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05 August 2011
It's the Friday Night Question, chosen at random from The Book of Questions...→[More:]
#131: If 100 people your age were chosen at random, how many do you think you'd find leading a more satisfying life than yours?
Ha ha ha, in the world? Dude, I live in the richest nation on earth. I bet you my worst day is better than most of their best. I'm very thankful for everything I have.
i've come to a place in life where i've gotten a bit stable and content and I'm satisfied with being satisfied so I don't want to give up that psychological stability to start pondering this kinda thing again. just doing me, they can do what they do, it's all good.
I like this question! I'm going to say somewhere in the 5-10 range. I'm WILDLY satisfied with my life now and if there was some quantitative way to measure it I'd be in the upper bits of whatever metric was used.
Many days I feel like I won a minor lottery. My standard of living is college-boy shabby with occasional luxuries. I answer to no one. I am free to pursue whatever whimsy strikes me, constrained only by the welfare of my cat.
There are parts of my life I'm hugely satisfied with right now (career, finances, mental and physical well-being) but there are other aspects with which I'm less satisfied (relationship, or lack of, social anxiety), so I'd have to put myself in the middle, I think, with 49 or 51 people ahead of me. Most people my age are settled with a partner.
I really have a hard time answering this; I don't know that I have a solid understanding of how other people think about their lives. Seems like everyone is different? A lot of people don't seem satisfied with the same things I am satisfied with. That being said, I have some things in life that I am not currently satisfied with, but I am making progress toward those goals and that feels good. How many people can say the same, I really don't know.
Hmmmm, I am not content with my psychic situation yet know that others would be very glad to trade places with the actual living situation I've scratched out in the last 6yrs since all went to hell.
Yet, I'm not ostracized, starving or tortured or abused or living in a war zone or oppressive regeim. ..
I, however would be more than eager to trade everything to be able to go back in time and enact a different outcome.
So that leaves me willing to trade it all for a do-over and I guess there are plenty of others in step with that - so maybe 38 other folks are worse for wear?
I don't know that I have a solid understanding of how other people think about their lives. Seems like everyone is different? A lot of people don't seem satisfied with the same things I am satisfied with.
This is me. The older I get, the more I realize that a lot of other people want entirely different things from their lives than I want from mine. So, while I'm like, 90 to 95% happy with my own life, I have no idea how happy some of the people I see around me are with theirs. The ones that SEEM happy are often living in a situation that would be hellish to me... are they happy, or just trying to look happy? Hell if I know. So I don't know how to answer the question.
I'm living in a city where being Important and having an Important Job is everything...and my career was DOA. But compared to many people, even here in the US, I know I have a lot more freedom and satisfaction than most.
Eideteker is correct - this is a first world problem type question. Given that - I've got issues and I tend pessimistic, but still, objectively - in terms of comfort and security - um , 30? Not bad. Can't complain.
Some of the other people might have different lives that would superficially seem more satisfying than mine but I'd never want to trade with them. I've found the life that works for me with my wonderful wife and our funky townhouse in the city, my little Honda Fit that I seldom drive and my morning walk down to my office in a converted casket factory. I'm not brilliant or rich or famous and I don't even have a passport but I'm happy almost every day and don't want for a thing.
I can't really answer that, mostly because of what TPS said. I'm about 75% to 80% satisfied with my life, perhaps 10% to 15% of which is stuff I could probably make better.
In my opinion, or in theirs?
Man, galadriel, did you just cut this to the quick, or what?
For the last 18 months, I have woken up every day--even those nights when I remember the incredibly disturbing dreams I have every night--amazed by how good my life has turned out. I often think I'd be hard-pressed to find people more satisfied with their work, their home, their relationship, their mental space than I am. Then i realize that most of my friends are pretty satisfied with the basics of their lives too.
I mean, yes, I'd like to be better at my job. I'd like to have more money. To be more kind. To travel more. To have taken some paths which are closed to me now. But my life? Pretty fucking satisfying--my needs are met, my wants are usually indulged, and I am aware of love from people I respect.
I'm sure you could line up a hundred forty-year-olds just like that. I'm equally sure you could line up one hundred without any of that.