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21 July 2008

I feel so confused. Four weeks ago I realized my roommate had cancer. She didn't want to let on. →[More:]

She revealed she was starting chemotherapy. Two Fridays ago her doctors said it would not work. That week I was at my boyfriend's. I didn't know. Her friend told me last Monday. Her friends and family wouldn't let me see her. Wednesday they flew her home to China. Then I saw her. She couldn't move half of herself. My roommate, who would study in her room all day and suddenly appearing in the hall, frightening me. Who told me about being a teaching assistant; I told her about being an administrator. She's in China in a hospice.

post by: halonine at: 11:31 | 30 comments

jesus halo, I'm sorry, what a huge shock.

(((halonine)))

posted by lonefrontranger 21 July | 11:35

I am so sorry, halonine. *hug*

posted by BoringPostcards 21 July | 11:37

Oh no, I'm sorry halonine. That's full-on. *hugs*

posted by gaspode 21 July | 11:38

Wow. That's hard to get yourself around. I've got a hug for you too.

posted by rainbaby 21 July | 11:43

The suddeness of it certainly makes it harder to deal with; that's an awful lot to take in.

posted by Specklet 21 July | 11:47

Thank you guys. Thanks.

posted by halonine 21 July | 11:47

So very sorry. That's a lot to take in. Hugs.

posted by arse_hat 21 July | 11:52

I'm so sorry, halonine.

posted by initapplette 21 July | 12:00

How terrible. Sending my best thoughts your way.

posted by mightshould 21 July | 12:01

My sympathies, halonine.

posted by me3dia 21 July | 12:15

Stay strong, halonine. Keep breathing.

Big hugs.

posted by Hugh Janus 21 July | 12:40

Wow, that sucks. I am sure she would appreciate a card from you describing those memories that you just told us though~

posted by rmless2 21 July | 12:44

(((((halo))))))

posted by chewatadistance 21 July | 12:47

Whuffles and hugs, halonine.

posted by lysdexic 21 July | 12:49

That's horrible, halo. Let the Chicago bunnies know if there's anything we can do to help.

posted by eamondaly 21 July | 13:13

Yikes. Big hug.

posted by mudpuppie 21 July | 13:48

Oh, halonine, I'm so sorry. The suddenness makes it hit so much harder.

I wish I could say more than: I'm so sorry.

posted by Elsa 21 July | 13:53

That's tough, halo. I am sorry to hear it.

posted by crush-onastick 21 July | 14:03

halonine, this must be a terrible shock for you. I'm so sorry.

posted by LoriFLA 21 July | 14:23

How awful halonine.

*hugs*

posted by gomichild 21 July | 15:25

I'm so sorry to hear that. What a terrible way to find out. I hope that she's comfortable, and that you have the chance to talk to her.

posted by charleena 21 July | 17:11

You have my hugs and sympathies, too. Cancer can be devastating and shocking in its relentlessness.

This sounds so much like how cancer hit my mother. Broken arm in September; diagnosis of metastatic cancer when the arm didn't heal by Thanksgiving; motor difficulties within three days of the diagnosis. She died at Christmas of the small but badly-located metastasis in her brain.

Again, my hugs and sympathies, because this is so hard to witness.

posted by lleachie 21 July | 17:27

I'm so sorry....this is indeed hard.

posted by bunnyfire 21 July | 18:40

Wow..Just, wow. I'm so so sorry to hear of this, halonine. Cancer sucks.

posted by redvixen 21 July | 19:42

Oh no. I'm so sorry.

posted by tangerine 22 July | 00:55

I'm so sorry to hear that Halonine

posted by hadjiboy 22 July | 03:32

How sad and shocking, halonine. I've no doubt that if she had taken you into confidence, you would have been an excellent support. I agree that it might do you both good to write a card. So sorry.

posted by Miko 22 July | 07:55

Thanks again, everyone. You're the best and I love you all. I'll write her a card. Your description is so true, lleachie. I feel like I just can't understand something that's so cruelly slow and fast at the same time.

posted by halonine 22 July | 18:58

Odd, awkward, there's no knowing what one should do.
Be hopeful and kind. It works in many situations.

posted by ethylene 22 July | 19:14

*hugs*

posted by brujita 23 July | 16:51

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