So sorry MGL. I haven't been here in a few weeks, and I presume I've missed quite a lot. You're not alone though. My life seems more or less to be in pieces at the moment, so what ever it is, I can at least offer my feelings, regardless of the circumstances, which I do not know.
Me, I'd go ahead with the moving in, cancel the improvements for now, and go with the Possession Before Closing contract and week-to-week agreement as needed. It just seems to me that everyone involved in this negotiation should be most anxious for it to proceed. But of course, lawyer advice = better than taz advice.
(((mygothlaundry))) I am so sorry to hear that these problems just refuse to cease. It will end, someday, though. Just try to imagine how good you are going to feel when all of this craziness settles down. If you ever make it to Carrboro, you can come to my house and vent in person. I doubt I am going to be making it to Asheville to visit you anytime soon. I heard y'all don't have any gas.
All I can suggest is that it's most important for you to have a backup plan on somewhere to live if this is delayed. I cannot even begin to give suggestions about the financial stuff, but make sure you have somewhere to sleep!
You can always store your stuff.
Can you and your son crash at some friend's place for a month if necessary? Will your landlord allow you to stay where you are until this blows over?
Your aunt - can she stay with your brother for a while if she cannot stay with you?
I cannot believe how twisted this has become for you. It's like you're almost there and they keep moving the finish line! Not Right!
oh mgl, I wish I could say anything that made you feel better. What a fuckery of a summer. I don't know if it helps but my mom (who's on permanent disability/fixed income) recently went thru almost the exact same angst trying to get out of the (rented) farm that's been falling down around her ears for the past 30 years or so. And I felt like a helpless buffoon because I'm in no position to do anything for her; I can barely keep a roof over my own head.
I don't know if you can take heart from the fact that after over a year of thrashing and whoops-wait-no-we-aren't-actually-going-to-sign-the-contract games from the banks and owners and HUD inspection bullshit and so on, she finally (finally!) got a low-income mortgage and a house she could both afford and wasn't too tremendously problematic with all the shit that had to do with closing. It took A.G.E.S. and the process was similarly stressful to the one you've been going through.
I really hope it all works out. hugs and gentle whuffles to you and yours.
Oh MGL, if you lived closer, I'd put you up here and pamper the hell out of you until it all got sorted out. But you're far away, so all I can do is send my good thoughts. I hope it all works out soon.
Thanks, y'all. I still don't know what to do. I was hoping some kind of magical solution would come to me overnight but it has not. Right now I'm thinking that I'll call up and beg my landlord to let me stay another month and I'll leave my aunt at my mother's house which I think I can get away with for at least two weeks and maybe the whole month and then I'll call the real estate lady and say, look, you have one week to fix this and if it isn't fixed I want my earnest money back and I'm suing all of you for damages.
Oh mgl, I feel awful about the rough times you've been having lately (I've been reading your blog). I have no advice so I'm just gonna send happy, closing thoughts your way and hope the Gods/Universe/Whatever realize what giant ass-hats they're being.
Happy thoughts to you Sweetpea!