Son Update. →
[More:] Did you know that if you click the link in each of my little narratives about my son, it will take you to the previous update?
Anyway, he's doing okay. As I mentioned in the last update, he improved his transportation situation by buying his first new car, a 2013 Ford Fiesta. Pretty basic model, but it's NEW and perfect. He got it about six months ago.
And now, he's looking at apartments. He thinks he's found one that opens up at the end of May, so he'll be moving out in a couple months.
Meanwhile, on the job, they're sending him to senior pharmacy tech training which will eventually enable him to get a slightly better paying job.
But that's not what he wants... at least over the long term. He said pharmacy tech is okay for the time being, but he's starting to look into options for other careers. Ideally, he'd like to find a self-paced online program because he doesn't have the patience to study the same thing for a whole semester. He's thinking about computer security.
I still worry about him. Right now things are going well and he's in a comfort zone. I know he's gotta move out to grow, but I also know he's had anxiety issues before, and I don't want him to crash again. But I've got to let him do his own thing and figure out what works for him. He's responsible for his car payment now, not to mention other grownup expenses, and heck, he's 26.
My other son graduated with a bachelor's degree in music in December. He still has his gig singing in a church choir which pays a bit but not much. He had an interview to play piano for another church but he hasn't heard back yet. He's applied to grad school in both the music and library science fields. He's been the more stable of the two. He's not necessarily any stronger or smarter, but he is more willing to admit he's in over his head and ask for help if he needs it.
So I've got a college dropout who's advancing slowly, and a relatively unemployable music school graduate who's looking to continue his education. I was hoping that by now, they'd both be out on their own. I have a nephew and two nieces about the same age as my sons, and they're all supporting themselves. I feel like maybe I did something wrong since my sons aren't there yet, but I have to just have faith that they'll get there. Parenting older (adult) kids brings different stresses than having young ones.