How do you define a "connection"?
(Another sort-of dating question, sorry...)→
[More:]I laughed hysterically while reading this post
and this post
, and then I realized that I've dated a few of the latter types! Although it was meant to be a parody, the M is clearly not "connecting" to the F because he is completely absorbed in subjects that interest him, with nothing to do with her.
WHICH made me start thinking, what exactly is a romantic connection, anyway? When I see couples connect, it's either because 1) they have some hobby/profession intensely in common or 2) they fall into gender roles--I've seen women "catch" and connect with a boyfriend by saying things like, can I cook you a meal? Can I help you with your laundry? I'm a lousy cook and I can't possibly discuss software engineering with someone, but is nodding at a story that's over my head [I'm not bored at all, I just don't know what questions to ask] really connecting? * It's obviously more than that. But what is it? What is the process that leads to it?
Box has the right idea in this comment
from my previous dating question, thanks box! I guess I'm feeling down because I don't know how to try to connect to someone (having failed recently)--I can't offer to cook or brilliant insights on calibrated equipment, so what can I offer? /self pity
* A guy rejected me once because I couldn't discuss all the things that interested him, like physics. Yes, I know I'm better off without him. But that's not all you brilliant guys are looking for, right?!