Attempting the "friendship with the ex" thing →[More:]So, he broke up with me (yes, in an email!) last October, and after a couple of months of yelling/crying on the phone or in email, we decided not to talk to each other for a while, because of the usual "let's step back a bit" reasons, but also because he's going through a massive depression (see: reason for the break-up) and needed to deal with that. He emailed me today and says he thinks he's ready to talk.
Now, I adore the guy. Things got shitty towards the end, and I'm kicking myself for not breaking up with him months before he broke it off, but he's a good guy and I miss hanging out with him. The dude makes me laugh.
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think I've dealt with the bulk of my reaction to the break up, but I also haven't seen him since then, so I really don't know how I'll react to that. He wants to get together because we've both moved and now live about five minutes walking distance from each other, and given that we were dating for about a year and a half, predictably have the same hang-out spots. If we don't plan it, we'll run into each other on the street and not be expecting it. We also have mutual friends who just announced that they're having their first kid in August, and I'd like to clear the air and have things normal(ish) by the time the baby comes, so that we can go over and help out and not have to worry about making things awkward.
This was my only significant dating relationship so far. I haven't done the big break-up before, and I certainly haven't tried to be friends with an ex. Any advice? Things to watch for? Can it be done? Should I avoid talking about the ex-relationship, and just try to build a new one? I'm pretty sick of yelling.
Help me, MeCha! Tell me your stories of woe and hope! Or alternately: take me out for beer and assure me that I will have sex again someday!