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19 November 2008

Which one is worse? - your ex gets a new love way hotter than you
- your ex gets a new love way un-hotter than you
- your ex ten years ago now procreates with someone who looks much like you did ten years ago

post by: dabitch at: 18:39 | 28 comments

Definitely the first.

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 19 November | 18:41

First.

posted by amro 19 November | 18:51

Hmm. I'm going to disagree. The ex getting an unhotter love tends to call your own hotness into question more than when the ex gets a hotter one. For me, anyway.

posted by mudpuppie 19 November | 18:54

Deffo first.

posted by gomichild 19 November | 18:54

First, all the way.

posted by sperose 19 November | 18:55

I'm thinking the second one. Probably because I think Mr. V is a hottie, and if we split and he picked someone not as "hot" as I am, I think it would add insult to injury. My personal reaction would be "OMG, just how UGLY AM I??"

posted by redvixen 19 November | 19:05

My ex not only turned lesbian but is now a pre-op transgender, but our son still calls him mom. What was the question?

posted by Ardiril 19 November | 19:05

Definately the second. Do I smell a story here dabith? Option 3 perhaps?

posted by rainbaby 19 November | 19:21

On the third one, I say only relief.

posted by Miko 19 November | 19:24

oh, sorry to listhp, there, dabitch.

posted by rainbaby 19 November | 19:27

I don't get why any of these are bad. Good for my ex!

posted by Eideteker 19 November | 19:31

I'm dating Eideteker in my next life!

1 - I try to read this as me being on that hotness-level. I fail.
2 - I try to read this as "good riddance" - but like redvixen, I suddenly question my hotness. Thus again, I fail.
3 - has happened to me more than once and has me totally confused. Not sure what to make of that at all, vaguely creepy.

posted by dabitch 19 November | 19:38

I'm going with 4.

4 - your ex decided that he didn't want a relationship with anyone, and met someone remarkably similar to you and began dating them a month later.

Then ya just have to take it personally, you know?

posted by jonathanstrange 19 November | 19:48

your ex ten years ago now procreates with someone who looks much like you did ten years ago

People wait ten years for this?

posted by mykescipark 19 November | 19:48

I'm going to have to tell the missus to change her hair before the next reunion.

posted by trinity8-director 19 November | 20:01

I'm with Eidetaker. And if I did find myself caring, I'd probably be thinking along the same lines as mudpuppie.

posted by eamondaly 19 November | 20:21

That depends on whether there's a chance of a threesome. Then I'd go with un-hotter (I'm insecure).

Note: Involves tequila.

posted by Pips 19 November | 20:32

I'm dating Eideteker in my next life!

Hey, get in line behind mgl! She's got dibs. ;)

posted by Eideteker 19 November | 21:22

Of course, in their next life, they're both men.

posted by jonmc 19 November | 22:30

- your ex ten years ago now procreates with someone who looks much like you did ten years ago

This is the one that cracks me up the most when it happens. Does that count?

I'm dating Eideteker in my next life!

To heck with that --- I'm breaking up with Eideteker in my next life!

posted by Elsa 19 November | 22:54

I agree with Eidetaker, I all for my ex- being happy with whomever she's with. She already divorced the guy she left me for so she's obviously hurt herself more than she ever hurt me. She's essentially a good person, I'd never wish her ill.

posted by octothorpe 19 November | 23:25

all my exes are from texas...

sorry, wait what was the question again?

oh yeah. how about Option None Of The Above (tho Ardiril touched on it) where said x then comes out of the closet and you spend the next four months trying to be supportive in the face of his fundie-wackjob family whilst helping him pick out furniture with his new beau.

...so naturally I spent the next ten years living with a man who'd developed severe baggage owing to his first 2 girlfriends turning lesbian...

(this is not, for the record, an lfr-has-gender-issues post, merely an odd semi-drunken nostalgic 'huh' kind of thing)

posted by lonefrontranger 19 November | 23:33

I had one gf join the other team, and was, in another case, in this hopeless triangle with a lesbian and a married woman.

There was some cold comfort in not being "bested" by another guy. But, yeah cold comfort.

posted by danf 19 November | 23:41

I've never seen a picture of my first ex-boyfriend's wife and I never want to.

I had to be nice to my sixth ex-boyfriend's new girl because he hooked up with her while I was at my friend Kelly's wake and she started spending the night at the apartment we shared to save money (jonmc, this was the guy whom I got a job for at DumbCo). Later, after she dumped him for some of the same reasons we split up, we became real close friends for a while.

posted by TrishaLynn 20 November | 01:02

None of the above. I mean this is my ex right? How is this person's dating choice relevant to me?

posted by arse_hat 20 November | 01:07

How about this one: your ex gets a new love who works in the same office, nay, IN THE SAME ROOM as you do?

posted by JanetLand 20 November | 09:02

First two are terrible. Third is "haha, serves you right."

posted by casarkos 20 November | 11:26

To heck with that --- I'm breaking up with Eideteker in my next life!

Repeatedly, I hope. Makeup sex is the best when there's still some unresolved tension/aggression under the hood.

posted by Eideteker 20 November | 12:58

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