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16 January 2010

Etiquette issue for the modern age: yoga class, or cult recruiting? [More:]Dear MeCha,

I sometimes go to yoga class at a really neat place in my town. It's a yoga studio that is completely donation-based - pay what you can. The people who teach there are mostly also teachers at other places, who agree to teach one or two classes a week at this place. As a result, the schedule is varied. There are a lot of different kinds of yoga offered. There are also other practices offered, like Pilates, reiki training, tai chi, meditation, etc. So there is a certain amount of 'wild card'-ness in the way the place is run, and I believe a general openness to inviting the use of the space for a wide variety of specific practices.

Well, last week I showed up for a class that fit my schedule but which I had never been to before. It was billed as more of a meditation session, which I wasn't aware of before I got there, but whatever, I was there so I stayed.

There was a small group of people who had been coming since the class started - about 6 weeks. As it happened the night I chose to be there they were having a 'guest speaker.' The guest speaker led us through some interconnectivity-type exercises followed by a basic meditation - nothing especially weird, honestly. It was really your average lovingkindness, we're-all-manifestations-of-the-universal, carry-forth-your-inner-peace-into-the-word-kind-of-stuff.

There were two things that made me raise my third eyebrow, if you will. The first was that in introducing the guest, the speaker described how the guest had started 'teaching centers' in America which have grown and grown, and that teachers around the world have established a university to study this particular spiritual path. Hm, that's interesting. The second was at the end, an assistant to the guest teacher handed out a handsomely bound piece of literature about the university and encouraged the class to continue the path of seeking more and more training and becoming more deeply involved with this organiztion.

Hmmmm. So I got home and Googled it, and sure enough, it's one of these enormous organizations that draws people in at an innocuous enough level, and then gets increasingly controlling at the serious levels, encouraging you to 'release yourself' from your 'earthly family' and devote yourself to living in this spiritual path, which of course should include working for the university, continuing to reach out to new participants, and donating your income to it, and so on. There's at least one message board for ex-member support, and the Wikipedia entry for this group is ridiculously scarred with disputations and content warnings - it's obviously become a battleground for believers and ex-believers. It's not the Sri Chinmoy cult but it seems a lot like it from what little I can observe.

So here's my question: I haven't been hurt by my one little meditation class, which was actually quite relaxing, and I'm not a particularly easy mark anyway. But I'm wondering if I should write to the guy who runs the studio and let him know about what I found out about the teacher's organization.

I'm not sure what would happen if I did so. On the one hand, he might say 'hey, our studio is open to all kinds of paths, and this is just another one, so don't be so uptight.' But on the other hand, he might be really unaware that this one class is connected to a specific organization whose intent is to get students more and more deeply connected to this organization. There were some really lovely people in the class who I suspect just consider it to be your average meditation class and would be surprised to learn about how things happen at the higher levels.

So should I write and let him know? Or just drop it? It's no skin off my nose, and I may be oversensitive to this issue - I've had a few experiences with friends and family members who had some involvement with cultlike religious groups, so it always raises the hairs on my neck when people are ardently interested in getting you to the next level, seeking total allegiance and total union with some spiritual path.
What's the risk in letting him know? If he tells you to lighten up, so what, at least you'll feel like you tried.
posted by amro 16 January | 10:42
I agree with amro - there doesn't really seem to be a downside to letting him know.
posted by gaspode 16 January | 11:15
Writing a letter outlining your concerns is not only responsible but also seemingly low-risk for you. It seems to me that the worst outcome for you is being told to lighten up, and the best outcome is that the yoga center starts to screen their invited guests more thoughtfully.

(It's possible, of course, that someone at the center will flip out and bar you from the classes, but that seems unlikely to the point of looniness. And I, too, have had a loved one vanish into the bowels of an assertively recruiting and geographically isolated religious center, so I'm not too balanced on the subject myself.)
posted by Elsa 16 January | 11:17
Tell them.
posted by Meatbomb 16 January | 11:26
Yeah, I guess the only thing holding me back is that I don't want to be ostracized from the yoga center. The guy who runs it has volunteer and social circles that overlap with mine, and I guess I"m a little worried about being gossiped about.
posted by Miko 16 January | 11:29
But you know how to raise a topic of concern while being diplomatic.

Look at it this way: either the yoga-center guy knows all about the meditation center's background and reputation, in which case he finds it perfectly acceptable or might even be able to reassure you or refute the public reputation, or he doesn't know, in which case he might benefit from hearing it. It's no problem to bring it up without being offensive; just raise your questions and concerns.
posted by Elsa 16 January | 11:41
And, y'know: use the praise sandwich. "I have so enjoyed the wide and varied viewpoints that I find represented in blahblahblah and am grateful for the many ways it serves the community" and so on, then raise questions or concerns about the recent speaker, then close with another remark reiterating your fondness for the yoga center's work and for its openness.
posted by Elsa 16 January | 11:44
What they all said. Tell the guy, but don't demand action. Just make him aware of what the group is so that he will be conscious of what might go on with them in the future, and he can be on the lookout for anything getting fishy.
posted by BoringPostcards 16 January | 12:18
I would definitely say something. You seem to be quite emotionally robust with a fully-operational bullshit detector, but someone a little more fragile or vulnerable might be easily led into a cult.
posted by essexjan 16 January | 12:26
If he flips out and bans you, that, to me, would be a sign that the center itself is fairly cultlike ("You're with us 100% or you're a traitor"), so in the unlikely even that that's the outcome, you're better off knowing that now, really.

Given what you've said about the center's open scheduling, and given that the speaker was a guest and not a regular teacher, I suspect that the studio admin had no idea this person was even coming. Which means it might also be worth cc'ing or writing a separate letter to the teacher who invited the guest speaker.
posted by occhiblu 16 January | 12:54
(I say that because it's possible the teacher does not know the extent of the culty organization's cultishness, and was just trying to help out a friend/fellow practitioner/teacher/con artist and didn't realize what they were exposing their students to.)
posted by occhiblu 16 January | 12:56
What Meatbomb said.

And what everybody else said.

If you're concerned with being ostracized/gossiped about, you could send a message anonymously, though there's a good chance that an anonymous message wouldn't carry the same weight as one from someone with your social capital.
posted by box 16 January | 12:58
Metachat: For the emotionally robust.
posted by TrishaLynn 16 January | 13:08
Can you talk to him in person instead of writing it? Can you ask him, since he's the expert, whether you should worry instead of telling him it's certainly a problem?
posted by Obscure Reference 16 January | 13:34
If he flips out and bans you, that, to me, would be a sign that the center itself is fairly cultlike ("You're with us 100% or you're a traitor"), so in the unlikely even that that's the outcome, you're better off knowing that now, really.


Great point. This is a grownup enterprise and you have the right to raise your concerns. Any group that would not respect that right is one that isn't worth your time and energy.
posted by jason's_planet 16 January | 13:37
But on the other hand, he might be really unaware that this one class is connected to a specific organization whose intent is to get students more and more deeply connected to this organization.

You don't really know that this one *class* is connected, just that this one session, with a guest speaker, was connected, right? (Or am I misreading it?) And for all you know, the scheduled teacher is not part of the cult, just the guest speaker and the guest speaker's assistant?

I think you may be worrying about the studio head's reaction because you think you're accusing him of working with a teacher who's trying to indoctrinate students into a cult; in reality, though, it sounds like maybe you're just letting him know it might be a good idea if he would ask the teachers (with whom he is working directly) to run any guest speakers (with whom he has probably not been working directly) by him before having them teach classes.
posted by occhiblu 16 January | 14:43
The guy who runs it has volunteer and social circles that overlap with mine, and I guess I'm a little worried about being gossiped about.

You are worried for classmates who might be more gullible than you, and concerned for the yoga studio owner. I myself have a knee-jerk reaction against anyone who would look down on you for trying to help out. I think you should say your piece and have a clear conscience about it.
posted by halonine 16 January | 15:19
Express your honest concerns as respectfully as possible. If somebody is mean to you, you know they're a jerk, or a front for a cult.
posted by theora55 16 January | 16:53
You don't really know that this one *class* is connected, just that this one session, with a guest speaker, was connected, right? (Or am I misreading it?) And for all you know, the scheduled teacher is not part of the cult, just the guest speaker and the guest speaker's assistant?

No, it was pretty clear that they were both part of the same organization, and that the guest speaker had been invited because she was in the country and this evening happened to be a wonderful chance for people in the class with the local teacher to meet someone from higher up in the organization. In other words, the local teacher also had a long history with this organization and is running a class that's kind of a level 1recruiting thing for this organization, but was offering the guest speaker with full knowledge and approval. Even before the teacher arrived the students were quite excited about it. But the whole class is definitely connected in the hierarchical structure, and the local teacher acknowledged as such, along with her relation of how she originally studied with this teacher and that's how she gained the accomplishments she has today.

The guest speaker apparently wasn't doing much different from what happens in the regular class, with the exception of talking in detail about the global work of the group and distributing the literature (which allowed people to perhaps get their first real glimpse of the extent of their program). So it's not that this content was an aberration from the normal class, just offering more specific detail to the students. I think this was the 6th meeting of the class.

So whatever I do - which will probably be a friendly note using the "praise sandwich" (great phrase!) - I will raise the concern about the ongoing class, not just the guest speaker. It's just that if the speaker hadn't shown up, there wouldn't have been this literature that allowed me to get the terms to Google the group with.

The guy who runs the studio is a really good guy. He might be so dedicated to inclusion that this isn't an issue for him, but you're all right that I'm concerned about others, so I'll write.
posted by Miko 16 January | 23:56
I say tell him. I think part of the reason why you are one of the gems of this community is not just what you have to say, but the way you express it.
posted by brujita 17 January | 00:04
raise my third eyebrow

I LOLed. And can't improve on the above advice.

When I lived in New York, I was hijacked into an extremely hard sell for a Buddhist meditation society. I went to an "open meditation group" in an UWS apartment and while the night was still young was whisked in a cab down to a for-pay prayer/blessing ceremony with this wizened master. I still have the parchment somewhere, but I never went back to the group. They all seemed so sunny and nice but the way it all ended in a crush of awed penitents paying $20 or so for the privilege (er, the packet of incense sticks or whatever) really put me off.
posted by dhartung 17 January | 14:39
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