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17 July 2008

Greetings from Chico I said goodbye to my (now ex-, I guess) boyfriend this morning and started the drive up to Seattle.→[More:] I'm kind of heartbroken and terrified.

There were lots of good reasons for this three months ago, stuff about Growing As Independent Adults and Figuring Out What We Want Out Of Relationships and Being Single For A Little While Now Since There Are Good Odds We Might End Up Together On A More Permanent Basis but it's all seeming really, really stupid right now particularly given all the other totally amazing awesome things that really, really worked on a deep and wonderful level with each other.

And it comes on top of moving to a new city and starting a new school and more or less chucking my whole Los-Angeles life out the window and starting over. For about the fifth time in as many years.

And I really need a hug right now.

post by: Fuzzbean at: 01:30 | 18 comments

(((Fuzzbean)))

posted by gomichild 17 July | 03:51

*big hugs*

posted by jonathanstrange 17 July | 03:57

Yeah big hugs. Lots of hugs.

I don't know how you managed to work out that you need to be apart so you can be together later, but it's not the sort of thing I'd advocate. So, be strong. Be yourself. Have fun and don't feel guilty about any choices you make / want to make during your interim time.

Again, hugs.

posted by seanyboy 17 July | 04:07

Hugs fuzzbean. It all works out in the end. Trust me. In love it does.

posted by dabitch 17 July | 04:46

You will feel less heartbroken and terrified as time goes on. Everything will be okay, even if you're not sure what that looks like right now. Big hugs.

posted by Specklet 17 July | 05:36

((((fuzzbean)))) here's to new adventures.

posted by chewatadistance 17 July | 06:54

Big HUGS and WUFFLES.

Take good care of yourself. (((fuzzbean)))

posted by mightshould 17 July | 07:08

(((fuzzbean)))

posted by initapplette 17 July | 08:06

Keep swimming.

posted by ethylene 17 July | 08:13

oh dear. (((((u)))))
it will be ok.

posted by loiseau 17 July | 08:32

Enjoy what's left of the Summer in Seattle. . .

posted by danf 17 July | 10:10

I'm about to enter into the first long distance relationship I've ever had, where we're both moving to different countries and for some stupid reason are going to try and make a go of it.

I'm worried that the distance will just break us irrevocably and I won't even have a friend left at the end of it. I don't know if I'm going to be looking back and wishing I'd made the same choice as you. It's crushing, either way.

posted by hugsnkisses 17 July | 10:34

Aw, bean. That is very hard. I think it will work out for the best - certainly will help to clarify your feelings and hopes. Don't shortchange your new life and spend your time pining away on the phone, though - give Seattle every chance to be a place you fall in love with and have great experiences. And let the love part work itself out - it usually does, like dabitch says.

posted by Miko 17 July | 11:42

Big hugs. You're a champ.

posted by Hugh Janus 17 July | 12:11

Aw, Fuzzbean. Hope things work themselves out soon.

posted by jrossi4r 17 July | 13:08

Oh, the hugging! Lots of the hugging!

(((((fuzzbean)))))

That's a lots of stuff all at once, and it would be really easy to let the Relationship Stuff get muddled up with the New City Stuff and the New School Stuff, which would be too bad.

As scathing as it can be, there's always something bracing and clean about making such a Brand New Start, isn't there? It's like a sea-salt exfoliation: scrape off everything that's been dulled by exposure and wear, and once the stinging wears off, you feel so fresh and new and gorgeous.

Uh. Y'know. (I'm kinda doped up on back-pain pills, so I can't tell: Was that a weird metaphor? Maybe.)

In any case, hugging. Always the hugging.

posted by Elsa 17 July | 13:13

(((fuzzbean)))

And drive safely.

posted by gaspode 17 July | 13:20

Safe travels. Take good care, fuzzbean.

posted by tangerine 17 July | 16:03

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