Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry. I'm sure you'll be ok and thrive with whatever you decide, but that's a *hell* of a lot of cross-country moves in very little time.

(On the other hand, if you feel like driving out to the coast or meeting up midway, I'd love to buy you a drink if you move out this way.)

Booo, that stinks.

occhiblu: Any way we could write that off as therapy for my medical insurance? heheh

TPS: I just checked my options for a possible quick run down to NYC this weekend, but all the options have cons that would be too stressful for me right now. I'm really sorry.

So this isn't something you can straighten out over a visit to Fresno? You actually have to move there?

Unfortunately, I'm not on any of the insurance boards, so I don't think you're covered. ;-( (that's my stern semi-ironic therapist face)

special-k: Yes, to share household expenses between me and my son and his girlfriend. It's a weirdly complicated and convoluted mess. The alternative is to name his girlfriend as his guardian and I can't afford to pay a lawyer to go there.

I'm sorry Ardiril. You just did a big move - and that is so stressful.

Ugh, I hate moving, even across town. I can't imagine that with all the other things you're juggling. You are one tough and strong fellow. Please look after yourself.

Too bad you can't make it down to NYC. This weekend would have been bad for us, anyway- we'll be in CO.

Now the move is 100% sure. I tie up loose ends tomorrow and start packing the car. I may in CO at the same time as you, TPS. heheh

Oh man, that is really tough. I'm sorry, Ardiril. I very much hope good things and happy times are in front of you.

"your kids gotta come first"
If you can't take of yourself, you won't be able to take care of your kids. This coming from someone who has clocked an unusual amount of hospital time.

Damn, dude. I wish I was more shocked by this, but sadly I'm not.

:( That sucks so hard.

Please enjoy CA. It will be a good chance to spend time with your kid, and that is always a positive thing.

So long, and thanks for all the seafood!

Oh man, that is really tough. I'm sorry, Ardiril. I very much hope good things and happy times are in front of you.

I can't say it better than Specklet did. (Someday, I'm gonna have to have that printed on a card, to save time and typing.)

It was good to meet you in person, and I'm sending you happy, healing thoughts.

We will meet one day Ardiril. Safe travels.

Thanks, everyone. My son is due two more years of SocSec benefits because of my disability, three if he goes to college. However his mother is his custodial parent and that check comes in her name, and now, she is somehow managing to mess things up. I cannot call SocSec to find out what is happening because of privacy regulations that disallow the noncustodial parent from getting information about the custodial parent's actions. I found this out when my private disability insurance needed to know the amount my exwife was getting from SocSec, nor could they tell if she had even started receiving the checks yet.

Alternatively, he is old enough to choose with which parent to live, so if I take him into my household once I move to California, I can sue for custody, and therefore get his SocSec check in my name. The other positive factor of this is that I can negate the paragraph in the divorce agreement that requires me to name his mother the beneficiary of all my life insurance policies until he is 18, and instead set up a trust fund managed by my sister.

I'm thinking good thoughts, ardiril.

Well, on the bright side, it's warm there, the beaches and mountains are gorgeous, and there are plenty of hippies to shoot.

It's mind-blowing that you can't call SocSec to find out what is happening with YOUR MONEY.

Ugh, so complicated. Sorry you have to uproot again...what a drag. Good to meet you over the weekend...hope things improve vastly for you soon!

Well, on the bright side, it's warm there, the beaches and mountains are gorgeous, and there are plenty of hippies to shoot.

Never been to Fresno, have you.

(That sentence was punctuated properly and with intent.)

((ardiril))

Never been to Fresno, have you.

Guilty as charged. My only experience of California is LAX. From the air Los Angeles looked to me like a circuit board at the bottom of a bowl of egg drop soup.

Just tryin' to cheer up a pal by holding out the hope that he'll at least be able to shoot some hippies.

(((Ardiril))) I'm so sorry you've had another upset.

PS: mudpuppie is right - Fresno sucks.