Um - we're on the internet.

I could say something glib like "sports bars and strip clubs", but really it depends on the type of guy you're looking for.

Not helping Habitat for Humanity build houses. I had a friend try that one to meet men and it was all single women thinking this would be a great way to meet guys.

I think we're mostly in IRC right now.

Why wouldn't similar men also be at these classes? Perhaps not as many, granted, but...

My sense is that intelligent and interesting people are harder to find by a set of rules because they tend to be less predictable.

Graduate school.

Bars. or they're gay. in which case they're probably in bars, too asking the same question you are.

Some of us are also wondering where all the men are, rather whistfully at that.

Damn, jonmc beat me to it. LOL

I second the internet.

Try lavalife or some such site. They're definitely there! (Where are all the monkeys is a different matter. Sigh.)

Damn, I wish I'd asked you that before I got married. I kept going hunting in bars and, for some reason, kept waking up with floozies.

Third or fourth the internet, my wife and I found each other online.

I do use Lava, go to MeFi meetups, etc.
No dice.

I've taken lots of art classes and they are almost all women.

I suppose I could take an auto body course or hang out at hockey arenas, but for one thing it would be really obvious that I was there looking to score, and for another I'm hardly assured to get the types of guys I want.

So, what kind of guys do you want?

Join a soccer or ultimate league. Seriously.

I must know at least two dozen single(ish) guys 25-45. They all play soccer/ultimate/hockey/etc... Their social lives completely revolve around chasing small objects around very expensive playing facilities then going out for a few pints. Some do this four or five times a week. Most do it at least twice. Almost every group is informal and pickup. Women are usually very welcome, no skill level required.

Volleyball might be even better now that I think about it (I havent' played for a few years). Much better male to female ratio, and much hook-uping going on. See if your local community centre has times on the weekend.

Well, the good-hearted, smart, non-vacuous, unattached men are mostly sitting around wondering where all the good-hearted, smart, non-vacuous, unattached women are.

I want someone intelligent, educated, fun, kind, and interesting. And attractive to me.

Hmm, yes, co-ed sports might be a good idea.

Though I am HOPELESSLY unathletic. But maybe volleyball is a possibility. Remember that klutzy dork at your school who couldn't contribute to any team, but who had that freak, nofail serve? That was me.

I am taking a cooking class right now, and it is about 80% dudes. Of the distaff 20%, half or more of them are taking the class with a significant other.

Try a gym. You'll find every type of guy there.

I'm right here.

Iron Maiden shows.

I want someone intelligent, educated, fun, kind, and interesting. And attractive to me.

Buy you a drink, baby?

*winks, nudges, slips in beer puddle and falls on ass*

Actually, we don't go out much. You'll have to catch us at home.

...warbaby's point is true, that's why so many of them can only be found on the internet.

But here are two other places I have met men. One is a running group -- most towns/cities have some kind of weekly group run. Mine is Monday nights -- we run betwen 3 and 6 miles and then get beer and appetizers. Really nice guys; not all are single, but it never hurts to meet people. Even if they aren't available, they might have brothers or friends who are.

The second place is: swing dancing. Swing is as big a scene and as fun as it ever was, even if it dropped off the pop-culture radar in the late 90s. There are dances everywhere. You tend to meet cool/different/original people at these things. Plus, you get to have someone's hands on you, twirling you around and making you look wicked cute. Not bad! Check out yehoodi.com for some links and directories. Don't knock it til you try it -- the music is great, and the dancing is incredibly fun.

I've tried to do the dance class thing to meet women, but all of them around here only accept couples. I don't know many single men OR women, but hell if I know where or how any of them ended up together. The ones I ask all say they got together during college. So much for that. heh.

I actually plan to take a beginner ballroom dancing course in late March. I've dug up a new male acquaintance who wants to take the class with me (by advertising on Lava). I knew someone who was really into ballroom dancing, and she was always complaining about how few men there were in it. If you didn't have a dedicated partner, you had to sit out a lot of dances.

Perhaps cooking classes vary according to what kinds of cooking it is. I can see a, say, Indian food cooking course, attracting more men than a pastry class.

The thing is, I'm really resistant to the idea of doing something *just* to meet men. Devoting nine evenings to a class in an area that doesn't interest me at all (and very probably still not meeting anyone) sounds like my idea of hell. But I suppose that's not necessary. If I were to expand my area of interest just a little, the male:female ratio would improve. I don't have to actually take auto shop or play football. I can take an Indian cooking class or volleyball.

And then too, expanding one's social network is always a benefit, especially when all my existing friends are married and having babies. If I make a great new female friend and she has a hot male friend or cousin, I've scored twice.

If you want to meet men dancing, by all means do NOT take a dance class. Most people in classes are already in a couple -- trying to revive the spark, or practicing for a wedding. In addition, classes are highly structured and can be awkward.

In swing dancing, you learn to dance by going to actual dances. Most start with a basic lesson, which is enough to get you going. Anyone can do it. Following the quick lesson, the dance basically turns into a party. There are many actually single people there, who like other people, and are interested in meeting other people. They also just like the music and the style of dance. It's worlds away from traditional ballroom -- a completely unique scene. A friend once mentioned to me that it was very post-punk; a lot of emphasis on individual styling and expression, no need for anyone to conform to anything. Just go to a dance. Bring some friends. It's very cool.

....oh, and also: in swing there's a basic etiquette that you never dance twice with the same partner in one evening. You're expected to switch partners after each dance, and you're expected to ask strangers to dance. Starting with that basic understanding of swing culture really takes the fear of rejection out of the whole enterprise. You're there to dance, after all.

Same with Iron Maiden concerts.

Hmm, I'll have to try the swing thing perhaps. I honestly want to learn to dance ballroom, so I'm more into taking the class for itself rather than to meet people with penises.

'Nother vote for the 'net. That's where I found the mister (not that I was looking, nor was he).

so I'm more into taking the class for itself rather than to meet people with penises.

That's a far healthier attitude. I have a friend who went to do all kinds of things in the hopes of meeting women. Failure after failure after failure eventually broke him. We (his friends) are, painfully, trying to piece him back together.

The thing is, porpoise, this attitude not only makes sense from a self-actualization perspective, but from a dating efficacy perspective as well. What's the point of meeting people if one won't have anything in common with them?