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16 May 2009

I just got a phone call from work. One of my coworkers (a floral designer) didn't show up this morning.[More:] A driver went to check on her. And found her dead.

We don't have any details. But the last two days at work she'd looked really bad. She was only in her thirties. And she did beautiful work. Beautiful bouquets. Beautiful funeral sprays. Beautiful bridal flowers.

She had plenty of inner demons, but we loved her and she loved us. I hate to say that some of us thought that this day was a possibility, but...well, it was.

Bunnies, there are some things that whuffles can never make better. This is in that category.
My wife lost a coworker who was 32 last month. Terribly sad when that happens.

(((bunnyfire)))
posted by Doohickie 16 May | 14:42
Oh no. How heartbreaking. I'm so, so sorry, bunnyfire.
posted by scody 16 May | 15:18
That's awful. So sorry to hear it, bf.
posted by BoringPostcards 16 May | 16:02
Oh how awful bunnyfire. So sorry.
posted by gomichild 16 May | 16:59
So sorry to hear that.
posted by Twiggy 16 May | 17:39
So sorry to hear this bunnyfire..
posted by By the Grace of God 16 May | 18:07
I'm so sorry. That's terrible. Thoughts go out to you, hers, and all your colleagues.
posted by jonathanstrange 16 May | 18:43
I just got back from work. (I called to see if, under the circumstances, they needed me up there and thankfully they said yes, come on in.)

We suspected that the last couple of days at work that she had come in high (she'd struggled in the past with an addiction to pills, but she'd been clean for weeks and weeks.) She looked so bad-I don't know how to describe it except she looked like death itself. Which sounds horrible considering what happened today but, it was the truth.

There is so much I wish I had said to her yesterday but I am glad that the last thing I did say to her was that she needed to take care of herself because S. (my coworker up front) and I really really liked her. She smiled and said she really liked us too.

I spoke to her close friend who works at our sister store. She's terribly broken up because this is the second friend she has lost in just over a year.

My boss said that from what they had been told (her husband had gone to the scene where apparently a whole lot of police were there questioning the driver who found her) that apparently she'd died in her sleep. Not a mark on her. (I'd been afraid that a particularly wretched boyfriend of hers had killed her. This was a partial relief.) So either this was an overdose (pretty likely considering) or her heart just gave out because of all the stress she'd been under for so long.

I only wish she'd really been able to comprehend how much we all really, really really LOVED her. Because we did. And no one deserves to die alone, in a longterm crappy motel room. Nobody.

Thank you all for letting me get that out.
posted by bunnyfire 16 May | 19:07
Sympathies. How sad. At least she had you friends and flowers around.
posted by typewriter 16 May | 19:50
How terribly sad. I'm so sorry for your loss, bunnyfire.
posted by Elsa 16 May | 20:13
I'm really sorry, bunnyfire. That's tragic.
posted by gaspode 16 May | 22:14
I only wish she'd really been able to comprehend how much we all really, really really LOVED her. Because we did.

Perhaps she did. But that alone isn't enough to save people sometimes. I hope you find peace.
posted by ColdChef 16 May | 22:41
I'm sorry,bunnyfire.
posted by brujita 16 May | 23:44
I'm so sorry for your loss, bunnyfire. I know you believe that she could be going to a better place, although I guess that's small comfort at the moment.

Sometimes, there is simply not enough love to save a person and maybe that's just because it's their time.
posted by dg 17 May | 07:14
Thank you all very much for your kind words...

I'm so sad. Not just because she is no longer with us, but because she had so much to give and didn't KNOW it.
I remember one time, I took an order from out of towm-a lady was sending a birthday bouquet to her grown daughter who was away from home for the first time. The lady was kinda in trepidation as she'd used a different florist previously and the arrangement waw...well, she hadn't been happy with it.

So, when I took this order to the back, E. made it. Did a beautiful job. Not long after it was delivered the lady called me back almost in tears-of joy-saying how beautiful the arrangement was and how very pleased she was (her daughter had taken a pic and emailed it to her.) I put the boss on the phone to hear the kudos, even.

So the boss went back to let E. know and to praise her. (She's good like that.) E just looked puzzled, looked at me and shrugged. "It's just a flower arrangement." She never really got that she had a real gift for making beauty.

Somewhere, at some point, life had simply broken her, and she never got past it.

And now, I can never ever take an order to her and know it will be done right. I can never get with her at lunchtime and tell her to order whatever for me from Quizno's because I knew whatever she'd pick would be darn good. There are so many memories I have packed in in the few short months I worked there-and I still cannot cannot cannot believe that I won't walk in tomorrow, walk in the back and see her at her station surrounded by flowers.

Oh, I will see her surrounded by flowers one more time. But I never ever thought it would be like THAT.
posted by bunnyfire 17 May | 10:51
I'm sorry for your loss.
posted by TrishaLynn 17 May | 20:28
Thank you, Trishalynn.

Hey, bunnies, spare a thought or a prayer for that other coworker-her close friend. I am worried for her. She lost a friend last year to murder-and get this-found out about the death when someone came in to order flowers for the funeral. That is all kinds of messed up. Some of us on here know all too well how it feels to lose a close friend-this gal has gone thru this twice in one year. Not good.
posted by bunnyfire 17 May | 21:01
I got in! || My parents have come back from their cruise.

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