do any of you feel this duality not really knowing how to go about 'vibing' with a person even though you can talk to them about things, like selective introversion→[More:]

See, for me, communication = conversation. Conversation = talking about something specific. So I can go for hours talking about specific things with someone. But that's too serious, almost. I need to figure out what goes on in those huge chasms of conversation that aren't about materially grasping at some discrete idea/concept/issue.

I've kinda been like that, in that e.g. if I'm in class I can go on forever but the second class ends and I'm with the person I was *JUST* talking to about erthing, obviously they don't want to talk about that thing outside of class, so what? It's a tough nut to crack.

I'm gonna start approaching it like a project, like if I'm accompanying a kid somewhere, obviously we have very little in common but seeing what we can get at, off and on.

I wouldn't worry about it but (a) it's a roadblock in forming more intimate connections, and (b) a lot of people advance themselves in a social context by forming soft personal connections with people with whom they have formal dealings (there's an afterparty following this conference) and being able to tap into that is nice..