Metachat, I have another serious question to ask you. →[More:] You were so helpful with the last question, I figured I could try again.

Here goes:
Tonight is the visitation for my dear friend who passed away last week, tomorrow will be the funeral followed by a service.

My question is about tonight. I've never been to one of these things before, and as I understand a "visitation", for 2 hours, people rotate through the funeral home and express their condolences to the family.

Now, as a people pleasing, codependent Italian, I want to bring something to eat. Food! Right? Food makes things better. "No," my husband says, "wait until the reception after the service tomorrow night for food, bring it then."

But what about the kids? Won't they get thirsty/hungry over this two hour period that expands across their normal dinner time?

So here is my actual question, do funeral homes provide snacks and beverages for the grieving families, or would a beverage and a few pieces of fruit be a good idea for the youngsters?

After the visitation, another friend and I have determined the closest bar that serves good cosmos and martinis.

Is wearing a black dress too mournful? Should I wear something else?

Thanks you guys. I'd rather ask you than the green on more personal matters like these. I know you'll come through for me.