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19 December 2014

Friday question from The Book of Questions Do you prefer being around men or women? Do your closest friends tend to be men or women?
I don't think I have a strong preference either way. Most of my "old" friends (college, etc) are women but I have some guy friends, too; my grad school clique is 4 women/2 men.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 19 December | 14:37
I have close female friends but I gravitate more to men. My very best friend is my husband, hands down.
posted by bearwife 19 December | 15:25
posted by JanetLand 19 December | 15:42
I tend to appreciate how people express their personhood without active genital or gender interference in our relationship. People who can't be intimate without making it sexual or dependent generally weed themselves out of real friendship, no matter what sex. Who has the time to role play if it isn't for fun or profit?
posted by ethylene 19 December | 16:03
I definitely prefer being around women. I seek out the company of women, and I feel more comfortable around women. I have male friends, but not many. Most are the husbands of my female friends. I don't dislike men, I just find that I don't have as much in common with respect to my interests and hobbies, which tend to skew traditionally female (crafting, knitting, cooking).

As a younger person, I was often let down by men (boys, really) who would form friendships with me, but would quickly let the friendship die as soon as they realized I wasn't interested in a romantic or sexual relationship. That happened more times than I care to count. First I was disappointed and confused, but as I got older, I grew resigned. Ultimately, I was so suspicious of men's attempts at friendship, I withdrew from male company nearly altogether. When I met my husband, it was a miracle that I even spoke to him at all.
Now that I am older, it is such a relief to not be treated like that anymore. But I still prefer chicks as friends.
posted by msali 19 December | 16:04
I now gravitate towards female friends since there is no "relationship" expectation and we can simply enjoy being friends.
posted by mightshould 19 December | 19:13
I don't have a strong preference either way. When I was younger I found it a lot easier to be friends with men because we shared more interests and the communication was in some ways clearer to me. As I matured I found it just as easy to be friends with women. People vary a lot; as always, individual variations matter more than variations across a two-pole borderline.
posted by Miko 19 December | 22:00
As Miko said "People vary a lot; as always, individual variations matter more than variations across a two-pole borderline"
but most of the time I prefer to be with women and always most of my friends are women. I generally only have one or two close male friends.
posted by arse_hat 20 December | 02:14
I've always been more comfortable with women. For whatever reason, I've never felt at-ease among men.
posted by Thorzdad 20 December | 08:09
My best friend is a man, but 95% of my other friends are women.
posted by Senyar 20 December | 14:28
I agree that there are many variations and I don't deliberately seek friendship with any specific gender but I do seem to gravitate towards women as friends. My best friend is a woman and, while I don't have any friends that I'm very close with apart from her, I do tend to be more comfortable around women. I think it could be because I find the competitiveness and the typical male ego stuff uncomfortable.
posted by dg 21 December | 15:56
Women, most men are too wired up or outwardly grouch.
At work; could care less.
posted by buzzman 21 December | 18:10
pretty much the same as Thorzdad. the majority of my friends have been female since i can even remember. nothing to do with the genitals; i'm just not a fan of "maleness" or masculinity, or what it means in our society.
posted by Eideteker 22 December | 11:54
No preference but since I work in software I spend 90% of my time around men so hanging out with women is a nice change.
posted by octothorpe 22 December | 21:49
People say the most bizzarre things. || Based on this clip,