This is a pissed off thread. →[More:]I have these two friends, G and A, who are mother and daughter. I've known them for 8, 9 years or so, through AA, they're both in recovery. G used to live about 1/2 mile away and whenever she visited me, she used to say "if ever a ground floor flat comes up for sale here, let me know". Well, one did come up for sale, and she moved in about a year ago, just across the street. We aren't in one another's pockets, but we go to AA meetings together, have dinner together once a week, coffee a couple of times a week, we help each other out with shopping, domestic stuff that might need two people, etc.

I did my scuba training with A, we roomed together on dive weekends to Stoney Cove, a UK dive site, spent a lot of time together, got to know each other pretty well. She moved down to Surrey (about 70 miles from here) about 2 years ago when she met her now-fiance, but we keep in touch through emails and on the phone, meet up from time to time when we're both in London on the same day, and when her mum moved across the street, I see her when she visits, she calls in on me too.

Whenever G goes down to Surrey to visit A, I feed her cats for her. For a while after A got engaged at Christmas all the talk was wedding this, wedding that, dresses, rings, cakes, bridesmaids, etc. It was obviously going to be the wedding of the year, A's talked for years before she met her fiance about how she imagines her wedding day to be. Bridezilla, I think the phrase is.

Then, after a few weeks of non-stop wedding talk from both G and A, whenever I asked how the planning was going, it'd be all "oh, it's just going to be a small ceremony, just family" and generally evasive answers about whether they'd fixed a date. I thought maybe A and fiance were having second thoughts.

So, a couple of weeks ago G asked me if I could feed the cats for her over a few different dates. She emailed me the dates. It was last weekend, this weekend and the weekend after. Yes fine, no problem. She'll look in on my cats when I'm in NYC.

I was just talking on the phone to another friend who also knows both G and A, and she said how much she'd enjoyed last weekend and was looking forward to the next two weekends. It turns out that last weekend there was a 'spa day' for the bridal party, this weekend is the 'hen weekend' to Ireland (bachelorette party) and next weekend is the wedding. This friend said "I know it takes a great weight of G's mind that you're there to feed the cats for her."

I phoned another friend after that, someone who I know is acquainted with G and A, but who isn't a close friend of theirs. She's going. It turns out that the wedding is huge, and just about everyone in our circle has been invited. The only conclusions I can draw are either that I haven't been asked because if I went on the hen weekend and to the wedding (which is in Surrey) there'd be nobody available to feed the cats or they don't want me there (or both).

This sounds like really whiny shit, but I'm both angry and hurt.