All you really angry all the time? You've never seemed angry when you're online. My wife blows up at me for stupid reasons sometimes, but if she acknowledges her mistake later and forgives me when I make her blow up for good reasons, then it's pretty easy to get over it.

You should wish ColdChef a Happy Mortician's Day. That you make you both feel better.

I know exactly how you feel. Some days I feel I will implode from the angry demons that live in my chest. Lately though I've been more sad than angry. Although the anger is still there, I tend to respond with apathy and dejection now. I think its because the anger is getting tired of being repressed all the time.

Are you angry about something in particular?

I don't know why you are angry, but don't be too quick to chalk it up to a mood disorder. You may be confronted with wrongs and slights and disrespects that deserve a mighty wrath.

Sing. It's like stuttering -- you can stop being angry if you just start singing.

For me, being angry continually means I'm profoundly unhappy about something. I regain calm only when I've dealt with the thing(s) that make me unhappy. I'm not you, but were you me, that's what I'd do.

Dan: I really like talking to everyone in #bunnies but it's usually silent when I stop in. When can I chat with people?

Jan: I'm angry about many things, past and present. But being angry about them isn't helping me to do anything, so I want to kill it somehow. It's making me irrationally angry about irrelevent things, like spammers on my work forum that I administer.

Rainbaby: I have many justified wrongs and slights, but there is no justice for them. How can one get justice for things one's family did when the family won't acknowledge and you don't want to cut off all contact with them? How can one remove one's desire for justice?

Hugh: I'd love to sing. I had to give up singing when I moved here. I'm too busy campaigning to sing. I often sing when I'm alone. My other half isn't particularly interested in my singing. I do miss it and should look into it again.

bonehead: I've been profoundly unhappy my whole life and need to assess the capability of treatment to deal with it.

Thank you all for responding.

thanks lunaticfringe as well that's how I feel.

essexjan's bunny petting GIF is making me cry. I want a pet but we can't get one.

You can always go outside and sing to yourself for a few minutes, or sing in your head (hum along). No excuses! Sing, dammit! Sing!

By The Grace of God: We've talked privately about this before. Unbridled anger is an energy - best avoided. Remember my metaphor about how directly attacking an obstacle sometimes strengthens it?

Indeed, you have plenty of reason to be angry at all the injustice in the world which you feel so justifiably angry about, which you actually work and rail against like so few do.

But without balance it does nothing to further your hopes, your dreams or your work.

I don't mean to be flippant, but perhaps you should read Ghandi, or Pierre Teilhard Chardin, or even Lao Tzu's Art of War. (Remember, Lao Tzo is sometimes considered the founder of Taoism.)

This isn't some Yoda-humping Lucasisms, but anger usuallly works against you.

I believe you follow the philosophy of "do as little harm as possible"... I believe that you believe that your heart will be weighed against a feather, and that may be the only thing that matters...

That said, what are you angry at yourself about? Your peers? The world? Find it, deconstruct it, and come to terms with what you can actually change - without any fantasies. Work it. You're way more than smart enough, apply those critical thinking skills to yourself and your emotions about... everything if need be. And then just accept what you can and are willng and able to, and go from there. That's more than anyone can ever ask of you. Baby steps. Baby steps.

Be friends to those around you first and foremost. Make enemies and adversaries last.

Perfection and change and transformation won't happen quick enough for you, no matter the scenario.

Work within it. Baby steps. Seek peace. Stay in love.

This isn't political anger, loquacious. This is just normal personal stuff. I'm trying to get rid of the anger. that's what the post is about. Thanks for the time you put into your advice. I appreciate it.

The links and suggestions I provided even apply to personal stuff - and politics and self are almost intrinsically related. Where's it coming from? Why are you frustrated? Where's the dissatisfaction coming from?

Do you exercise? Meditate? Have a fun/relaxing hobby that can put your mind in a good place for several hours a day?

I used to be plagued with irrational anger (which I would of course rationalize, but that was all bullshit, the truth is I woke up angry and went around looking for something to hang it on.) I still have it sometimes, but way way less. Just getting older helps a lot.

Also, have you talked to a professional? If this is messing up your personal life and interfering with your job, and it sounds like it is, a professional may really be able to help. Think how good it would feel to drop this anger like a bad habit and be your happy self most of the time.

you can take it out on me.

BTGOG, the best time to be in IRC is usually around 9:30pm - 12:00am, EST, if you mean when things are really hopping in there (get it? hopping? bunnies?). But I tend to prefer the later night chats with the central and west coast bunnies, that would be the same time range, only their time. I have no idea where you live, but there you have it.

She lives in Scotland. I've seen Eurobunnies on IRC at "unconventional" (for North Americans) times of day, though, and I think it's just a matter of taking the chance to be the first one there and make an FPP to see if anyone wants to join you.

This is probably too personal to but:

When I get that way I HAVE to go sit someplace like the beach for as long as it takes for reality to sit it, and that reality is that we are all ground squirrels on a great big planet and we can't control everything- just our little, pointless colony, if that. It sounds like it would be depressing, but it's very liberating.

When I'm not next to something natural that's bigger than me(ocean, redwoods, mountains)and instead am in the city and online, I feel obliged to DO something about everything, which I resent and which makes me furious at how helpless I am over my life. Which I'm not, particularly- just the usual amount.

So the take away lesson here, is: "I am a ground squirrel! I am a ground squirrel!"

OK, no. That's just me. The take away lesson is to get away to whereever it takes to put our puny human existence into perspective.

It's just that ground squirrels seem very self-important.

small_ruminant, I *love* that, and I totally feel the same way when I get to the ocean, but I had never ever in my life ever heard of a "ground squirrel" before. I had to go look them up.

hee.

Dude! Lynx? There's your problem right there.

elinks is waaay better.

Grace, I can't give any better advice than already given upthread. Just know I'm thinking about you and hope you find what you need.

Meditation. Brethe in slowly, and as you breathe out, consciously release physical tension in your feet, then your ankles, etc, and do this for your whole body. Imagine, as you breathe, that with every breath in, you are filled with light, and for every breath out, angry energy is leaving your body from the top of your head.

Learn to let it go and see other people in a more positive light. I recently had a big disappointment, where a bureaucrat used his power to behave in a petty and mean way. I wrote an angry letter to his boss, because I want the behavior to change, did a lot of ranting, which involved arm waving and swearing, and now I'm getting to where I recognize that it's beyond my control, and it's time to move on.

Anger eats at you, so the more you see anger as something toxic you don't want to have, the better, as opposed to that delicious feeling of righteousness anger can give you. Recognizing that you want to change is huge, and asking for help is even bigger. *meta-hug*