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07 September 2009

I had a date tonight. →[More:]
A coffee date, after work, with a man from OKCupid.

The good parts:

- conversation was easy, there were no uncomfortable silences.

- he's interesting and we had a lot of common interests and reference points.

The not so good parts:

- Physically he's really not my type, very small and slightly built.

- I didn't feel any 'spark' or fancy him at all.

But, when he gets back from France and I get back from NY next month, he suggested we should go out for dinner, and I think that would be nice.

For my first ever blind date, it wasn't as bad as I thought it'd be.

post by: essexjan at: 14:53 | 10 comments

it's cool, even if the spark isn't there, maybe you've found a friend: it's a good thing, no?

posted by matteo 07 September | 15:09

New friends or conversation partners are supposed to be good things. :)

posted by sperose 07 September | 15:36

That sounds nice. Better than most blind date experiences!

Hi matteo hi hi hi!

posted by Specklet 07 September | 16:05

Give that second chance your best effort. Sometimes 'types' are just our old habits' way of making us repeat a pattern that goes nowhere.

posted by Miko 07 September | 19:31

Sounds like it was a nice time, ej. Congrats on getting your feet wet!

posted by deborah 07 September | 20:03

Congrats! Glad it wasn't a disaster and I hope your next one goes even better.

posted by rmless2 07 September | 22:40

Heh, I had an online "date" with a platonic new friend tonight (we're both straight girls with current male partners). It's nice to have new people in your life, whether you're determined to bang them or not, and let's face it; we're all huge nerds, and it's just easier to meet people online sometimes.

I discussed it with the girl; what are you going to go, wear a t-shirt to the party with all your interests and personality quirks listed in bullet point? Online social networking is an effective and convenient way to find new people, and new people are a good thing. They're salt and pepper and sprinkles on the mashed potatoes of the everyday life you're used to.

(the girl I just met got me high, if I'm not making sense or seem especially hippy dippy philosophical)

posted by Juliet Banana 07 September | 23:11

Someone got you high over the Internet? Wow, that's progress I can get behind!

posted by dg 08 September | 05:37

Sounds nice, overall. I know what you mean, though. If that spark's not there, it's not there. Sometimes someone grows on ya, though.

posted by Pips 08 September | 20:03

He isn't a very manly man - I don't mean he was effeminate, there just wasn't anything terribly masculine about him, he was kind of asexual. I prefer a man who's got a bit of testosterone in him.

posted by essexjan 09 September | 00:16

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