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02 July 2015

This is my downstairs neighbor. She died. It's all too sad, and our building (our apartment building isn't *that* big, for NYC, about 60 units) is very sober right now.

It's so weird, because I only know the parents to nod hello to, but their little girl was super outgoing and sweet. I'm going to leave flowers at their door tomorrow, but I can't really think of anything else to do. How devastating for them.

post by: gaspode at: 19:17 | 9 comments

Ugh, that is very sad :(

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 02 July | 20:12

When my neighbor's dog died I gave him a card saying that my thoughts were with him.

posted by brujita 03 July | 00:38

Oh, dreadful. I'd write a note about your memories of her to go with your flowers.

posted by bearwife 03 July | 01:24

Oh Gaspode, I am so sorry to hear that. My condolences to the family. There are no words.

posted by msali 03 July | 11:23

Oh God, how awful. I'm so sorry.

posted by Senyar 04 July | 04:24

Flowers, a card, kind words in passing are all that you can do. The loss of a child is a different kind of hurt and there is little you do without a prior level of deep trust. Don't feel bad that you can't do anything more. You just can't. Above all be forward and honest. "I'm so sorry about the death of ___." If they want to talk more let them. If not that's OK too.

posted by arse_hat 05 July | 00:00

That's so awful. The poor parents. My heart goes out to them. I wouldn't know what to say, either, other than a card with perhaps a sweet encounter with their daughter, or how she had a delightful smile. I especially like arse_hat's comment.

posted by redvixen 05 July | 17:40

How tragic-- I've heard of these kinds of accidents-- heavy furniture or these big TVs falling on children. Scary, the things that can happen. So sad--

posted by Pips 06 July | 08:32

Ugh. Good reminder for us to put safety straps on the back of our furniture now that it's where it needs to be in our new house.

The important thing is to remember her down the road. Plenty of people will give them flowers and cards and offers of meals or help now, but in a few months things will go back to normal for everyone else while they're still hurting. She had a name and she was loved, and she always will be.

posted by Madamina 07 July | 14:23

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