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Collaborating. You tend to express above average assertiveness and above average cooperation. Some of your associaties may think of you as an owl because you believe that two people working together can come up with a better answer than either can produce individually.
Of course, I might be lying on my answers - or more likely, self-deluded.
Compromising. You tend to express about average assertiveness and cooperation. Some of your associates may think of you as a fox because of your ability to make trade offs to accomplish what you want by helping the other person gain what he/she wants.
I got the same as taz. I didn't know that owls are collaborative.
Of course, my professional conflict resolution style is a bit different from my personal conflict resolution style. When I'm representing a client, I have to fight a lot harder to defend my position than when I'm just having a disagreement with an acquaintance. In the latter instance, I tend to feel that it's not worth the trouble.
Though I think part of that may be because the quiz was so vague. I have different conflict-resolution styles depending on my relationship with the person with whom I'm having a conflict, and depending on how important the issue is, so it's hard to answer these questions as an all-or-nothing sort of thing.
Hmmm. Maybe that last paragraph just shores up that "compromising" label... Heh.
I got "Collaborating", but I don't think that's always true- like occhiblu says, it's different depending on the person and the issue. I can think of times I've collaborated, times I've competed, times I've compromised, and times I've avoided (but no times I've accomodated; guess that's not my style).
Collaborating. But I thought I might get something more like Controlling, which is pretty much true. I tend to be the person who steers conflicts toward resolution or dissolution. Sometimes I try to stand down, accomodate and let other people take the reins and it still fails to work. It's nice when I meet really dominant people. Vacation.
I find competitiveness in personal affairs maddening, which makes me something of an I-statement addict and an eye-roller when people are assjabbering wrong.
Sometimes I try to stand down, accomodate and let other people take the reins and it still fails to work. It's nice when I meet really dominant people. Vacation.
Hee. I finally worked out, in my group therapy course, that I don't really mind who the leader of any given group is, as long as there is a leader. Put me in a non-hierarchical, indecisive or conflict-ridden group, and I get control freak as all hell. Granted, I hide the controlling behind a mask of "And what are your concerns?", but I have to say the only question that truly resonated on that quiz was "I am always willing to consider other people's opinions, but I make my own decisions." Those decisions will most likely take into account everyone else's underlying concerns, and be good for the group as a whole, but still. Indecisive leaderless groups drive me completely batty. One-on-one, I'm happy to be democratic and equal. When group dynamics start making it exponentially more difficult to accommodate everyone, then I want Fascism, dammit. :-)
Accommodating. You tend to express below average assertiveness and above average cooperation. Some of your associates may think of you as a teddy bear because you tend to satisfy others in order to get along better with them.
Which is pretty accurate, even though I wish I had more of a backbone sometimes.
Collaborating. You tend to express above average assertiveness and above average cooperation. Some of your associaties may think of you as an owl because you believe that two people working together can come up with a better answer than either can produce individually.
I would have thought myself more accommodating than collaborating. I don't have to assert much in my job. Maybe I do and I don't know it because I accommodate instead. I go with the flow most of the time.
I am also collaborative, but I don't like how this questionnaire doesn't have questions that depend on how right you are. I mean, when I know I am right, I will fight a lot harder than when I am not sure what the best course of action is.
And that whole question about supporting someone who thinks they have a good idea... well, what do I think of their idea? If I think it is a good one I will totally support them. But if I think it's crap, like my friend's idea to make a movie remake of Alice in Wonderland with raccoons, I won't support them just because they think it is good.
Yep, avoiding. I think I'm good at knowing what matters and what doesn't. Often the best way to "win" is not to give a shit. The universe really doesn't care about your opinion.
Shark Week, I'm in it.
Ha! Me, too! We're obviously the orneriest bunnies in all the 'chat and therefore must either fight to the death or join forces to take over the place.
Collaborating owl here, as well. Though in years past, I really was an avoiding turtle. I still hate conflicts, but I've learned to stand up for myself over the years, and express myself better.
Compromising. That fits pretty well. Normally, I have no idea what to do with myself or my attention, but when people I know are having a conflict, it's like I automatically know my role. Listen carefully to each side. State person a's concerns in person in a way that's sensitive to person b's way of seeing things, and visa-versa.
Competing. You tend to express above average assertiveness and below average cooperation. Some of your associates may think of you as a shark because you like to have things your way.
*joins the sharks in the tank*
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