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20 August 2008

SHOUTING THREAD! [More:]THE HIGH SCHOOL WILL NOT LET MY SON GO BACK TO SCHOOL BECAUSE THEY SAY THAT THEY DO NOT HAVE HIS CURRENT ADDRESS AND SOME MAIL THEY SENT OVER THE SUMMER WAS RETURNED. THIS IS FASCINATING SINCE WE'VE LIVED THERE FOR OVER A YEAR AND GOTTEN MAIL FROM THEM. I CALLED THE SCHOOL AND THEY TOLD ME NASTILY THAT THEY HAD TO HAVE PROOF OF WHERE WE LIVED AND NO, A DRIVER'S LICENSE WAS NOT PROOF. SO I PRINTED OUT AN ELECTRIC BILL (I GET THEM ONLINE) AND TRIED TO FAX IT TO THEM. I TRIED BOTH OF THEIR FAX NUMBERS FROM TWO DIFFERENT FAX MACHINES AND NEITHER OF THEM WENT THROUGH BUT WHEN I CALLED THEM BACK THEY SAID "WE'VE BEEN GETTING FAXES ALL DAY" AND ACTED LIKE I WAS TRYING TO HIDE SOMETHING. I AM BEYOND FURIOUS. IN THE MEANTIME MY SON IS WALKING TO MY OFFICE FROM THE SCHOOL BECAUSE I ACTUALLY THOUGHT THAT I COULD WORK ALL DAY TODAY FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A WEEK.

ON TOP OF THAT MY MOTHER WHO IS STILL IN THE HOSPITAL (BUT OUT OF ICU) HAS DEVELOPED MRSA. DO NOT GOOGLE THAT, IT WILL FREAK YOU OUT. THE HOSPITAL SAYS THAT IT IS NO BIG DEAL. BUT THEY ALSO HAVE HER IN ISOLATION, WHICH MEANS THAT WHEN I GO SEE HER, I HAVE TO STOP OUTSIDE HER ROOM AND PUT ON A GOWN AND GLOVES AND A MASK. THEN, GET THIS, THEY WANT ME TO TAKE THOSE THINGS OFF INSIDE HER ROOM AND THROW THEM AWAY BEFORE I LEAVE. WHAT, DO THEY THINK THE GERMS ARE KIND OF SLOW ON THE UPTAKE AND WON'T NOTICE THAT I'VE TAKEN THE MASK OFF IN THE EXACT SAME PLACE WHERE I WAS ALREADY STANDING TO TALK TO HER? AND IT'S DEHUMANIZING AND SAD AND SHE'S SUPPOSED TO BE WALKING AROUND NOW TO GET HERSELF BETTER BUT NOW SHE CAN'T BECAUSE THEY WON'T LET HER OUT OF HER ROOM AND ALSO I DON'T LIKE THE NURSES UP ON THE 7TH FLOOR; THEY'RE NOT ANYWHERE NEAR AS COMPETENT AND FRIENDLY AND GENERALLY NICE AS THE NURSES IN ICU OR AS THE NURSES WHO USED TO BE UP ON THE 7TH FLOOR TWO YEARS AGO WHEN SHE WAS SICK.

AND ON TOP OF THOSE TWO THINGS THE HOUSE I'M TRYING TO BUY FAILED THE HUD INSPECTION FOR SOME PURELY RIDICULOUS SHIT (THEY COMPLAINED THAT SOME WINDOWS WOULDN'T OPEN. I WENT OVER THERE YESTERDAY AND BANGED ON THE SASH AND BROKE THE SEAL WHERE THEY WERE PAINTED SHUT AND VOILA, THEY WORKED FINE, I MEAN, SHEESH) AND NOW I HAVE TO FIX EVERYTHING AND GET IT ALL REINSPECTED BEFORE I CAN GET A LOAN WHICH MIGHT MEAN, WORST CASE SCENARIO, THAT I AM ABOUT TO PAINT AN ENTIRE GARAGE FOR SOMEBODY ELSE ENTIRELY. BECAUSE PAINT ON THE GARAGE IS SUCH A PRESSING SAFETY ISSUE.

AND THEN, AS THE ICING ON TOP OF ALL THAT MY YOUNGER BROTHER IS GOING BACK TO NYC TONIGHT WHICH MEANS THAT MY OLDER BROTHER, MY DAUGHTER AND I HAVE TO TRY TO TAG TEAM TAKE CARE OF STROKE AUNTIE WHO HAS LIKE A BAZILLION THERAPY AND OTHER APPOINTMENTS TO GET TO AS WELL AS NEEDING STUFF LIKE FOOD COOKED FOR HER AND ALL THAT KIND OF THING. SHE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND HOW TO USE A PHONE SO WE DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE LEAVING HER ALONE FOR VERY LONG. WE KEEP PARKING HER IN FRONT OF MOVIES WHICH MAKES US FEEL GUILTY ALTHOUGH SHE'S FINE WITH IT EXCEPT SOMETIMES WE MAKE A BAD CHOICE AND SHE THEN GETS SCARED. BLADE RUNNER WAS APPARENTLY A BAD CHOICE AND NOW SHE IS KIND OF AFRAID OF REPLICANTS. I FEEL CONFIDENT THAT WE CAN KEEP THEM AT BAY, THOUGH. AS LONG AS WE STAY AWAY FROM THE HIGH SCHOOL. RIGHT NOW I COULD SO TOTALLY AXE ME SOME REPLICANTS.
I'm so sorry, mgl, but I couldn't help giggling about keeping replicants at bay.

Hang tough, lady. You'll get through it.
posted by lysdexic 20 August | 09:53
MGL, I'd call the school board on their rear ends.
posted by bunnyfire 20 August | 09:55
Sometimes you're the bug, sometimes you're the windshield. You're the bug right now, but this will pass and you will get through this, your mom will get well, your son will get back to school, your aunt will be taken care of and you will get your house. It will happen.

It will.
posted by essexjan 20 August | 10:02
I'M DONE COMPENSATING FOR FUCKING LAZY PEOPLE. STARTING TODAY, I'M PUSHING BACK THE SHIT THEY'RE TOO LAZY TO DO RIGHT BACK ONTO THEIR DESKS. KINDLY, CALMLY, FIRMLY. MEANWHILE, IN MY FIT OF ANGRY SELF DETERMINATION, I MANAGED TO BLINDLY BLOODY UP ONE OF MY KNUCKLES, HOW, I DON'T KNOW. OWW.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 20 August | 10:16
MGL!! ANY ONE OF THOSE THINGS WOULD HAVE ME IN THE FETAL POSITION. YOU ARE AWESOME AND YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!!

I AM NERVOUS ABOUT THE LAST DAY OF MY EXPERIMENT. I HOPE IT WORKS!!

2 MORE DAYS OF WORK AFTER TODAY!! YAY!!
posted by gaspode 20 August | 10:18
Oh MGL! I'm sorry things are the suck right now. I had no idea that your mom was sick again. I hope things smooth out for you soon. And I hope you get that house.
posted by jrossi4r 20 August | 10:19
I'll be more than happy to come kick people in the shins MGL. Totes.


Ahem.

I FEEL LIKE I MIGHT BE GETTING SICK WHICH IS CRAP BECAUSE I KNOW IT CAME FROM THIS OTHER DUDE IN OUR OFFICE (OF 4 PEOPLE) WHICH IS RIDIC. I'M GLAD TO HEAR THAT I'VE OFFICIALLY GOT A CLEAN BILL OF HEALTH FROM MY DOCTOR BUT I'M CRANKY ABOUT THE FACT THAT MY MOTHER SEEMS TO THINK THAT MY SEX LIFE IS HER BUSINESS. I'M ANGRY ABOUT THE FACT THAT I SEEM TO HAVE TO HIDE EVERYTHING FROM MY PARENTS BECAUSE I FEAR THEIR REACTION. I'M WORRIED ABOUT REGISTERING FOR THIS FALL CLASS BECAUSE I CAN'T REGISTER UNTIL A WEEK BEFORE IT STARTS AND THEY DON'T HAVE BOOKS LISTED AND I'VE NEVER BEEN ABLE TO FIND THIS CAMPUS WITHOUT GETTING LOST AND I DON'T HAVE A STUDENT ID OR ANYTHING AND I'M JUST FEELING OVERWHELMED. I'M NO GOOD AT THESE SORT OF ADULT THINGS. I JUST WANT SOMEONE ELSE TO TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHING AND JUST SAY "HERE'S YOUR STUFF. BE AT THIS LOCATION (DIRECTIONS HERE) AT THIS TIME ON THIS DATE."
AND I KEEP GETTING RANDOM I-WANT-TO-CRY SPELLS WHILE I'M AT WORK AND I MANAGE TO STUFF THEM BACK DOWN INSIDE MYSELF BUT THEN I CAN'T GET THEM BACK OUT LATER WHEN I AM ACTUALLY IN A PLACE WHERE I CAN CRY AND I FEEL LIKE I'LL NEVER BE ABLE TO GET THEM BACK OUT. I'M WORRIED THAT PEOPLE EXPECT CERTAIN THINGS OF ME THAT I CAN'T DELIVER AND I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY JUST WANT TO CURL UP IN BALL IN BED WITH MY BLANKET AND STUFFED BUNNY AND SLEEP AND READ AND NOT BE EXPECTED TO DO ANYTHING OR TALK TO ANYONE AND I JUST WANT TO GO BE SOMEWHERE ELSE THAT PEOPLE DON'T EXPECT ME TO DO THINGS OR BE THE PERSON THEY WANT ME TO BE.

*kicks desk.*
posted by sperose 20 August | 10:28
MGL, girl, I am feeling you. I am putting all of my good vibe energy your way today.
posted by msali 20 August | 10:30
Dag, mgl. I could shout, but I won't. I wish there was something I could do other than think about you. Maybe that helps, somehow.
posted by rainbaby 20 August | 10:50
I'M WORRIED THAT PEOPLE EXPECT CERTAIN THINGS OF ME THAT I CAN'T DELIVER AND I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY JUST WANT TO CURL UP IN BALL IN BED WITH MY BLANKET AND STUFFED BUNNY AND SLEEP AND READ AND NOT BE EXPECTED TO DO ANYTHING OR TALK TO ANYONE AND I JUST WANT TO GO BE SOMEWHERE ELSE THAT PEOPLE DON'T EXPECT ME TO DO THINGS OR BE THE PERSON THEY WANT ME TO BE.


Thank you for this. I feel like that all the time and no one gets it and I usually think I'm the only one.
posted by DarkForest 20 August | 10:50
(((MGL)))

(((sperose))) (Get some sleep, love. Seriously, I've been where you are not too long ago, and two good nights of sleep will help with the getting sick, and the crying jags, and the feeling of "Fuck this I'm done with being an adult!" It gets better, it really does)
posted by muddgirl 20 August | 10:51
MGL, you are dealing with a lot of stressful stuff right now. I'm sorry this is happening. The HUD thing and the school thing is absolutely nuts. Our school district is like this as well. Militant zoning laws. I would march down there. MRSA sucks too, but your mom will be OK. Stay in the hospital long enough and you'll get MRSA if you have an open wound or incision.
posted by LoriFLA 20 August | 11:31
I've got nothing to shout about today, but holy crap, just reading MGL's rant about gives me an anxiety attack.

Hang in there, MGL, and if you need somebody at the school knee-capped, I know a guy.
posted by BoringPostcards 20 August | 11:55
goddamn, mgl, your rant has got me wondering if you don't need some "Punch 'Em In The Dick" therapy.

I can't access or link to MeFi at work, but you'll have no problem finding this, it's been sidebarred. Give it a listen if you haven't already.
posted by lonefrontranger 20 August | 12:24
mgl, I don't know if you have time - I'll assume you don't today but perhaps might later this week - but could you set up a meeting with the principal by calling them directly, and take all kinds of residence proof to the school in person to prove that your family is resident there? When stuff like this happens, it's almost always a good idea to escalate, and with the school year approaching so quickly, I imagine they don't want you in their office for ages and ages; hopefully this can be solved in just a few minutes. Hell, type up a letter stating that you and your family live where you live, and on the way into the school for your meeting, get it notarized for a few dollars: let's see them challenge something you've legally, verifiably sworn is accurate. Schools loooove stamps and officialdom and bureaucracy - so you gotta beat them at their own game.

*raises fist in defiance of the system*
posted by mdonley 20 August | 13:13
mgl, another resource to look into (in your copious spare time) might be respite care for your aunt. Agencies have volunteers who will come in and watch elderly or sick patients so that the in-home caregivers (that is, you) can get some time to yourself for running errands or pulling your hair out in peace or whatever. (I used to volunteer for this sort of work with a local hospice, and the hospice I'm now working at does it as well, though respite care's not limited to end-of-life patients.)

It looks like the agency serving your area is Land of Sky Regional Council; their contact info for elder care, including respite care, is here.
posted by occhiblu 20 August | 13:43
A bit more info on respite care in NC, in case that first agency's not helpful.
posted by occhiblu 20 August | 13:46
OKAY SERIOUSLY WHAT THE MERRY ROTATING TWINKLY CHRIST IS THE DEAL WITH MY ANNOYING NEMESIS COLLEAGUE?! JUST TODAY THIS CLOWN STARTS IN ON ME FOR NO REASON WHATSOEVER, AND THEN AT THE END OF THE ARGUMENT IS ALL "OOOH, I BET YOU READ CORY DOCTROW..."

WHAT THE EVERLOVING CARAMEL-COATED FUCK?!

NO, ACTUALLY I REALLY DON'T HAVE ANY CLUE WHO THAT IS BEYOND SOMEONE INVOLVED WITH THE INTERNET SOMEHOW. AND SERIOUSLY, WTF IS YOUR PROBLEM ANYWAY YOU ADDLEPATED SMUGMUNCH?
posted by lonefrontranger 20 August | 13:50
WHAT THE EVERLOVING CARAMEL-COATED FUCK


That is the most appropriate statement I have ever heard. I am SO going to use this!!

MY LIFE IS COMPLICATED ENOUGH WITHOUT A RUN-AROUND TRYING TO FIND A THERAPIST. DON'T YOU PEOPLE REALIZE THAT I/WE NEED HELP, AND LIKE NOW, NOT WHENEVER YOU GET BACK TO ME TO SET UP AN APPOINTMENT????!!!!! AND HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE THAT MESSED UP THAT I HAD TO TRY THREE DIFFERENT THERAPISTS TO FIND ONE THAT CAN TAKE NEW CLIENTS???!!!

ADDLEPATED SMUGMUNCH

Love this, too.
posted by redvixen 20 August | 19:05
NOW I HAVE THINGS TO YELL ABOUT. THE TEMPERATURE CONTROL TO MY OFFICE IS IN MY NEIGHBOR'S OFFICE, AND IT'S FREEZING IN HERE! I HOPE HE RETIRES SOON SO I CAN TURN UP THE FREAKING THERMOSTAT!

ALSO, MY MANAGER JUST DUMPED 2 WEEKS WORTH OF WORK ON MY LAP AND TOLD ME TO GET IT DONE BY FRIDAY. OH, AND TO NOT MISS THE 4 HOUR DESIGN REVIEW TOMORROW. OH, AND DON'T FORGET ALL YOUR OTHER OBLIGATIONS.

NO. MY JOB IS NOT TO CLEAN UP YOUR MESSES, ASSHOLE. IF YOU WANT EVERYTHING DONE RIGHT NOW, THEN PAY ME SOME FUCKING OVERTIME.
posted by muddgirl 20 August | 19:19
I HAVE A COLD SORE SO BIG, I FEAR THAT IT WILL DECLARE ITSELF A SOVEREIGN NATION! SERIOUSLY! THE HERPESIANS HAVE COMPLETELY OVERTAKEN THE EASTERN HALF OF UPPER LIPUANIA AND THEY WANT THE WORLD TO KNOW!!!!!!!!!
posted by jrossi4r 20 August | 21:32
I JUST SAW MY BOYFRIEND IN BERKELEY, WHERE HE JUST MOVED, AND SEEING HIM WAS WONDERFUL AND REALLY SAD AT THE SAME TIME BECAUSE HE DIDN'T WANT ME TO MOVE THERE WITH HIM AND SO I'M STUCK IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP AND STUCK IN CRAPPY ARIZONA INSTEAD OF BERKELEY WHICH I LOVE. AND HE ORIGINALLY WANTED ME TO COME OUT THERE AGAIN FOR LABOR DAY WHICH WOULD HAVE BEEN GREAT AND ROMANTIC AND NOW HE SAYS HE'S NOT SETTLED ENOUGH AND IT'LL HAVE TO WAIT AND I MISS HIM SO FREAKING MUCH IT'S KILLING ME.

AND I SPENT ALL MORNING THINKING I HAD CERVICAL CANCER, BECAUSE THE FUCKING NURSE AT THE OBGYN DIDN'T CALL ME ON MONDAY LIKE SHE WAS SUPPOSED TO TO TELL ME MY TEST RESULTS WERE NEGATIVE, AND WOULDN'T LEAVE ME A MESSAGE TODAY JUST SAYING I WAS FINE, BUT INSTEAD LEFT ALL THE OMINOUS SOUNDING VOICEMAILS ABOUT HOW I SHOULD CALL HER BACK, SO I THOUGHT SURELY THE NEWS WAS GOING TO BE BAD. AND THANK GOD IT WASN'T BUT I FELT LIKE CRAP ALL DAY.
posted by Twiggy 20 August | 22:33
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