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21 February 2008

Inspired by mgl's story... what elaborate wedding proposal would you like to receive?[More:]Note: It's okay to play even if you generally hate elaborate wedding proposals and don't want one. It's also okay to play if you have no plans to get married or already are married, or even if you already had an elaborate proposal. It's just a fun topic. I read an article recently that, as a cultural ritual, the proposing thing has really grown in recent years. I also heard a (more disturbing) story from a friend in the Midwest that asking someone to the prom has become a similarly elaborate ritual, where people do all sorts of set-ups and surprises to ask the person of their choice. And that's just to a dance. For some reason, contemporary folk find it more important than ever to make huge, visble gestures..but I digress.
Skywriting.
posted by JanetLand 21 February | 13:34
I always pictured my dream proposal a lot like the [spoiler alert]























scene in Coupling, when Patrick asks Sally to marry him. It made me laugh and cry simultaneously.
posted by crush-onastick 21 February | 13:40
I love how my husband proposed to me, so I'll share it here:

At the time, he was big into building model airplanes. For my birthday, I asked him for a model of the Red Baron's plane.

My birthday arrives, he comes over to my apartment with the model, and three figurines (2 crew members and the Red Baron). He hands me the crew members one at a time, which I then unwrap. As he hands me the Red Baron, he says "be careful unwrapping this one" and drops the box that had held the plane and figurines.

My engagement ring is around the Red Baron's neck. I look at the soon-to-be-Mr. Lucinda, and he's on one knee.
posted by Lucinda 21 February | 13:43
That's an original one! How awesome!

For me, since I'm a huge beach bum, I always thought it'd be fun to be laying on the beach in summer, and see a proposal on one of those banner-towing planes that buzz the shore.

Of course I would need to be nudged in order to notice it, and then it would be hard to convince it was directed at me, and not some other person with my name.
posted by Miko 21 February | 14:05
My sweetie (voyagermo) and I proposed to each other while half-asleep after hinting to each other at That Irish Shop in Des Moines over claddagh rings. The only thing that would have made it PERFECT, in retrospect, is if he'd have bought the ring for me that day, in the shop, then dropped down to one knee. But that wouldn't be MY sweetie -- he's such an introvert.

We DID buy the rings (each of us got one) the next day.
posted by lleachie 21 February | 14:24
A friend of mine was camping with her boyfriend when he popped the question. The only problem was that the whole trip had gone wrong - it had rained the whole time, there were horrible mosquitoes, there were food issues - you know, all the bad camping trip stuff that can ever happen happened to them in those four days. So it's the last day and it is of course, raining, and he says, from the edge of the lake, kneeling, "Honey, please come out of the tent, I have something for you," because he had planned it to be this very romantic sunset proposal. And my friend, without looking, crossly said, "Is it chocolate? Because unless it's chocolate I am not ever coming out of this tent again."

I have loved this story for years. And yes, they did get married and AFAIK they are still.

Personally, I am not going to think how I would like to be proposed to because it feels like a jinx somehow. As long as it doesn't contain any iteration of the words "pregnant" or "baby" or "guess we have to, huh?" I'll be happy. If it ever happens. And, actually, if it doesn't happen? I'll still be happy.
posted by mygothlaundry 21 February | 14:26
I can't remember how or who actually popped the question. I think that we got married sort of by default. We were considering having a child, and, at the time, we needed to be married, to be covered (it ended up costing $15 out of pocket to have a c-section birth/private room, etc).

Anyway, it just sorta drifted that way, and all I remember is discussing the details.
posted by danf 21 February | 14:27
I want the whole thing spelled out across a football field in hundred dollar bills. Or diamonds. That I get to keep.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 21 February | 14:42
OOO or Doritos.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 21 February | 15:08
God, I hope it's Doritos, TPS. Nothing is more romantic than a sparkly diamond on an orange-stained finger.
posted by jrossi4r 21 February | 15:15
You'd be amazed what Brit Hume will say when there's a gun to his head.

Bury ring in sand, she finds the ring later when we go scavenging with the his and her's metal detectors I got us earlier. As she looks up to find me, I'm down the beach a bit, on bended knee, clutching my Windbreaker and shouting "let's get old together".

Provide ring to her OBGyn, and at the right moment he goes "What the...?" and raises the ring. That's when the doors to the supply closet "accidentally" come open, where she finds me on bended knee.

Send her the link to "(her name)willyoumarryme.com", with 90s-era graphics showing me on bended me and "yes", "no", "maybe" radio buttons below. If she clicked "yes", it'd go to an animation of me dancing and being happy. If she clicked "no" or "maybe", she'd get directed to the "Weighing pro's and cons" page (see below). Navigation would be "Login" "About Me", "FAQ" (with questions like "What the hell is wrong with you?", "How is a proposal website romantc?", etc.) "Why? Weighing the pros and cons" (would have an animated interactive scale allowing her to drag wedding ring icons with personal factoids about me ("$55,000/year w/ benefits", "not afraid to do dishes", "makes dumb websites", "not sports-crazy", "not too wild about your mother") onto either side of the scale.

Holy crap, it exists (or will). Why am I not too surprised?
posted by Hellbient 21 February | 15:26
Looks like the site did exist- the copyright is through 2002, and the links on the page are broken.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 21 February | 15:46
Our proposal took place on a balcony in the French Quarter in New Orleans, which is not quite as romantic as it sound, since it was the balcony of our apartment where we had been living together in an unmarried state for quite some time - and neither of us is quite sure who actually proposed. We take turns blaming each other/taking the credit.

For me, the perfect surprise proposal would probably be to have a bookmark printed (or just make one), and use it to secretly replace whatever sales receipt/take-out menu flyer/torn scrap of paper/electric bill envelope/toothpick/dog-ear that I have marking my place in my book of the moment.
posted by taz 21 February | 16:10
It should involve small_ruminants. Goats maybe, or possibly new world camelids.

/is not actually intending to marry.
posted by small_ruminant 21 February | 16:17
Well to answer the question directly: If I had a gf who was taking part in the Vagina Monologues, I would like for her to work a proposal into her monologue, on opening night.

Hopefully it would be to the effect that because of the positive effect I have on her vagina, etc. etc. If she mentioned my name, all the better.

(If gf drew the "Coochie Snorcher" monologue, all bets are off. Then it should happen at dinner, afterwards.)
posted by danf 21 February | 16:26
danf, as someone who just did "My Vagina was my Valley" in this year's local Monologues (see earlier note), I praise you for your choice. (Although MVwmV isn't any better to work the proposal in. She'd really have to do it as a "Vagina Happy Fact", or maybe during "Say and Wear".)
posted by lleachie 21 February | 19:57
All's I know is I have always wanted to do a live dove release from under my wedding dress.
posted by Mrs.Pants 22 February | 12:17
Radio b - Sleep Deprivation Is Not A "Lifestyle Choice" || This is all very sad.

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