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18 November 2009

My grandma died the day before yesterday which made me so thankful that we made it over to New Zealand back in August, and that my daughter got to meet one of her great-grandmas (even though she won't remember it).→[More:] Nana loved meeting Maddie, and of course I got to see her one more time.

post by: gaspode at: 22:35 | 38 comments

Awwww.... hugs.....

I lost my Grandma last summer; she had just turned 90. We saw her a week or two before she passed. She knew she was dying, and before we left to drive back home to Texas from New York, she gave me the tightest hug EVAR.

(((gaspode)))

posted by Doohickie 18 November | 22:41

*hugs*

posted by sperose 18 November | 22:48

(((pode family)))

posted by rhapsodie 18 November | 22:51

Oh .. I'm so sorry for your loss.

That's a great picture of the two of them. They look a little bit alike, I think. It's a compliment to both ladies.

posted by Kangaroo 18 November | 22:54

My condolences, gaspode. What great pictures.

posted by halonine 18 November | 22:58

I'm sorry, gaspode.

posted by jason's_planet 18 November | 23:01

I'm sorry, 'pode.

posted by box 18 November | 23:05

So sorry gaspode.

Big big hugs ((((((((gaspode))))))))

posted by special-k 18 November | 23:38

Oh gaspode, I'm sorry to hear of your loss; hugs and condolences to you and your family.

posted by Hugh Janus 18 November | 23:43

My thoughts are with you....it looks like podelette inherited her shape face.

posted by brujita 18 November | 23:44

I am so sorry but it is great to hear that the family got to visit recently.

posted by arse_hat 19 November | 00:05

My goodness, such beautiful pictures. I'm sorry to hear the news. It's truly wonderful that your grandma had the experience of seeing your daughter. Maddie may not remember, but when she looks at these pictures, she'll feel it.

posted by Miko 19 November | 00:10

I'm with arse_hat...he expressed my sentiments precisely. So sorry 'spode.

posted by richat 19 November | 00:11

Hugs. I'm so sorry. Maddie might remember. She'll remember it somewhere, even if not in a way that can be articulated.

posted by typewriter 19 November | 00:27

(((gaspode)))

posted by gomichild 19 November | 00:33

I'm so sorry for your loss, (((gaspode))). It really is a good thing you got to see her recently.

posted by deborah 19 November | 01:48

Much sympathy for your loss. Thank you for sharing those beautiful photos. And what typewriter said.

posted by goshling 19 November | 06:36

So sorry, gaspode.

posted by Obscure Reference 19 November | 06:46

Sorry to hear about your grandmother, but I'm so glad your grandma got to see her great-grandchild. :) Good for her. (A similar thing happened in my family, where my grandmother got to see my niece a few years before passing away. It's a beautiful thing.)

posted by BoringPostcards 19 November | 07:07

Sorry about your grandmother :(

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 19 November | 07:20

(((((Pode and maddie and family))))

posted by jonathanstrange 19 November | 07:27

I'm glad you got to see her and have Maddie meet her. Those are lovely pictures.

posted by Specklet 19 November | 07:28

Your grandmother looks so happy in the pictures. Great smile. Glad you made the trip, and so sorry for the loss.

posted by rainbaby 19 November | 08:48

Sorry for your loss . . .I hope that Maddie remembers her as years go by. . . . The pictures will help.

posted by danf 19 November | 09:30

Thanks, guys. This is the first family member I've had die since living in the US, so the isolation is getting to me. Sorry to hear about your Grandma too, Doohickie.

posted by gaspode 19 November | 09:40

Oh, gaspode, I'm so sorry for your loss. Looking at those lovely photos, I can imagine what a blessing that trip was, though --- to you, to your grandmother, and someday to your daughter.

posted by Elsa 19 November | 10:12

Big hugs to you podie. I'm so sorry to hear this, but so very glad you all were together in August. I understand about the isolation.

posted by taz 19 November | 10:13

(hugs) gaspode

Also, there's hope: Maddie might remember it. I met my great-gran when I was a baby and this memory escaped me for decades but a while back I had a flashback to it and could describe to my mother perfectly accuratly how she smelled (lavender perfume + old lady), what she wore, how the sun was shining in from the large window, and how I was kicking her soft tummy as she held me in her lap. I could even recall some decorative pieces that caught my eye.

posted by dabitch 19 November | 10:21

Aw, 'pode, I'm so sorry. I lost my grandma a couple months ago too; it's a unique kind of loss, I think, since grandmas often occupy such a unique place in our lives.

I'm glad the 'podelet got to meet her, and that she got to meet the 'podelet. I'm sure that was really special to her.

posted by mudpuppie 19 November | 11:04

I'm sorry to hear about your grandma, gaspode. I still have a grandma but she's declining swiftly, and I hope she's still around to see her great-grandchildren. I'm really glad yours got to meet your daughter.

posted by altolinguistic 19 November | 11:42

Sending you great big hugs and sincere condolences.

posted by mightshould 19 November | 11:44

Y'all are making me smile :)

posted by gaspode 19 November | 11:49

So sorry for your loss, gaspode.

posted by jamaro 19 November | 12:18

Sorry about your grandma, I am glad you got a chance to say goodbye and to show off Maddie. I'm sure she was happier and passed easier knowing she'd seen you and met the baby.

posted by rmless2 19 November | 12:39

Aw, I'm sorry gaspode. She looks like she was a sweetheart. That's so great you both got to see her before she passed.

(Seconding that she could possibly remember it. I have one or two cloudy memories from when I was still in diapers.)

posted by CitrusFreak12 19 November | 14:30

Big hugs to you 'pode.

posted by TrishaLynn 19 November | 15:29

Awww, ((gaspode)). I'm so sorry to hear this.

I am seconding everyone who said how lucky it is you got to visit her this year, and what a cool picture for your daughter to see when she gets older. I'd love to have a picture of me with my grandfather, who I apparently met when I was a baby, but there don't seem to be any pictures. Maddie will treasure that picture someday!

posted by Sil 19 November | 18:16

I missed this thread. I'm so sorry, gaspode. I scanned bunches of photos last night that had my grandma in them. I'm going to have an extremely hard time when she dies. Even just imagining it makes my stomach drop.

In other words, I'm feeling for you. BIG big hugs, dear.

posted by Stewriffic 21 November | 07:12

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