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13 February 2006

Why did he break up with me the night before Valentine's? I'm totally serious. I just got dumped, and by a guy I really, really liked. Oh, man, it hurts. Now I'm sitting here sniffling and eating the abso-fucking-lutely delicious scallop dinner I prepared thinking it was going to be for both of us. It's just too sad for words. I can't even be mad; it was the sweetest, kindest, nicest, laughing-tearful breakup ever.

Somebody cheer me up. WHen I'm done with the scallops I'm headed to 7-11 for more Ring Dings and beer. Why? Why?

post by: Miko at: 20:48 | 29 comments

I just uploaded this for someone else, but sounds like you could use it, too. I'm sorry to hear it, miko. His loss.

Derek & the Dominos - I Looked Away

(Valentine's Day is also my Mom's birthday. That always helped me through lonely times, perversely enough, and as a man who's ex's include a lesbian, a born-again Christian and the wife of his college best friend, I know from heartbreak)

posted by jonmc 13 February | 20:55

[sorry -- a 'more inside' would have been nice there.]

Thanks, Jon.

posted by Miko 13 February | 20:56

People often break up before V-day, birthdays, etc. They've been wanting to and can't bring themselves to go through the motions with the presents, etc. Sorry. :(

You might be happier doing something constructive rather than hitting the 7-11, but I can't blame you for wanting to wallow.

posted by callmejay 13 February | 21:01

that sucks...i wish there wasn't a valentine's day at all--it puts enormous pressure on everyone, single or not.

i have a personal rule tho, about my birthday--if whoever i'm dating is not fab, i break up with them just before then--i don't want to be with them on my big day---maybe all these breakups just now are related to that--the milestone thing?

posted by amberglow 13 February | 21:03

or--what callmejay said better...

and you are fab, i bet, so ignore my awkward phrasing. : >

posted by amberglow 13 February | 21:04

They've been wanting to and can't bring themselves to go through the motions with the presents, etc. Sorry. :(

I think that's definitely part of the timing...there was much discussion about how if we continued at this point, there would be an essential dishonesty to it because on some level it wasn't working. How much worse that dishonesty would feel with roses and chocolate attached to it.

posted by Miko 13 February | 21:05

Aw, I am sorry. Be like me and just ignore the day, or try to. :/

posted by weretable and the undead chairs 13 February | 21:16

Yeah, you know, I don't even care about the day. I'm just sad to lose the guy.

The timing isn't nice, but it's not that that's really bothering me.

posted by Miko 13 February | 21:18

So how long were you and jaksemas dating?

I'm sorry but crappy jokes help me when I'm blue. Pass the beer.

posted by dabitch 13 February | 21:33

Aw, miko. I know how excited you were about this guy. I'm sorry he turned out to be a shitheel. There's always the everything-happens-for-a-reason bit, the but the beer and Ring Dings are likely to make you feel better.

And until the anti-jackass comes along, you've got us. :)

posted by mudpuppie 13 February | 21:37

Awwwww baby, I am sorry :-( Breakups suck the big one. I'm sending much love your way!

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 13 February | 21:46

Thanks guys. It was actually a really positive month while it lasted. I can't even complain; he really isn't a shitheel, just not fully done with his divorce experience, I think. Whatever.

Maybe I should do something more constructive, but beer, Ring Dings, and a little IRCin' may be as constructive as it gets for me for one night.

posted by Miko 13 February | 22:36

I'm sorry, miko.

It's just too sad for words. I can't even be mad; it was the sweetest, kindest, nicest, laughing-tearful breakup ever.

...which sucks now, but is a really good thing. You're obviously a sweet, wonderful person.

posted by kmellis 13 February | 22:36

kmellis beat me to it. If when someone breaks up with you the mood is sweet, with tears and laughter, you're obviously pretty extraordinary.

I'm not quite sure what a Ring Ding is, but beer and IRC sounds like a good plan.

posted by tangerine 13 February | 23:08

Anecdotally, Valentine's Day has always been a big time for break-ups. Not that it makes it any easier for the breakee, but...

Very sorry, miko. Hopefully someone who appreciates you more will come along soon.

posted by me3dia 13 February | 23:09

OK, I'll just come out with it. I wasn't planning on sharing, but in light of recent circumstances:

Miko, you are so totally my vinyl spinnin', road bikin', album writin', mu-major MetaChat crush.

posted by Triode 13 February | 23:12

awww miko, I'm sorry. You should definitely wallow for a tiny bit. beer and snacky treats sound perfect.

Then get back on your songwriting! Channel it, baby!

posted by gaspode 13 February | 23:16

Y'all are the best. For a group of total strangers I hardly knew a couple months ago, you're great friends. Call on me when you need it, sometime.

posted by Miko 14 February | 00:05

I'm with the pode: put it in the album, give us a song we can cry to!

posted by nomis 14 February | 00:08

Sucks and his loss, miko. Valentine's Day is the cheese grater holiday, it always leaves me feeling raw no matter what I do.

posted by fenriq 14 February | 00:09

posted by sciurus 14 February | 00:26

*hugs miko*

So sorry, baby! But do, do, do use it on the album. Give us the sweetest, cryingest, laughingest sad song ever. Maybe it's all fate's way of providing you with killer material. (yeah - the muses suck that way, don't they?)

Hang in there sweetie.

posted by taz 14 February | 00:38

I'm sorry, Miko. You're really sweet though, & it's all for the best. It hurts now, but later when you figure out he was a jerk and you move on to better things you'll be glad.

{{{hugs}}}

posted by shane 14 February | 08:47

*hugs* I am sorry to hear that. It really sucks.

posted by sisterhavana 14 February | 09:37

I was seeing a guy I really liked who called me a "cool chick" and when I was about to invite him to dinner on V-day, he told me that the reason why he hadn't returned my calls in a while was that he was seeing his ex again. *hugs*

But there are more fishsticks (and bunnies) in the sea!

posted by TrishaLynn 14 February | 10:06

It's definitely his loss, (((miko))). Take care of yourself, sweets.

posted by deborah 14 February | 11:11

Update. Good sign #1 -- picked up the guitar, for the first time in the past 24 hours. Something resembling singing is coming from my throat. It will be OK.

posted by Miko 14 February | 22:57

Voice post!

posted by Eideteker 14 February | 23:06

I'm sorry! He's obviously not smart enough for you, because I only a fool would break up with you.

posted by omiewise 21 February | 16:25

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