YAAAAAAAAAAAAAY congratulations!

That's awesome! Congrats krix!

I loved my wedding. I want to divorce my husband just so we can get married again. It was so much fun. (Plus, it's been 10 years and we could use more free stuff.)

My advice? Don't micromanage it. I think I enjoyed my day so much because we had the reception at a beautiful restaurant that handled the centerpieces, cake etc. I didn't give a rat's ass about that stuff, so I was happy to not have to coordinate a baker, florist, etc. YMMV.

Oh...and tell us all about the question poppage! How did he ask? Where you surprised?

YAAAAAAAYYYY! Tip: If you are going to have a wedding ceremony in a field or meadow, check with the next farm over to ensure they aren't planning to mow the adjacent field during the ceremony.

Or the annual cow manure-off.

OMG YAY! BUNNY LOVE!!!!

Congratulations!!!

The important thing is. . .well you have to decide what the important things (about the wedding) are. . and . . um. . .also accept that your plans will change or not go as you envisioned. . .so either be able to let go (as j-ro says) or, elope!!!

Hooray!

I plan on doing it real secret-like. Just a couple of people at the courthouse.

Congratulations! If there's one suggestion I could make regarding the reception, is that you should plan to go to a bar afterward, and let all of your friends know about it beforehand, informally. If it's a big reception, you'll spend most of the time running around meeting Great Aunt Jane's nephew's wife who's interested in computers too sit here and tell her all about your great job!-- which is great and all, but you won't have a single moment to really sit and bask in the warm glow of being freshly married with your pals. Your hardcore friends will eat and dance and feel comfortable knowing they'll be able to spend quality time with you at the bar. Plus, if you can only invite so many people to the reception (and that's ALWAYS the case), you can tell people who didn't make the cut that you'll meet them there.

Also, it's fun to drink in a tux or a wedding dress.

Thank you!

I'm not sure where the ceremony will be, but even though we live in Vegas, I know it won't be in some Ye Olde Wedding Chapel and Elvis will NOT preside.

(on preview: We joked about eloping, "but we're already in Vegas, where would we go!?")

I'm hoping to make it small, but special and elegant.

-The poppage(hee!):He was teasing me all day about my Valentine's gift, so while we were having a drink at a nice cocktail lounge (espresso martini's)before for our dinner reservation, I asked him: So where's my present? So even though the setting wasn't what he had planned (I think it was supposed to be after dinner) he reached into his pocket and pulled out the box. The piano player in the lounge was playing "Unforgettable". Then he opened the box and asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes, and he put the ring on. It was his grandmother's stone, that he had reset - apparently he spent several nights trying without success to slip a string around my finger as I slept for the measurements, and eventually just sized it to his pinky, which worked, it's a perfect fit.

I told my best friend seconds later by way of camphone picture (also flickr'd). I'm such a geek.
We were both pretty giddy for a while, then went and had the best italian dinner ever.

I can't believe I pluralized martinis with an apostrophe...

:D congrats!

Also, one thing that's often met with dread and uncertainty is the bachelor/bachelorette party. I recommend the following:

1) Throw the party two days before the ceremony, so out-of-towners can attend.

2) Start with both the bachelor and bachelorette groups all together in one big happy mob at some restaurant.

3) Have a nice relaxing dinner! You'll need carbs!

4) Go your separate ways. Allow folks to choose which party they want tag along with. Their answers might surprise you.

5) Reunite the groups at a late-night bar so everyone can compare notes and continue with the madness.

Number 5 surprises a lot of people, but that's what we did and it was the Best. Time. EVAR!!~! One, if things get a out of hand during the events of Number 4, you have a built-in excuse for cutting and running ("We're going to be late!"). Two, the more out-of-control members of your group will pace themselves, knowing there's an ultimate destination (with single members of the opposite sex!) in mind. And three, you're gonna miss your SO during the fun-having, no matter how fun the fun being had is. Plus, my wife was on a scavenger hunt, and I got to help her with some of the final items on her list, like getting pics from the backseat of a police car.

What a great story. Congratulations to you both! Your wedding will be wonderful no matter what. It's about the people. My brother & his wife got married at the NYC courthouse and then took us all out for Thai; it was wonderful. Two close friends spent something like $20K on a garden wedding with steak and seafood and 200 guests; it was wonderful. As the stacks of Wedding books and magazines begin to avalanche around your house, remember that years later, all people will be saying is "Wasn't that a great day; weren't they happy; wasn't it fun?" They won't be remembering the Jordan almonds or the bunting colors. So don't stress about those things. Make it joyful for the people you love, and that's all you'll need.

Awesome engagement story, by the way.

Congrats! All the best!

Only advice - make sure the parents on both sides are at least on speaking terms with one another.

Oh, and the bride is always right.

mazel tov!

Felicitations!

Thanks again, everyone.
OOOh, those are good bachelor/ette ideas, eamondaly, thanks! Our circle is small, the best man is gay, and the groom really isn't a let's-go-to-the-titty-bar type, so we are hoping to do something for everyone. I may try and get a bunch of local bands to do a show for the "finale".

I'm sort of a control freak, so my plan is to keep it small and simple so I don't get overwhelmed. I'm in my late 30s, but this will be my first (and only) wedding, so I don't necessarily want it grand, but I do want it special.

Keep us abreast, krix. Especially when it comes time for picking the dress. I love the glam-uh.

krix, congratulations!

My only advice stems from my only regret about my wedding experience. Get a good photographer. Don't scrimp there. Scrimp on the food if you have too. We got hooked up with this guy, he would do it cheap, etc, and he took shit pictures, amateur mistakes, and now, we can't redo the day. We have a few decent ones, and of course, we have wonderful memories, but...I wish we had better photographs.

So, that's all I have for advice, and again, congratulations!

Yay! Congratulations! The ring is beautiful. : )

Congratulations! What a sweet engagement story.

Congratulations! Don't sweat the details too much - you can correct any mistakes next time ;-)

Another triumph for the bunnypin conspiracy! Good work, Agent 010.

Congratulations, krix! I'm not so far removed from the whole wedding thing that I can't remember all the ins and outs of the organization *shudders involuntarily*

Just remember: it's as stressful as you make it. I picked 3 or 4 things that were priorities to have perfect, and the rest could go to hell. So we had a good photographer and a fantastic band. (and a really yummy cake!)

And most of all, don't let anyone tell you how to organize your wedding.

Congratulations!

Unfortunately, I have no advice to give.

Wooties!

My advice: hand off all the planning to someone else. The only really important things are the bits where you exchange vows, the bits where you dance your asses off at the reception, and the bits that happen in private. Everything else is for the entertainment of guests, not for you!

Congratulations!

Holy Moly! Congradumalations!

Are you pagan-ish at all? When the mister and I get married for reals* I want to do a Handfasting. You can make it part of a larger ceremony, of course.

*We're legally married, but it was at the behest of the government due to me and the mister wanting to live together. We want a real ceremony at some point in our lives.

Congratulations!

My random advice: If you want to keep it small, without offending a lot of people or dealing with lots of details, consider a destination wedding. The decreased size likely covers the increased per-person cost.

I can't believe I pluralized martinis with an apostrophe...

heh, I thought that was the name of the 'nice cocktail lounge'...
congrats from me too; no useful advice except to remember that it's a party/ceremony to celebrate the best thing about your life, and so should not be a source of stress or worries or difficulty etc.

Thank you again, everyone :)