meaning you shouldn't have to work too hard at the talking.
I think one really important thing (and I say this as a TALKER myself) is to ask questions and listen more.
...not very well. In fact, the last date I was on I had to be told I was on a date.
Stories... For inspiration, ask yourself the following questions.
When was the last time you did something embarrassing?
What was the most interesting thing that happened at work this week?
What was the naughtiest thing you did when you were little?
What's the funniest thing that's ever happened to you on a date?
What's the scariest thing you've ever done?
What's the funniest story any of your friends have ever told you?
What's the most interesting/bizarre thing you've read in the news this week?
1. Imagine hosting the perfect dinner party. You can invite anyone who has ever lived. Whom would you ask?
2. When did you last talk to yourself?
3. Name two ways in which you consider yourself lucky.
4. Name something that you have always wanted to do and explain why you havenít done it yet.
5. Imagine that your house or apartment catches fire. You can save only one object. What would it be?
6. Describe one of the happiest days of your life.
7. Imagine that you are going to become a close friend with your date. What is the most important thing for him or her to know about you?
8. Tell your date two things that you really like about him or her.
9. Describe one of the most embarrassing moments in your life.
10. Describe a personal problem, and ask your dateís advice on how best to handle it.
*I'm not naysaying those questions, just offering an alternative that springs a little more naturally from the ongoing conversation.
"When we met in person, you were chatty, funny, and easy to talk to."
"I agree with Elsa, you're charming as hell."
Just react to the situation and surroundings and 'be yourself' (classic mom advice that is actually true).
That whole "friends first" attitude is a defensive posture that usually only means "I'm not looking for casual sex." So, the best thing to do on a second date is make sure your definition of what is happening matches hers. Be bold. You can't see the fences she's built if you cover your eyes.