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01 November 2012

Is it normal, or at least common... to view your mother's comments on other people's posts as being rather loud, pushy, and intrusive? →[More:]Even if her posts are compliments or stating some ordinary, non-inflammatory opinion? I feel sorry for the poster, as if they would react the way I am reacting...but maybe they aren't put off by her like I am.

If her intensity is bothersome to others, then it makes me afraid of saying anything strongly felt myself, and makes me wonder how I come off when I do so.

Nobody else's comments regularly strike me this way.

I don't post much, so she hasn't commented on my posts.

She does have a rather intense personality in real life, and of course I have my issues with her, but if this is a common phenomenon, it seems sad...

post by: serena at: 13:36 | 5 comments

Where do you share webspace with your mother? I wouldn't worry about it. People can take care of themselves. This said I doubt I'd be hanging out anywhere my parents would be.

posted by cjorgensen 01 November | 13:40

I think it's completely normal. Moms are going to push your buttons like no one else can. Someone glibly (yet rather profoundly) put it like this, "Moms push your buttons so much because they are the ones who installed them". If it really bothers you, limit your interaction via social media with mom. Furthermore, don't worry about other people and their reactions, for the most part, I assume they are adults and can take care of themselves.
Seconding cjorgensen, I don't really hang out anywhere my parents would be in the first place. Words to live by.

posted by msali 01 November | 13:47

My mother is like this and I feel the same way, at least on facebook which I assume is what you are talking about. She seems to just ABBAZABBA steamroll over other people and be weird. That said, I'm pretty sure this is a perspective issue with me, because I have no other explanation for why other people never ever notice or comment on this sort of thing.

posted by jessamyn 01 November | 17:48

Yeah, I am one giant ball of cringe around my mother online and off.

although to be fair to me, lots of my friends have said that they are, too, so she really must be bad

posted by gaspode 01 November | 19:37

She does have a rather intense personality in real life

And you're probably reading this, through no fault of your own, into her comments/posts whether she intended it that way or not. I assume she's commenting on other adults comments? If they're offended they can take care of themselves. So, I wouldn't worry about it.

[Or, on non-preview, what msali said.]

My mum is on FB, sort of. And she knows about Metachat and MetaFilter. She could easily sign up at either place, but I think she has deliberately not done so so I have a couple places "just for me".

posted by deborah 01 November | 20:33

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