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25 November 2005

I'm sore and sad... I just had emergency surgery 2 nights ago and i'm feeling sad coz i lost a fallopian tube. I was discharged from the hospital this afternoon, so no turkey for me, and no Black friday shopping madness for me either. I'm very depressed...especially about the shopping. Please please suggest ways to beat this depressive funk i'm in...music, books (i can order online)websites to make me smile...etc etc.
Thanks, metachatters.

post by: ramix at: 00:07 | 30 comments

ramix, I'm so sorry. Truly.

Do you like David Sedaris? I've read a couple of his books before and found them funny, but after hearing him in person I bought an audiobook of Me Talk Pretty One Day for my long holiday weekend drive. It had me laughing out loud, often. Although maybe I shouldn't recommend something that might make you laugh too hard so soon after emergency surgery, I've been in a bit of a funk myself and it really cheered me.

I hope you feel better soon.

posted by amro 25 November | 00:19

sorry, hon...i'm home sick too, if it helps at all. check my blogroll post right below, and this is funny, too.

and here's a song that cheers me up lately-fab cushion--Martinibomb--fun nonsense (and check out cliptip -- all sorts of interesting videos to watch)

posted by amberglow 25 November | 00:28

and download the whole Coconut Monkeyrocket and Martinibomb SPLIT ep here--very fun, and cheery.

posted by amberglow 25 November | 00:32

I recommend Black cat white cat, it's one of the funniest movies I've seen, and i hope you'll feel better.

posted by dhruva 25 November | 00:37

This calls for the I Love You Kitten.

posted by Marxchivist 25 November | 01:00

"when he calls me kitten--"
i may link it later
and may even buck up the cost of a recording and a few pics of glowing tubes for you
if it would really help

posted by ethylene 25 November | 01:02

I suggest massive quantities of the sweet of your choice and perhaps a wine of your taste. Also, that song, "Love is All", that bdave posted earlier is a real good pick-me-up.

I sincerely hope you feel better soon.

- luv m

posted by mischief 25 November | 01:14

maybe you did this before somewhere, but if you'd like to get specific about what you'd like to shop for (online or in a less mobile manner), i may not only be able to help, but get you good deals.
delectables? sundries? oddities? eventies?

posted by ethylene 25 November | 01:43

This is the most entertaining thing I've seen lately.

besides the hilarious reaction at the dinner table once it was realized that my mother had forgotten to add sugar to the pumpkin pie, that is

posted by interrobang 25 November | 01:46

and i love marimbas, maybe i should link some milt vibraphones--

posted by ethylene 25 November | 01:49

Check out the suggestions in this pamphlet on critical incident stress.

I prepared it for community public health outreach and it has been used for several years by incident responders. The suggestions are actually good for any old time, but they are important when you are under stress because you forget to do these things due to the distraction.

posted by warbaby 25 November | 01:59

Oh, poor ramix! (And I was whining because I had to spend Thanksgiiving cleaning house!)

If I were you, I guess I'd play one of those nice, long, difficult-but-pretty adventure games of the Myst genre. I used to get lost in those for hours untold, but don't ever seem to find the time to play any more.

I hope you feel better soon!

posted by taz 25 November | 02:42

My heart goes out to you.

Fix yourself up with a big duvet, some soppy films, plenty of kleenex and chocolate, and wallow in sadness for two days.

Finish off with "Bill and Ted's Bogus Journey".
Because it will cheer you up.

On books. I'd go for something heavy and fantastical. A no brainer fantasy series is perfect for those times when your mind is wandering and it doesn't matter if you miss a couple of pages because you're mentally somewhere else.

posted by seanyboy 25 November | 02:54

Oh ramix, I’m so sorry.

I don’t really know your tastes, aside from James Brown… You probably already have this, but just in case – Get On The Good Foot.

When I’m feeling poorly, I know having some good food always seems to help a little. Treat yourself to something you really like but don’t always indulge in.

I don’t know if laughter would interfere with your stitches & whatnot. If you’re up to it, I’ve found silent comedy to be very good medicine – Buster Keaton (“The General” and “Our Hospitality” are two favorites, although you really can’t go wrong here) and Laurel & Hardy (“The Music Box” in particular) are both top notch. If the silents don’t work for you, it’s time for “Duck Soup” by the Marx Brothers. I’ve probably seen this film 50+ times and I still find it hilarious.

Not sure if any of this is helpful, but I send it with my best wishes to you.

posted by bmarkey 25 November | 03:43

inlieu of anything else i can think of: the song i make people sing who are all uptight about singing

posted by ethylene 25 November | 04:05

and give yourself a space if you like

posted by ethylene 25 November | 04:06

((((ramix)))) feel better sweetie. bmarkey those look like good suggestions!

posted by chewatadistance 25 November | 07:59

I'm so sorry to hear it, ramix. I'll second the recommendation for Duck Soup. Hilarious and guaranteed to cheer. :) Feel better soon!

posted by LeeJay 25 November | 08:48

Feel better soon, ramix! Maybe some wacky outhouses are in order.

posted by danostuporstar 25 November | 09:58

ramix, I sincerely hope you feel well soon, both physically and emotionally.

I just watched The Lady Eve and I highly recommend it; if you've never seen it, you will find it hard to believe just how sexy and funny Barbara Stanwyck and Henry Fonda can be.

We've been catsitting for friends who have the first season DVD of Dead Like Me, and it's amusing -- so, if you'd like to get caught up in a serial, that might be a good bet. If you've never seen it, always plug Freaks and Geeks as one of my favorite (and too short-lived) shows ever.

If you didn't see the meta/mecha link, Yacht Rock is the first thing in a long time to make me laugh nonstop -- it's much more surreal than the other things I'm recommending, and unless you were traumatized by smooth rock in the 80s you might not find it so hilarious. But I sure do.

I hope you find something in all the lists you've got now to make you smile again. Take care!

posted by melissa may 25 November | 10:11

Ohhhh Freaks and Geeks, Yesssss! Also, The Office. Mr. Gravy and I are thinking it is about time for our third viewing.

And Thanksgiving? Even though I love to cook, it is the one holiday I could really do without. Everyone stuffs themselves senseless and then flop down into a stupor. A living room full of comatose in-laws discussing in great detail the merits of the pie selection available just doesn't fulfill my festivity requirements.

I'm very glad I didn't have surgery, but honestly I would have preferred to make a nest on the couch, watching old movies and reading silly stuff while snaking on little tidbits. My guess is that there are many people in these United States who would have preferred that option to Holiday Hell.

posted by Secret Life of Gravy 25 November | 11:22

My god. I am unintelligible today. Snaking? Really?

You'll have to take my word for it that I am not drunk. Please forgive my grammatical and spelling lapses.

posted by Secret Life of Gravy 25 November | 11:30

Sympathies, ramix. Get better, kiddo.

posted by jonmc 25 November | 12:32

Damn, ramix, that's harsh. Speedy recovery to you!

posted by Frisbee Girl 25 November | 13:35

ramix, I hope you feel better soon.

posted by gaspode 25 November | 13:50

(oh, i don't know if you plan on kids or are done or whatever, but i remembered this morning that a friend had them with only one, no problems--she had a non-functioning one inside her her whole life)

posted by amberglow 25 November | 14:44

Poor ramix - feel better soon! Seconding the multi part fantasy book suggestion somebody made above - nothing takes you out of it more than curling up in bed & getting thoroughly absorbed in a good book.

posted by mygothlaundry 25 November | 14:52

Wow, I hope you feel better soon.

posted by Hugh Janus 25 November | 16:03

Thanks guys, made it through the first night at home. I'm just sad i missed the shopping frenzy (i'm a shopaholic) today. Thanks for all your suggestions and link goodness. I don't feel so alone now.