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03 August 2009
The other side of the unrequited coin... Or why it might not be a good idea to tell your exes to join OK Cupid.
So, whaddya say when you're trying to be friends with the ex you broke up with a year ago and they sound lonely (but are seeing someone, that's good!) and you tell them to look for platonic friends on OK Cupid and they actually take your stupid advice and message you saying: Isn't it hilarious! You're my #1 match on OK Cupid.
I personally would grin, lips pressed together firmly, and say, "How about that?" Anyone who truly knows me would sense the sarcasm and cough a laugh into their shoulder.
I'm friends with my ex. He's a very high match on OKC for me as well, but I remind him frequently, referring to our Enemy Percentage, that "12% of me hates you."
I have higher matches than the ex on my end, but we do have a 0% enemy match, which is pretty amazing. I have been gaming the system and skipping all the long-term compatibility questions because I know know my left from my right in that dept right now anyways.
Seems like all my matches are bisexual, polyamorous, veggie bicyclists who watch Buffy. I can live with that.
My sister and her exhusband both registered for Match.com earlier this year. They were also each other's top choice. By a long shot. And that's all I'm going to say about that.
Yeah, that probably shows a couple of things. One, people who were together already had common interests and attitudes, and two, the longer they were together the more these converged.
It also shows the limitations of the "common interests and attitudes" metric.