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24 August 2006

Do not ever make the mistake of thinking things cannot get worse. They most certainly can. →[More:] We got home from vacation to be told that my youngest son is dead. I really have no words.

post by: arse_hat at: 23:44 | 61 comments

My heart must be with you 'cause it just left my chest.

posted by pointilist 24 August | 23:50

Good God, I'm so sorry to hear that.

posted by lekvar 24 August | 23:51

Oh, no. I'm so very sorry. My heart goes out to you, arse_hat...any other words seem inadequate.

posted by elizard 24 August | 23:55

Jesus, no words here either.

Can't express how sorry I am, arse_hat. Know that we're here for you.

posted by mudpuppie 24 August | 23:55

Oh my god. Oh my god. Arsey, there's no way type on a screen can convey my sorrow for you. I'm weeping, and I feel utterly sick and frozen, and so, so sorry that I can't help even the tiniest bit. If there's anything at all, ever, any of us can do for you, know we're here.

posted by taz 25 August | 00:00

Jesus, that's awful. I don't know what to say, but I really hope you and your family get through this with as little pain as possible.

posted by GeckoDundee 25 August | 00:00

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.

posted by occhiblu 25 August | 00:03

posted by me3dia 25 August | 00:26

I am so sorry. If there is anything we can do, please let us know. Bunnies were there for me when I needed them last year, big time. Not just pixels on a screen.

posted by essexjan 25 August | 00:30

I am so so sorry. Damn. So sorry, arse_hat. I can't begin to imagine.

posted by small_ruminant 25 August | 00:31

Anything I can do for you, stranger, let me know. In three years, I lost my closest uncle, my grandmother, and my father. If I can be any comfort or conversation to you, let me know. Until then, my best.

posted by Eideteker 25 August | 00:34

posted by mullacc 25 August | 00:38

I'm so, so sorry. My deepest sympathies.

posted by viachicago 25 August | 00:50

I don't even know what to say to a parent in a situation like this, except that I'm sorry and that you have my utter sympathy.

If there's a charity we could donate to in his memory, I'm sure some of us could swing that. Please let us know when you get a chance.

posted by trondant 25 August | 00:57

What a heartbreaking shock - this is desperately sad. My condolences to you & your family.

posted by misteraitch 25 August | 01:14

I'm so sorry.

posted by fluffy battle kitten 25 August | 01:18

Arse_hat, I'm shocked and saddened as we all are - losing a child is a terrible blow. Let us know what we can do and stay in touch with us here, if it can be of any help at all. Bless you all right now. So sorry, so sorry.

posted by Miko 25 August | 01:24

This is the worst of news arse_hat. My condolences go to you and your family. Other people have said it, but if there's anything you need, please ask.

posted by seanyboy 25 August | 02:13

Our thoughts are with you during this time of terrible dislocation and grief.

posted by orthogonality 25 August | 03:18

Oh, arse_hat. I'm so sorry.

posted by tangerine 25 August | 03:40

To know you're going through so much heartbreak at the moment makes me very sad and my thoughts are with you.

I would offer my help to you at any time, in the same way that you've always offered me help and advice. That offer stands now more than ever.

All the best.

posted by dodgygeezer 25 August | 03:48

Sorry for your loss. May a stream of treasured memories come wafting to you on tomorrow's morning light.

posted by PlanetKyoto 25 August | 04:58

Oh arse_hat, I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine what you're feeling right now.

posted by flopsy 25 August | 06:02

Deepest condolences, arse. So very sorry.

posted by mike9322 25 August | 06:50

arse_hat, I'm so very, very sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts; I'll do my best to keep y'all in the light.

posted by mygothlaundry 25 August | 07:03

posted by quonsar 25 August | 07:08

arse_hat: my deepest condolences - god, he's the same age as my brother...

...if there's anything at all we can do, we're here for you.

posted by muddgirl 25 August | 07:22

There is nothing good enough to say at a time like this. I am so sorry. This is every parent's worst nightmare.

We're here for you.

posted by bunnyfire 25 August | 07:29

God. You're in my heart and thoughts, arse. I echo others in the offer of support in whatever capacity you need. I'm so sorry.

posted by chewatadistance 25 August | 07:32

.

I wish there were anything I could say to ease your shock and grief. We're all thinking of you.

It's a strange ol' world, things happen, and please remember there are no would'ves, no blames, no should'ves, no faults or could'ves, however much our minds try to convince us there are.

Please take care of yourself.

posted by shane 25 August | 07:50

Yes, we're all definitely here for you.

posted by JanetLand 25 August | 07:58

Words fail.

But you are not alone.

posted by tommasz 25 August | 08:03

Oh my god, arse_hat. I just stopped breathing for about a minute.

My sincere condolences.

posted by gaspode 25 August | 08:04

Please accept my heart felt condolences.

posted by getoffmylawn 25 August | 08:33

Jesus. I don't know what to say. I am SO sorry. I can't even begin to imagine the agony you're going through right now.

posted by iconomy 25 August | 09:00

Oh, dear --- I'm so sorry, so very sorry. My thoughts are with you and yours.

posted by Elsa 25 August | 09:43

Damn. Sad News. Condolences to you and your family.

posted by jonmc 25 August | 09:44

I'm so sorry arse_hat. My condolences. My thougts are with you today.

posted by Hellbient 25 August | 09:47

I can't even imagine. I'm so sorry for your loss.

posted by Pips 25 August | 10:08

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

posted by TrishaLynn 25 August | 10:19

All my love, anything you need.

posted by Divine_Wino 25 August | 10:22

I don't know what to say except that I'm so very sorry to hear about this. My heart goes out to you and your family.

posted by Specklet 25 August | 10:44

Man, my boss just came by my desk and I burst into tears. I'm so sorry, arse_hat.

posted by Specklet 25 August | 10:46

I hope voices don't get lost in the chorus arse_hat. I am so very sorry to hear this. My god, what terrible news. I am having a hard time even thinking of what to say, except I am glad that this place exists so we can hopefully buoy your spirits a little as you wade your way through this sadness.

Good thoughts aimed your way.

posted by richat 25 August | 10:58

I'm so sorry to hear this, arse_hat, and my thoughts are with you and your family.

posted by altolinguistic 25 August | 12:24

posted by safetyfork 25 August | 13:53

I rarely comment here, but my thoughts are with you and your family. Look after each other.

I lost a brother last year, and I know it's not the same as a son but I have so much sympathy for you.

posted by tracicle 25 August | 14:46

posted by stynxno 25 August | 15:49

So sorry to hear this, you have my deepest sympathies. My heart goes out to you and your family.

posted by eekacat 25 August | 16:41

Oh my God, I'm so sorry! I can think of nothing to say. You are in my heart and thoughts.

posted by redvixen 25 August | 17:05

posted by rainbaby 25 August | 17:31

I'm so sorry. If there's anything i can do to make this time a little more bearable for you, please don't hesitate to ask.

posted by ramix 25 August | 17:55

how terribly shocking and sad - my most sincere condolences, arse_hat

posted by madamjujujive 25 August | 20:04

I'm so very sorry. What a beautiful son. I feel for your loss.

posted by theora55 25 August | 20:55

another repeat of deepest condolences
can't imagine
love to you and your family

posted by lilywing13 25 August | 22:25

My heart goes out to your family. I'm so deeply, deeply sorry.

posted by scody 26 August | 02:01

posted by ubersturm 26 August | 09:16

Thank you for your notes here and via e-mail.

It's just nice to hear something from outside my high walls. I am just trying to deal with arrangements and be solid for my girlfriend, ex-wife and my son David. I would really rather go destroy something and then go curl up in a ball in a dark place.

Here is the notice.

posted by arse_hat 26 August | 10:33

Arsehat - I'm up in Vancouver now, visiting Elizard, Zak and Porp and am just now getting this message. Please let me know if you need anything, to talk, whatever. Contact me via e-mail and I will be happy to talk, give you a call, whatever you need.

Everyone on this channel is with you right now, and we will always be. Lean on us, man. We're all here for you and your family and will help get you through this time. Be strong and I'm glad you were reaching out for us. We'll walk together, you know what I mean?

Much love.

posted by Lipstick Thespian 26 August | 14:21

hugs to you and blessings, arse_hat.

posted by By the Grace of God 26 August | 15:59

posted by Zack_Replica 27 August | 13:23

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