Well, the ugly news is that because of that and my existing bills, I can't go to Vegas and I can't help organize and arrange the room accommodations either.

Can someone else step up and take my place, please?

Congrats on the fucktard freedom!

Bummer about Vegas!

And your ex won't let you find someone to sublet your space in the other apartment for August?

Her ex is a schlub, pinky.

Boooooooo. If he won't let her sublet her place, he should pay the whole rent himself.

Both the fucktard and my supercool other female roomate don't want a random stranger subletting the space for two months, which I can perfectly understand. I'm also losing my part of the deposit which they will get all of if there's no damage (there isn't) to take the place of September's rent. Besides, we're not allowed to sublet as part of our lease.

Between this and all of his recent petty behavior concerning my own damn car that I let him use and drive around because I'm a nice person, I am edging slowly into hating his fucking guts.

you want I should fuck him up?

And how would you do that? Without getting arrested? Because I'd hate to see that pretty white ass of your marred by Guido or Johnny the Knife.

Both the fucktard and my supercool other female roomate don't want a random stranger subletting the space for two months, which I can perfectly understand.

That's not really fair of them at all. Of course they should get a say in who's there, but sublets happen; that's part of the deal with having roommates. I really wouldn't just roll over on that one.

I mean, it's not even July yet. You have a fair amount of time to find someone that you all agree on.

occhiblu: Well, there's also this part: "Besides, we're not allowed to sublet as part of our lease."

man, this guy...first off, everyone's a stranger at first. You have every right to sublet (it's New York, it's in your contract upon entrance, forget the lease - it's two months). Find someone nice, have them over and introduce them to him. Maybe work out a deal that if something happens in that two month period, you'll take on some of the burden, since it is technically still your room, etc.
It reminds me of my friends that I invite to MetaFilter meetups - "but I don't know any of those people". My response: "well, I'll introduce you, then you'll know them". Ahh, forget it.

Secondly, whoever's coming in should pay you out your share of the security deposit.

Clean slate, clean slate,
Get your way,
Reduce the hate!

Ah dammit. I was really looking forward to meeting you. This means I'll have to come to NYC at some point now.

I don't live in New York, have never lived in New York, and am not a lawyer, but various perusals of applicable tenants' rights law would seem to indicate that the landlord is not allowed to refuse subleasing on principle, if the building has four or more apartments.

I understand not wanting to turn the whole thing into a legal battle, but it still seems like you're being screwed out of a lot of money here. Given the amount of shit it sounds like you've been putting up with from the ex, I know that I'd have kicked him in the shins -- at the very least -- for claiming that his "right" to not live with stranger somehow trumps my actual legal rights.

But I can be vindictive and annoying like that.

And there is, of course, something to be said for just getting out, regardless of the financial cost, because the emotional reward will be so great.

Just make sure you're choosing that option, I guess, rather than having it thrust upon you.

And there is, of course, something to be said for just getting out, regardless of the financial cost, because the emotional reward will be so great.

Oh hells, yes. It didn't get hellish for me living with him until I was in California for a dear friend's wake and learned that he brought his new girlfriend back to our apartment. I know we'd agreed that we could date other people after two months (which it was) but it still hurt to see a glowing report of her from my other roommate and not get some sort of warning from him first. Since then, it's been a back-and-forth battle of lost love and growing hatred, especially after I found out that he cheated on me. (Disclaimer: I cheated on him, too, so the two things kinda cancel each other out, but it still hurt.)

Just make sure you're choosing that option, I guess, rather than having it thrust upon you.

It's a combo of both. I hate him, but still like my other roommate and to keep my relationship with her on the upswing, I'll bite that bullet, lose my deposit, and hey--if I'm still paying rent for August and September, I can keep my keys and use the extra space as a place to store things until people buy them off of me!

*whistles* "Always look on the bright side of life....."

And btw, it sucks that THIS had to be my 100th post.

Sucks that you can't come :-(

Also sucks we can't crash your parent's time share..

Tell me 'bout it! The price and location are so right and it would have been like renting tiny apartments for the duration of the stay. HOW COOL WOULD THAT HAVE BEEN????

FOR THE LOVE OF GHU, CAN SOMEONE ELSE PLEASE STEP UP AND DO ROOM ORGANIZATION????

Time to update the wiki.

Hrm. I am very sorry to hear this TL! Mostly, of course, because you won't be there, but also because I know a lot of people (myself included) were factoring the $20/night lodging into their plans. I don't know how to say this without you feeling bad (and please don't, because it is certainly not your fault!), but I fear this is going to cause a lot of bow-outs if we can't find similarly priced accomodations.

I don't know much about group reservations in Vegas. I'll have to do some research or hope that someone who's done this before will speak up and offer suggestions.