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02 May 2010
I have some major lifechanging news.→[More:]
mr. desjardins and I have decided to adopt a kid (we do not have any now). We've been dancing around the subject for awhile now and made it official today.
HOLY SHIT! That's fantastic news desjardins, congrats. I am really happy for you. Please keep us informed with the progress, I think a lot of us here will be really interested.
If it's something you're comfortable with, I for one would be very interested in hearing how the process unfolds. Any updates, any news, anything! Thanks for sharing your happy news!
As an adoptee myself, I congratulate you and wish all the best throughout this journey you are setting out upon.
My wife is executive director for an agency here, and, through her, I hear about the highs and lows the adoption journey can bring.
I wish the two of you only highs.
We haven't decided much as of yet; we just decided to pursue the process this morning. We definitely don't want an infant; probably a 2-5 year old. We're leaning towards a boy, but if it turns out that girls are harder to place, then we'll go that route. Most likely a domestic adoption; we're thinking about starting with foster care. I don't know if I would take on a kid with physical disabilities, since I have my own issues in that regard, but I'm up for the challenge of a learning disabled kid. I'd definitely be up for a deaf kid, since I am hearing impaired myself. But we'll see ...
I'm considering starting a blog since we are at the very beginning of this process, but I'm a little intrepid about where to draw the line between expressing my inner thoughts and safeguarding our privacy. I definitely wouldn't want the kid, the birth family or the agency to stumble across it if I express any doubts or frustrations along the way.
If anyone has personal stories they wish to share, I would welcome them; my email address is mmedesjardins /at/ gmail /dot/ com.
Ooooh, I hope you blog! I've been tossing around the idea of adopting a child (as opposed to infant/baby) for awhile and I'd love to read more about the unique sets of challenges/rewards. (Of course I'd have to get a car first for all those doctor's trips and playdates and nature explorations and whatever all else kids need so I'm at least a good two steps away, but it's still a future option that I'd love to read about firsthand experiences with!)
If you do decide to blog, you might consider making it password-protected, invitation-only. It's by no means a perfect protection from stumblers-upon, but it's something.
My brother and his wife have been fostering a pair of young brothers (2 and 4) for over a year now, and just last month signed the adoption papers. Everyone in the family is so ecstatic, and the oldest of the boys is very proud to have the same last name as his now-parents.
A guy at church and his partner just adopted a little red-headed boy, age 4, and he is the cutest little bundle of unbridled joy ever. Wishing for you a boy just like him, desjardins!
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