Is this a choice you're making, or is it because of the unreasonable expectations of others?

i don't know, really i don't.. i'm kind of alone. im working on stuff right now and thinking is tough, very slow.. and other half is kind of confused and disgusted like he cant see why i am acting funny. i guess i dont know what reasonable expectations are. all my peers work like this, all the other people who are doing the same job that is.

i am trying to learn to eat bitterness. it's difficult even to begin to talk about how i am feeling because it's letting open a floodgate.

BGG, I think that's called 'burnout' and it really tears you down in every area of your life.

In my line of work (software) there is sometimes this mystical image of coders slaving away into the wee hours for months on end -- and that its a good thing. Well, it isn't.

Fatigue effects judgement first of all and when judgement goes errors rise and the ultimate consequence is that those hours are wasted. Far better to work reasonable hours and have fewer mistakes.

Some managers get it, most don't in spite of empirical evidence. They like bragging about the long hours their people put in. In my extensive experience long hours represent failed management and should not be a badge of honor for the workers or the managers that create the chaos.

Just my $0.02. Hope things improve for you.

In my extensive experience long hours represent failed management and should not be a badge of honor for the workers or the managers that create the chaos.

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ugh, i am in one of those industries people compete to be in and bleh bleh bleh. I AM A POO HAT WHEEE.

my boss is really nice tho and she has it about ONE THOUSAND TIMES WORSE THAN ME, poor muffin! also i am making her look good!

I should add that I'm talking about long hours over an extended period of, say more than two weeks. Sometimes real emergencies happen and they must be dealt with.

I'm inactive except for screwing around, and I'm being paid for it.

Too lazy to cook my own grits
here's a song for us THAT DON'T DO SHIT....

I totally, totally feel you and am in the same situation.

Sometimes I don't know if my work is making demands on me, or if I'm addicted to my work and just can't put it down. Or if I hate my work but I feel I need to make a show of working hard so I don't get laid of during this shite economy... Maybe I'm addicted to it because it's constantly making demands on me and I get hooked on the request/service loop. It makes me feel needed and/or some sense of accomplishment, which is pretty scarce as life goes on...

Whatever the case I was with my partner in the death chamber of a relative the other night and doing work email on my iphone.... Something is wrong.

I am really well taken care of by work and it is a fast-paced deal where I need to absolutely shine to meet expectations. Very difficult. I'm not completely sure my passion is there, which makes super-shinyness kinda hard. Therefore I somewhat guiltily compensate with long hours and high availability.

I'm upside down on a mortgage and the primary earner in my household, so I'm very much stuck. It fucking sucks. I'm at the point where I just try to do one wedding-planning task per day. Because my nuptials are bearing down on me but I'm busy as hell and that's all I can handle.

Grrr..... I keep reminding myself I'm laden with blessings and all of this is in pursuit of the best of all possible lives I could make for myself. But it feels like treading water a lot. I dream of escape.

Feel ya.