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21 March 2007
HotEnough.org -- "Jason Pellegrino (an 8.2 on the attractiveness scale) says the problem with Internet dating services is not enough really hot-looking people. So he and a business partner have created HotEnough.org."
Hate to break this to you, Pellegrino, but all us really hot people are already happily coupled off.
(Seriously, I sometimes suspect that stuff like this and that rich guy/hot girl, rich girl/hot guy speed dating thing are all part of some big eugenic plot to beet a robotically attractive aristocracy. Sadly, what they fail to grasp is that 'hot' and 'sexy' are 99% attitude)
With all the collagen implants, they're stuck that way, too!
When women make that face, it reminds me of the face my mom would make when looking at herself in the mirror before going off to a concert or something with my dad. She didn't really dress up for much else, and she'd put on lipstick and make a face at the mirror with ther chin tilted up a little. Ten year-old me always wondered why she reserved all her vanity for going out, and then spent hours changing from dress to dress and making kissy faces at herself.
She'd ask me over and over again, does this look nice, and I'd say yeah, mom, you're beautiful. Maybe she asked me so much because I always had the same answer.
omiewise: I'm at work and shouldn't go looking for sample photo links, but 'gay-for-a-day' refers to closeted gay/curious men who troll for one-time hookups with other (presumably closeted but maybe not necessarily) gay/curious men.
On Craigslist this quest sometimes manifests itself in garishly lit photos of the subject, shirtless and coyly smiling, in low-slung jeans or boxer-briefs. A couple of the hotenough photos called that aesthetic to mind.
I already regret snarking about it all, though. I mean, hey, we're all just trying to be happy. These folks are welcome to their site, if that's the sort of thing that brings them joy.
These folks are welcome to their site, if that's the sort of thing that brings them joy.
Thing is, it seems that it's doomed (provided it's not some elaborate scam) not to bring them joy since it's basing everything on physical attraction, and a rather narrow version of it at that.
'Hot' is as hot does, I think. A lot of it has to do with clothing and haircut and things of that nature.
I was out recently with a gentleman of the male persuasion. Three women came walking into the room. "Ooh, here come the hotties!" he said, sorta jokingly. Quite sincerely I asked "Do you really think they're hot?" because to me, their faces were sort of pleasant but unremarkable, and physically they were within normal range but not visibly smokin', to my eyes. I was genuinely just curious about what other people find attractive.
His response? "Nah, not really. But you can tell they're hotties because they're wearing hottie shoes."
And they were hottie shoes - various pointy-toed, stiletto things, with jeans.
Basically, the hotness was a clothing or identity choice, not an inherent property.
jonmc, I agree with you, but who knows how other folks' minds work. The very self-selection process that has brought them to the site is something I'd never engage in, so whatever is making them tick is beyond my ken. I guess the question is whether physical beauty in a partner can ever really make you happy. Maybe for some people, that's all they're after. I really don't know.
their faces were sort of pleasant but unremarkable, and physically they were within normal range but not visibly smokin', to my eyes.
Exactly, it's a sort of bland inoffensiveness. I won't insult everybody's intelligence by sayin that the single me would've turned any of the so-called hotties away, but they wouldn't be the first ones to catch my eye in a crowded room. Hot, sexy and cute* are three different things. Hot means meeting some weird standard of symmetry and wearing all the right signifiers. Sexy is an intangible (and highly subjective) animal reaction. Cute is ...pleasingly unusual for lack of a better definition, oddly eye-catching.
*I'd like to go on record as saying I hate the word 'cute' when it's applied to men, because it sounds silly and goes nowhere. But I'm weird
Some day I'll write a short story about a ringer that works for a dating service... Basically, due to market research they find that people tend to quit the site around say the third month of no success. So this "hottie" dates people nearing the three month mark for two dates and then dumps them so they stay with the site.
In the movie version, she falls in love with one of the poor schlubs and is then conflicted because she would have to let him in on the secret.
If anyone is interested in optioning the rights to the film, email is in the profile.
This is definitely a scam of some sort. The same women pop up in different zip codes across the country. Plus all the pics look like those scammy "hot" myspace profiles that try to add you as a friend.
So they're charging members ten bucks a month (with recurring billing and auto-renewal), and they've got about a thousand members after just a few months? And they're serving up advertising, too. Why hasn't somebody else already tried this?
hmmm. I love that they have the option for women seeking women - but I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that not one of those women that show up is actually a lesbian full-time. Various Saturday nights, sure. Monday - Friday? No way.
Perhaps that's because they show up for both men seeking and women seeking searches. In 60647 (Chicago), 02145 (Somerville, MA), 87108 (Albuquerque, NM) and 48225 (Detroit, MI). Go figure.
And, while they may have the "hottie" thing going for them, I wouldn't look twice at any of them. Especially the one flipping everyone the bird. Classy!