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14 October 2010

Online dating update: [More:] My computer is acting squirrely and has erased everything I just wrote. I am embarking on my first date and it seems sad that of all my online friends this will be my first online person interaction. I don't have high hopes for it and am mostly out to make friends. I have had most of a bottle of prosecco and am feeling optimistic because of it. Prosecco is your bubbly friend. I've has such a stressful week It's a welcome companion.
Have fun, ethylene!
posted by lilywing13 14 October | 17:33
Yes, enjoy yourself, and good luck.
posted by Senyar 14 October | 17:44
3rding have fun!
posted by gaspode 14 October | 17:57
So far it's just his geekly qualities that have any appeal at all, and I'm not that into them. Still, it's a start, and I'm trying to be social.
posted by ethylene 14 October | 17:57
Just don't start discussing baby names with him, OK?
posted by danf 14 October | 18:03
I don't know if I can get past the midocholrians. He's a Star Wars fans. Besides that, he's pretty sporty. I think the fact I talk many flavors of geek has got him on the hook. It's not going far but it's being social and going to a Halloween party if I ditch the whole Jon Stewart rally idea.
posted by ethylene 14 October | 18:08
It sounds to me like a great first step, honestly. Nice going!
posted by richat 14 October | 19:08
He's a Star Wars fan.

Here's where I should yell "DEAL-BREAKER!" except I married one of those myself, and it has turned out mostly okay. He keeps that little perversion to himself.
posted by BoringPostcards 14 October | 20:18
I can't help but know about the Star Wars but I have no love of the Star Wars. I like that wigu has 100 Admiral Ackbars but that's about the limit. I can quote pop culture at people for days but George Lucas uses actors like props and there is much boring there. I know the fetish for Slave Leia but I'd have to like someone an awful lot to put on the metal bikini, or be feeling particularly dressy uppy.

I looked around today but no one gave me the special zing of specialness. There has been no love connection. And according to ok cupid, I'm attractive, but this doesn't seem to amount to much but some creepy people who won't leave me alone.
One guy I've been talking to who seems ok is too far away to visit with. I'm just not very into this but I'm playing along. Is this a bad attitude?

This week has been a bit of a rollercoaster, some serious WTF moments with some real yay happenings today. Part of me still just wants to make a break for DC and the rally with a nice side trip to Baltimore for as brief as it would have to be.

I don't even know what I'm going to wear.
posted by ethylene 14 October | 20:50
I know MeFi is really high on OKCupid, but the time I spent on there yielded only weirdos and creeps. It's sort of skewed that way (despite the fact that I know there are nice people on there). I really liked Nerve.com the best.
posted by Miko 14 October | 20:53
I think you should go to DC. I would love to go to that rally. Plus I bet there will be a lot of cute singles there... single-me of the past is salivating at the thought. Whatever you decide, good luck and keep us updated.

And get to a meetup sometime!! :)
posted by halonine 14 October | 22:36
What Miko said.
posted by Melismata 14 October | 23:02
I placed a craigslist ad, and actually met somebody, which is miraculous around here. (Read the personals for Maine's craigslist and you'll see what I mean.)
posted by JanetLand 15 October | 07:55
I know MeFi is really high on OKCupid, but the time I spent on there yielded only weirdos and creeps

Oh my god. I came over here to bitch about that precise topic. I just went on a data last night with a girl who wanted to kiss me immediately upon seeing me (in the rain, on the mean streets of Brooklyn) she had been in and out of rehab and mental wards, was on Lithium and a cocktail of other drugs. She had live-in 24-hour home health aids. She used to be addicted to cocaine and wished she still was. She even lied to her home health aid, instead of going to Narcotics Anonymous she went to a bar with me. She wanted me to decide right then and there that I was her boyfriend. She invited me back to her apartment and on the way out of the bar, I went to use the restroom and when I got out, she was gone, vanished. Worst of all, she lied about her body type.

She called me this morning to tell me that we could have sex today, but I had to voice-mail-break-up-after-a-twelve-hour-relationship.

I feel bad because I went along with things during the date because (according to those wiser than me) I'm a pleaser and will let myself lead people on to make them happy for the moment, then break their heart later, and subsequently feel bad myself. I shouldn't have let her think I was that into her, and I definitely shouldn't have kissed her when she wanted me to. I feel bad for being a too-agreeable kiss-slut, but I feel good about not dating someone with severe mental-health issues. Furthermore, the ghost of my dead friend reminded me that I'm in graduate school in a fantastic field position and I look great nowadays, so there's no reason to desperately settle on someone just because I have an opportunity to do so.

Gosh, I just had to get that off my chest.
posted by fuq 15 October | 17:13
Gosh. Once in awhile, when one is in an LTR, the thought of meeting, dating, and maybe bedding new people sounds like this attractive but of course impossible thing.

Thanks for setting me right, fuq.

posted by danf 15 October | 17:41
Fuq, that sounds awful in so many ways.
I am thinking of begging off the meeting tomorrow. I was reading in a car earlier and now I am nauseous, which is just a crappy end to a crappy week. I had one really good thing happen but it hasn't at all counteracted the amount of negative stuff that's happened, so I feel like I'm fighting all this negative crap and that's a bad way to meet new people. It's just been a long week and today was a long day, so long it's spilling over into tomorrow anyway because I can't bear to do any more work today. If I can't be enthusiastic about meeting someone, I think I at least owe them a pleasant good mood. I don't think putting it off will be too much of a problem since we were going to be with other people to see a friend of his. I'm suppose to call someone else tonight but I don't know about that either. I'm so not in the mood for this.

I want to go to the rally but ever since I brought it up to my mother, she has been begging me not to go. Add this to my possible workload and the plan starts to wobble, although i got the all clear for a crash pad.
posted by ethylene 15 October | 18:39
I woke up feeling much better today, even though there was a black out. I'm considering going to meet him anyway but i've also got an offer to go to a party locally and hang out with old friends. It all depends on who gets to me first in the next few hours. I'll work tomorrow. I've done enough today fer gassakes.
posted by ethylene 16 October | 18:12
When in doubt, don't be douchey || This cracked me up.

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