About the question that got deleted in my AskMe thread:
I can understand the reason for the deletion (yeah, on trying to read it again the next morning, it did sound like a pretty rambly, unclear
post) but I did come away with something which I've noticed that's different everytime something like this comes up...
[More:]Are the men over here wrong to think the way they do in regards to their perceptions of manhood?
a small example would be the first few months in my new school: a guy had just taken a picture of my sister with his camera without asking her for her permission [yes--over here you can't just go around taking random shots of people around the streets if you'd like], and when it was brought to my attention I obviously reacted to it in the way that I was raised to react to it: it's okay I said--it's just a picture... after all that is the way I had been brought up to react to such situations by what the enlightened American Culture had taught me; women are free to take care of themselves and it's not the man's responsibility.
But you know what--my fellow classmates didn't see it that way; they thought I was a wuss, and asked me to go and wear a pair of ear-rings on my lobes (an insult to my manhood I would later realize) because as they saw it, a guy who couldn't take care of his sister--wasn't a guy at all.
And you know what--that was the whole point: did my sister really need taking care of... ? (According to the reaction that I got from her that day--yes. She felt good when the rest of the guys went and confronted the boy who'd taken her picture, and demanded for its deletion. She felt, safe I think, and me--I didn't feel like I'd done anything to help her in her time of need.)