it's so miraculous. Menopause, on the other hand, I am eagerly awaiting.

posted by JanetLand 15 November | 16:06

No, Meatbomb's been riffing on the whole menstruation thing all morning. First four comments, and several more here in various threads. I think he was just bringing "the fun" over here when MetaFilter went down.

posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson 15 November | 16:07

As for sneezing, I unfortunately always sneeze in multiples, and I'm sick to death of people saying "Bless you!" after each and every one.
posted by JanetLand 15 November | 15:17

That's weird thing to be sick to death of sounds to me like you should count your blessings instead. Ho HO HO..

Ahem.

(Anyhow what the hell is the etiquette on saying "Bless you".)

posted by Skygazer 15 November | 16:09

mudpuppie: DING DING DING!!! You were supposed to notice that, and you win a prize!

posted by Meatbomb 15 November | 16:10

Ah, IRFH. Your comment about "putting the men in menstruation" I took sort of literally. Didn't realize this was a theme.

Meatbomb: Stop it.

posted by mudpuppie 15 November | 16:13

I didn't see a hidden link? Am I dumb? Is this an emperor's new clothes kind of thing?

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 15 November | 16:16

Click the colon in mudpuppie's comment here.

posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson 15 November | 16:18

mudpuppie: OK, my work here is done. You wanna know what your prize is?

posted by Meatbomb 15 November | 16:19

Okay, wait.

Meatbomb, a few days ago you post a question here about how to redeem yourself at Metafilter.

Then you apparently morph into Brave New Meatbomb over there. And instead of redeeming yourself, you make stupid menstruation comments in MetaTalk threads. (Thanks, um, Flo.)

And because MetaFilter is slow, you decide to come do it here too? (1, 2, 3?

You're an ass. Go away.

On preview: I hope the prize is that you go spend more time at Fark.

posted by mudpuppie 15 November | 16:20

What has two thumbs and kinda wishes meatbomb would expand his shtick and/or personality manifestations on the metas?

This guy!

posted by Divine_Wino 15 November | 16:22

I think this thread is getting cramps.

posted by JanetLand 15 November | 16:24

The thing's you learn at MetaChat. I never would have a guessed that 'shut up' would have such prominent place in a girlzone.

posted by danostuporstar 15 November | 16:25

OK, my work here is done.

Yes, yes it is.

posted by taz 15 November | 16:27

I've met Meatbomb. he's OK. Although I get the intense feeling we're being fucked with right here.

posted by jonmc 15 November | 16:30

Jon, here's why I told you to shut up:

Meatbomb asked "How important is it for you that your significant other has a positive attitude towards menstruation?"

And you began chiming in.

Why must anyone possess any attitude at all towards menstruation?

Okay, fine, that's a valid point, but the fact is that people DO possess attitudes about menstruation. And Meatbomb's question directly addresses that.

whatever attitudes you have about them, they're still going to happen, so why worry so much about them.

Because (specifically) men have the attitudes, positive or negative, and I have to deal with it. So THAT'S why worry about it.

but the Moon Goddess, let's fingerpaint with the muenstral blood and hang our used tampons from the solstice tree crew are just silly.

NOBODY SAID ANYTHING LIKE THAT IN THE THREAD. Fuckin' sheesh.

I'm explicitly saying that it's merely a body function.

Yeah, you're right, it is. And it would be great if everyone could view it as such. But it's a bodily function that some men have a "ooh ick" reaction to that is difficult/frustrating for me to deal with. And that's what I was talking about, and that's what this thread is (supposed to be) about.

I thought shrugging and accepting it as just something that happens was a good thing.

Well sure. But that's not what the thread was about! No one was arguing your point. You missed the point of the thread, and started making another point in an irritating way.

On preview: Meatbomb, you're a dink.

posted by Specklet 15 November | 16:40

My wife and I used to have a red towel for such occasions. But it eventually evolved that sex did not happen during her period, mostly because she tended to get migraines during that time.

Now she's through menopause, sex is different, better, a bit more frequent, although that is in part to her "use it or lose it" attitude towards her sexuality now.

(On preview, I'll shut up now, Specklet.)

posted by danf 15 November | 16:46

Wow, Meatbomb's a gangsta, or something.

posted by Atom Eyes 15 November | 16:49

What a jackass.

*walks away shaking her head, makes note to ignore Meatbomb in future*

posted by elizard 15 November | 16:51

There's no quota for number of comments a user must inject into each and every thread, you know.

Now you tell me. *sleeps*

posted by Mitheral 15 November | 16:59

Well, I was gonna share, but since this thread has kinda deteriorated I'll just clicky the little orange 'x'.

posted by deborah 15 November | 17:48

I was gonna say that me and my dude don't really "Insert slot P into hole V" when I'm on my period, but that I also don't think strictly penetrative sex is the end-all be-all of sexuality. I was also going to make fun of Meatbomb, but that's been well covered. Thanks, guys!

posted by muddgirl 15 November | 20:42

I'll tell y'all what is a deal-breaker for me: Using "maybe it's that time of the month" as a code for "something's obviously wrong with him/her/it."

Absolutely!!!! On the occasion when the hubby and I have an argument, if he dares to throw that in there all it does is make the situation much worse. As if I am not allowed to lose my temper, or if I do, it's "because it's that time of the month". I yell back, "What's the matter? Not enough testosterone in the room for you?" or something.

posted by redvixen 15 November | 21:14

Sometimes I'll make sexist comments so I'll have the chance to practice groveling.

posted by sciurus 16 November | 08:04

This thread is adorable, if for nothing else, it's blind acceptance of the word "squicked".
Wow, it even has it's own Kerry King guitar solo.

posted by Hellbient 16 November | 15:30

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