Hi Guys...I could use a hug, and maybe some advice
I got some really bad news today. I'm doing alright, but could use some advice→
[More:]Today I found out that my best friend of about 22 years passed away this weekend, and the ripe old age of 39. It sounds like he may have passed in his sleep due to a stroke, of the cerebral hemorrhage type.
I spent the afternoon calling old friends with shitty news and being pleased to hear that many of them thought they'd make the trip home. I've been in tears, and in the Irish Whiskey, in about equal amounts.
So, here's a question. His mom asked me if I thought I could speak at the funeral, because she and his dad were speaking about it, and they felt that there was no way they could do it. I'm not too bad at public speaking, and I think I can, so I said sure. I'm thinking that I should spend some time thinking of they sorts of things I'd like to say, and then sorta share this with them beforehand. I would hate to share, or say anything that caused them any more pain. Does this sound like a reasonable approach? Also, any tips for getting through that kind of speaking without falling apart?
Oh, and lastly, any tips on dealing with this kind of loss? The last loved one I lost was my 89 year old grandmother, whom I miss dearly, but it seemed easier, what with her being 89 and all. This just seems like a giant pile of fucked up.