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20 December 2007

Oh God, bunnies. It's finally happened. →[More:]The rift is complete, the connection sundered. The amicable divorce is no longer so amicable. While I was downstairs listening to Frank, she was upstairs plotting my downfall. I've been booted from my house, the one I pay the mortgage on. My clothes are in my car. My books are....well, maybe she'll let me come get them tomorrow. She's gonna scream when I take my cat. MY CAT. Not her cat. This is so stupid and profane and unnecessary and sad and GYOFB, BOP.

She's a cold-hearted bitch and it didn't hafta be this way.

I need major hugs, peeps.

post by: BitterOldPunk at: 05:59 | 49 comments

(((bop)))

posted by MonkeyButter 20 December | 06:14

Oh, man. I'm so sorry, BOP!

{{{{{{{{bop}}}}}}}}

posted by taz 20 December | 06:55

(((((bop)))))

posted by gomichild 20 December | 07:10

I'm sorry.

posted by essexjan 20 December | 07:27

((((B O P)))))

posted by chewatadistance 20 December | 07:33

So so sorry.

major(((((bop)))))major

posted by mightshould 20 December | 07:46

*extra hugs with hug sauce* I'm sorry. :(

posted by headspace 20 December | 07:51

What they said.

Dang, that's cold, man.

posted by bunnyfire 20 December | 07:59

(Hey, legally CAN she boot you from your own house? I would check on that, friend. If your name is on the mortgage, I think she may have overstepped her legal bounds.)

posted by bunnyfire 20 December | 08:00

Legal has little to do with it, unfortunately.

*Punches BOP on the arm in a blokey sort of way*

Aw, who am I kidding?

{{{{{BOP}}}}}

posted by GeckoDundee 20 December | 08:03

[[[BoP]]] (those are manly, back-slapping hugs, don't you know).

I can make a voodoo doll of her, you know.

posted by muddgirl 20 December | 08:11

Jeez, I'm sorry, BOP.

posted by box 20 December | 08:13

Gosh that's awful BOP. Sorry!

posted by rainbaby 20 December | 08:35

Aw man, BOP. I'm really sorry.

posted by gaspode 20 December | 08:48

Well, fuck. That sucks. Sorry, man.

posted by chuckdarwin 20 December | 08:51

I wouldn't leave until you get a lawyer on the phone. If you vacate the property she'll have a better case for keeping it, and all in it, once the divorce goes through.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, divorce can really suck.

posted by kellydamnit 20 December | 08:52

((((((((((((((((((((((((((Bitteroldpunk)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

posted by drezdn 20 December | 09:33

When I was in the divorce process, my soon-to-be ex swore out a complaint with law enforcement that I had physically attacked her (completely and utterly false) and that she feared for her safety as a result.

Later that night, uniformed sheriff's deputies came with a warrant to remove me from the house. I had no choice ... I had to leave. I had to live in a motel room for three weeks until the court hearing.

At the hearing, I was completely exonerated because she made the whole thing up. The judge said I could move back to the house, but after the awful experience I was ready to move on and expedite the divorce.

The point of the story is that anything can happen whether it is legally valid, or not. Divorce sucks.

Hang in there Punk.

posted by netbros 20 December | 09:38

Oh, man, that's awful. So sorry, BOP!!

posted by BoringPostcards 20 December | 09:47

{[(([{Bitteroldpunk}])}])

Hang in there, good luck, words of support. This is quite a bad week for this stuff--I'll be moving out of my house this weekend :-( The papers haven't been filed yet but I'm pretty sure it's just a matter of time. Anyways if you need a commiserator, count me in for it.

posted by Joe Invisible 20 December | 10:10

Hugs.

posted by ethylene 20 December | 10:49

Oh man, that sucks. I'm thinking of you brother.

posted by Divine_Wino 20 December | 10:54

Wow. That sucks hard. I'm so sorry--it's awful when things go from chilly to red-hot nastiness.

(((BitterOldPunk)))

posted by elizard 20 December | 11:08

ugh.

hug!

posted by pokermonk 20 December | 11:17

I am so sorry, BitterOldPunk.

*hugs*

posted by initapplette 20 December | 11:29

(((((((HUGS)))))))

posted by viachicago 20 December | 11:30

((((hugs!)))) So sorry, BOP.

posted by small_ruminant 20 December | 11:35

So sorry, BOP. Hope things get better for you soon.

You too, Joe Invisible.

posted by Hellbient 20 December | 11:36

Oh man. Big hugs to BOP and Joe Invisible.

posted by jrossi4r 20 December | 11:37

(((BOP))) That's stinky. I think you need to find a stereo to blast Smash Crash by the Fleshtones at volume 11, you bitter old punk you.

(((JF))) & ***JF***

posted by getoffmylawn 20 December | 11:50

shit, man.

[[[[[[bop]]]]]]

posted by dismas 20 December | 11:56

EEEE!!! *hugs*

posted by brujita 20 December | 12:14

If you're near Vegas, my couch is empty.

posted by mischief 20 December | 12:22

Sorry pal :-(

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 20 December | 12:24

((((BOP))) and (((Joe))) too.

posted by rhapsodie 20 December | 12:25

: ( BOP and Joe

posted by halonine 20 December | 13:36

*sad frog*

christ on a leash guys, I am so sorry! You both get a couple extra runs thru the Hug Machine^TM.

((((([[[[[[[[[[[bop & JI]]]]]]]]]]])))))

We got a whole basement guest suite setup out here in Denvah if you guys feel the need for some R&R with skis on.

posted by lonefrontranger 20 December | 13:56

Hugs, BOP.

posted by occhiblu 20 December | 14:34

Geez, dude. Sending good vibes your way.

Oh, and hugs too!

posted by ooga_booga 20 December | 14:36

Oh, man, that sucks. All those bad possibilities listed up there? Been there, done that. Unless there are kids involved who will get hurt, you should fight to the bitter end to get your fair share, even though it's incredibly stressful and somewhat risky for males, if your ex has a mean streak and doesn't mind using it. It's not about the money or possessions, it's about what's right and fair.

Please accept this manly hug and a few slaps on the back as a sign of support. Keep your chin up and fight for what's right.

posted by dg 20 December | 16:14

Ah hon, so sorry. Divorce SUCKS and I wish I could come up with a more poignant and amusing way to say that but alas, the only damn good thing about the process is the wealth of evil tales you get to spin some five years down the road and frankly, that's just not much of a silver lining. However, wait, there are more silver linings, maybe not to the process but definitely to the end of it all. To wit: bad relationships are horrible; they are no fun; you don't even sometimes realize how miserable you've been until it's over and when it's all, all over - yeah, years, yeah, I know - you do realize that you're SO much better off, SO much happier and the world is a bigger, better and brighter place with wider horizons than you thought it was before.

*mygothlaundry is roughly 12 years past her divorce and pretty clear on the fact that it was one of the best things that ever happened although at the time, jesus, it was unbelievably awful.*

posted by mygothlaundry 20 December | 16:15

Lots of hugs, BitterOldPunk. Hope things get better and easier!

(((BitterOldPunk)))

posted by Sil 20 December | 16:19

Yeah, listen to the laundry lady, she knows. Depending on how things pan out from here, you might not be at the bottom yet, but you're pretty close, so things won't get much worse before they start getting better. A whole new world of possibilities awaits you out there.

posted by dg 20 December | 16:22

Yep, mgl nailed it, but meanwhile, you have to move. It's rotten, I'm so sorry.

posted by theora55 20 December | 17:09

Ugh, what a mess, BOP and now Joe too.

I'm so sorry.

posted by tangerine 20 December | 17:13

(((BitterOldPunk & Joe Invisible)))

posted by deborah 20 December | 17:51

.....aaaaand then the power goes out all day. And I have a flat in the rain. And Mom discovers (or rather, re-re-discovers) my cellphone number and calls me every ten minutes demanding "her car back" though she hasn't driven in almost two years.

*sigh*

You almost hafta smile, you know? If I take a step back, I can totally see this as slapstick. Today was a perfect storm.

But I've had time to reflect and you know what? It's like going to the dentist. You now it's going to happen and you know it's going to suck and then it happens and MAN you were right it sure did suck but now the hardest part is over and all that's left is waiting for the wounds to heal.

And lying on the sofa in a narcotized haze. Drooling a little.

Thanks for the whuffles, y'all!

And cheers, Joe. I'm right there with you, man.

posted by BitterOldPunk 20 December | 18:45

If you're near Vegas, my couch is empty.

Ditto Vermont, chilly guestroom. I am sorry about all this.

posted by jessamyn 20 December | 23:51

Sorry to hear, BOP...

Lo the many years ago, my now ex-husband and I tried to stay under the same roof for awhile while getting divorced. It ended one rainy night when I knocked a hole in the wall with a souvenier alligator head. He packed a bag and got the hell out. Can't say I blamed him.

We're both happily remarried now. Not that you're in the mood to think about that, I imagine.

Hope you feel better... as better as able, anyways.

posted by Pips 21 December | 21:23

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