MetaChat - hadjiboy has had a terrible driving accident, almost died

Hi all, just to let you know that hadjiboy has had a terrible driving accident, approximately a couple of months ago (not sure of the date). Information from what he wrote me,

"a drunk driver who was speeding on his Maruti Swift and rammed into me while I was going home at 11:30 at night.

People standing there who saw the state I was in afterwords thought I probably wouldn't live but decided to call the ambulance service just in-case, but unfortunately couldn't manage to get the number of the guy who hit me.

I was almost immediately taken to "Yashodha" hospital but since I had fallen so badly, and bumped the road while I was landing a couple of times, everybody thought I was a goner, but they thought the least they could do was call up my parents and tell them about what had happened.

I had left home three hours ago and still wasn't back and my father, from whom I had taken the money to go out and eat some haleem at night (since it was the ending of Ramadan) was starting to wonder now what was taking me so long, and my mom got the call from Yashoda.

I was still out cold (with major injuries to my left leg [it was broken] and my head [it was hit in the left which had caused damage to the brain and the swelling of it on the right side] and no one knew if I would wake up again.

My other sister who's in Baltimore right now booked the first flight out of there, along with her husband (who happens to be a doctor) and both of them took good care of me. Talking to the doctors daily and making sure I was getting the right treatment.

Must've worked, because people who saw me that day said I had a five percent chance of surviving. But here I am, on my way to recovery, surprising everyone who saw me that day.

I just have this pain and tenderness in my left leg to get over (the brain's alright thank-god) and my vocabulary to get together, and I'll be okay, but what a journey it's been.

I've changed so much in the passing few months that I've gotten better. Physically (I still have to work on it); Spiritually (for giving me my life back); and Monetarily (my mom and dad and everyone else has made such a huge contribution in me) that I have to work seriously and pay them back...

Can you pass this onto anyone else who you think will be interested and to mefi for all those who are present there. Thank you!"

Please send him your good wishes and get well messages. I'm sure it would do him great good to hear from his friends here.

posted by nickyskye 03 January | 22:34

Glad to hear you're on the mend, hadj. Stay strong, kid.

posted by jonmc 03 January | 22:38

Oh my goodness what an awful thing for him to go through.

posted by gomichild 03 January | 22:39

Scary, hadj. Hang in there. And nicky, thanks for passing this on. I was wondering where hadj'd gone.

posted by Stewriffic 03 January | 22:45

i've been concerned about him since
*checks last check*
Thanksgiving.

posted by ethylene 03 January | 22:46

O, I wondered where you were. So many good thoughts headed your way, best to you, hb!

Thanks for letting us know, nickyskye

posted by Sil 03 January | 22:48

Also, omg:

When is Ramadan in 2008?

Ramadan in 2008 will start on Monday, the 1st of September and will continue for 30 days until Tuesday, the 30th of September.

per http://www.when-is.com/ramadan-2008.asp

posted by Sil 03 January | 22:51

hadjiboy- I'm so glad to hear you're on the mend and sorry you had to go through this! Get well soon.

posted by Doohickie 03 January | 23:18

Best wishes, hb. I've wondered how you were; wow, sorry to hear about this!

posted by BoringPostcards 03 January | 23:20

Wow, I'd been wondering where you were also.
Glad you are still with us and healing!
I wish you a speedy recovery!

posted by rmless2 03 January | 23:21

Add me to the list of people who had wondered where you were, hadjiboy. (I even stalked through your messages on mefi seeing if you'd flamed out or just said you were taking a break... and I have never done anything like that before!)

All the best for a good recovery.

posted by gaspode 04 January | 00:24

!!!!

What alarming news.

My heart and strength go out to you, hadj.

Thanks for the update.

posted by mykescipark 04 January | 00:29

Glad to hear you're getting better!

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 04 January | 00:38

eeek, I missed the "almost" in the title the first time around. Glad to hear you pulled through and getting better - there are lots of people rooting for you!

posted by casarkos 04 January | 00:38

I was wondering why I hadn't seen posts from hadjiboy in awhile. If you read this, we miss you and are glad to hear you're recovering well.

::hugs::

posted by brina 04 January | 00:41

Oh, man - how awful! Keep getting better, hadjiboy, and I hope you will be enjoying some hareem during Muharram, made extra delicious after all you've been through.

posted by taz 04 January | 00:51

Whoa. I have a great appreciation after this year for the sense of having almost died. Good wishes, hadjiboy, although it sounds like you've already had quite a few to keep you with us!

nickyskye, I assume you're forwarding all this?

posted by stilicho 04 January | 01:16

Glad he'll be ok.

posted by brujita 04 January | 01:30

Sending wishes for a speedy recovery!

posted by Miko 04 January | 01:39

Hadjiboy, I had missed your unique voice here. It's alarming to hear of your accident, but I'm pleased to hear you are on the mend.

posted by Triode 04 January | 01:40

Heal well, hadjiboy. I HATE drunk drivers.

posted by lilywing13 04 January | 01:43

Also, I posted a new thing about my best friend's kid, who got almost killed by a drunk driver. Please email if you want to commiserate.

posted by lilywing13 04 January | 02:06

I had been missing hadjiboy's posts and wondered where he was. What a horrible thing to have happened, but I'm so happy to hear he's on the mend.

Definitely let him know we're thinking of him and hoping for a continued and complete recovery, nickyskye. And big hugs to you for letting us know.

posted by deborah 04 January | 02:23

Gosh, I wondered where he was.

posted by essexjan 04 January | 03:26

I noticed awhile ago that he had disappeared online. Since his last blog entries in September were about trouble with some guys, I was afraid he'd been shot or otherwise attacked.

posted by D.C. 04 January | 03:30

Missed u hadjiboy!

posted by By the Grace of God 04 January | 07:12

Glad to hear you're OK. I'd assumed that you'd flamed out too.

Turns out you really had flamed out, yet in the terrible real way. Instead of the silly virtual way.

Get yourself mended up & I hope to see your name round here soon.

posted by seanyboy 04 January | 07:27

Gosh what a terrible ordeal! Glad you are on the mend.

posted by chewatadistance 04 January | 08:59

Wow, scary story, glad it's all worked out. Keep getting better!

posted by JanetLand 04 January | 09:37

Thank you for all the hope and the letters that people have written. I love you all so much and appreciate what you've done for me... although I am not saying this through email like I should, I read all of the messages that people have written to me and thought of nothing but teary eyes... thank you so much! Also, thank you nickyskye with all the advice and hope and messages that you've given me. I love you, so much!

posted by hadjiboy 04 January | 09:45

Wow... Add me to the list of people who were wondering what happend. I'm glad you're doing beter now, I hate that you had to go through this at all, though. I was hit by a drunk driver about ten years ago myself, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone in the world.
Be smarter than me- if you feel you need help get it sooner rather than later. You don't want to be a decade on and still afraid of cars. Or overwhelmed with rage, which is also so easy to fall into.

Be strong. Physical therapy is one of the hardest and most important things you will ever do. And if you need to talk with someone whose been there my email is in my profile.

posted by kellydamnit 04 January | 09:49

Forwarded from hadjiboy:

Thank you for the love,And all those letters... I never knew I was so cared for. I would've done this myself but I can't post on Metachat and people have already started to reply to me and my condition there. I want to tell them all thankyou and not to worry; I AM getting better. I just can't remember a lot of stuff :( But that too will soon pass hopefully. My love to you, and every one else. Thank you so much for caring.

daanish/hadjiboy

You see, your words of support are so appreciated. YAYY bunny rubs! Please do also write directly to hadjiboy at his email address. Personal messages of support can be quite significant, really help one feel less alone and cared about.

hadjiboy's email address:
hadji_mefi [at] yahoo.co.in

posted by nickyskye 04 January | 10:11

oops. I see above hadjiboy was able to reply here, lol.

posted by nickyskye 04 January | 10:13

get well soon, hajiboy

posted by terrapin 04 January | 11:03

Wow. I was wondering about you, hajiboy, and I'm glad you are still with us. Take care, take time, get better.

posted by rainbaby 04 January | 11:07

Hadjiboy, glad to finally hear from you, and I am happy you are on the mend. Like so many others, I wondered what had happened to you. I thought you had forsaken us! I am happy that you are back.

posted by msali 04 January | 11:21

Get well soon!

posted by sperose 04 January | 11:33

What a horrible experience! I am glad to hear you are okay and your great outlook on life is still intact. Best wished to you and get well soon.

posted by misskaz 04 January | 14:02

I wondered where you had gone. It sounds like you are recovering OK now - give yourself time to heal properly and don't over-extend your body, because that can dramatically extend your healing. Good to see you back here, if only briefly.

posted by dg 04 January | 15:36

Take good care...lots of rest, be gentle to yourself.

posted by scody 04 January | 17:45

I'm glad you can post again, hadjiboy.

Listen to the bunnies above - take care of yourself, take it slow, don't get frustrated, etc. I've read it can take a year to get back to near-normal after something so traumatic. Big hugs.

posted by deborah 04 January | 18:23

I would've done this myself but I can't post on Metachat

I'm glad to see you are posting directly now hadjiboy. Just to be clear, though, there was no reason you couldn't post here before, at least from our end.

posted by taz 04 January | 23:39

That fucking sucks.

Glad to hear you're getting better.

posted by jason's_planet 04 January | 23:55

nth-ing the glad you're ok.

I'd been wondering about you.

posted by jonathanstrange 05 January | 00:00

Whew. Welcome back, hadjiboy. Glad to hear you are safe and are healing so well. *hugs*

posted by Luminous Phenomena 05 January | 04:42

Wow, I'm late, but I'm glad you're alive and doing better. Stay strong, my friend, and better luck in 2009.

posted by Hugh Janus 05 January | 10:30

hadjiboy, I'm really sorry for being out of touch these last few months. Please get well soon!

posted by pieisexactlythree 05 January | 19:47

As someone who had the same exact accident, I can say that a full recovery is indeed possible. Mine included a fractured skull and bone fragments in the brain as well as the broken leg. And here I am today as obnoxious as ever. Good luck. You'll be up and around in no time.

posted by Splunge 19 May | 15:40

Yikes - stray strong hadji

posted by The Whelk 19 May | 19:02

I'm so glad you're doing better, hadjiboy, but I am so sorry this happened to you!!

posted by redvixen 19 May | 19:34

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