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04 July 2008

From the bad to worse file. Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse.
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At the beginning of this year, both of my sisters nearly died, one on purpose, one accidentally. I have been stressed out in my attempts to assist them over the past few months. One is doing well, the other not so much.
In February, I lost sight in my left eye, and found out that it was the result of a blood clotting disorder that I apparently have had all my life. I will never regain vision fully in my left eye, it has been permanently damaged. And now I have to take blood thinners to prevent another event.
My son is 17 years old, and is acting every minute of his age. He wants to be an adult, and wants to be treated like an adult, but is still very much a child. It's an old story, nothing new, it is just my year to deal with a rebellious teen. He got himself a homemade tattoo last week that looks like shit, but you get what you pay for, and US$ 20 doesn't get you very far. Luckily, it did not get infected.
I threw up my hands the other day, complaining to my friend and said, "Goddamit, could things be ANY WORSE?!" I shouldn't have said that. Yesterday we found out that the back pain that has been bothering my husband for the past few weeks in actuality is caused by a tumor. His cancer is back. Fuck.
Sorry dear :-(
posted by ThePinkSuperhero 04 July | 12:16
msali, how stressful. I am so sorry.

Good wishes for improved health and a cyber hug for you, msali. Keep us updated on your hubby.
posted by LoriFLA 04 July | 12:24
Oh hon, I'm so sorry. I also have an almost 17 year old son and I'm right there with you on that one: adolescent boys alone are enough to drive a saint to drink or worse. And going through all the rest is, just - wow. My mother, before her conversion to atheism, used to say that the good lord doesn't give us more than we can handle; now, we say bitterly that he sure does love to figure out exactly how much you can handle, the fucker. Things come in piles; it is true. Try, as hard as it is right now, to take care of yourself a little. I'll be thinking of you and hoping for the best for you and your family and keeping you in the light.
posted by mygothlaundry 04 July | 12:26
Hugs and best wishes from me too, msali. I'm sorry to hear things are so tough on you right now.
posted by scody 04 July | 12:28
:-(

That is overwhelming just to hear about. Whatever it takes, make some time for yourself.
posted by -t 04 July | 12:29
I have the most bizarre project for the weekend. When my husband first got cancer six years ago, we were living in Brazil. That means that all of his medical records are in Portuguese, so this weekend, I have to go through the mountains of paperwork, put everything in order, then translate the important stuff into English, trying to make things reasonably coherent in the process.
Pluses: I just had my house professional cleaned because I don't have time to do it myself. My floors fucking gleam. My son's room looks like a boy doesn't live there (it smells fresh and pretty). The family is descending this weekend upon us, we were supposed to go to the beach to visit them.
Fuck cancer.
posted by msali 04 July | 12:32
A good friend of mine has been going through treatment for abdominal cancer - lymphoma, actually, the bad kind, through most of him - and three weeks ago the doctors gave him another CAT scan and said, dude, we're sorry, but nothing is working and, well, it's over. It was very bad.

Ten days ago, another doctor said, you know what, let's do a PET scan (this is, I guess, a new thing - we joke that it's more than a CAT scan, it includes DOGS and LIZARDS and PARROTS and stuff) and just see what we've really got going on.

What they thought were new tumors or growing tumors turned out to be nothing but scar tissue where the tumors were. The tumors themselves are all gone. Totally gone. He's cured. He's going to be fine. So yeah, fuck cancer and never give up.
posted by mygothlaundry 04 July | 12:38
I'm so sorry to hear this, msali. What mgl said: fuck cancer and never give up. Hugs to you and your husband, and hears hoping for much better news to come!
posted by taz 04 July | 12:48
ali, I just left you a voice mail, missy.
posted by Stewriffic 04 July | 12:51
I am so sorry.

(The son thing is normal-he'll have a year of it and then turn back human.)

For the other, I have no words, except this just isn't fair.
posted by bunnyfire 04 July | 13:10
Fuck cancer, msali. I know what you're going through; I'm sure I've complained too much here. Mr. V is undergoing an oral chemo for his cancer; our 18 year old daughter thinks she's grown and has just left to move to Texas to be with a boy she met on MySpace. I can only offer a sympathetic smile and an ear - I hope that's okay. Plus, my father-in-law was recently hospitalized for fluid retention. He has congestive heart failure. Yeah, sometimes it just seems like everything comes crashing down all at once. It sucks.

((((((((((msali))))))))) and lots of whuffles, too.
posted by redvixen 04 July | 13:11
I am so sorry. But yeah, fuck cancer. I remember my stepson at 17. He grew out of it. He turned out just fine.
posted by essexjan 04 July | 13:11
Holy shit, msali - and fuck cancer.

(((((msali)))))
posted by goo 04 July | 14:00
I'm so sorry, msali. Big hugs to you.
posted by jrossi4r 04 July | 14:08
I'm so sorry msali. Fuck cancer indeed.
posted by gaspode 04 July | 14:28
Oddly enough, an hour ago and a mile away from the internet (oh, you know what I mean), I was saying exactly that: "Fuck cancer."

I'll be thinking of you and hoping for the best for you and your family and keeping you in the light.

I can't say it better than that.

(((((msali)))))

And that, for msali and (((((redvixen))))) too.
posted by Elsa 04 July | 14:46
Is there anything I can do to help? Cause I will do that shit hardcore.

*hugs*
posted by By the Grace of God 04 July | 15:02
You're having a really hard time of it right now, msali. Hugs and good thoughts and even prayers if you're into that.
posted by lleachie 04 July | 15:17
i will fix your stupid child's tattoo after he has suffered for a few years of looking like someone with a bad tattoo.
When i find those dietary nutrition tips for like eye conditions, i will pass them along.
As for the rest, i have some faith in science and all the best hopes i can summon.
posted by ethylene 04 July | 15:23
Y'all are great, which is why I chose to share it with you. I need to hear from awesome people right now. Ethylene, I am in full agreement about the stupid tattoo. Let him suffer for a few years with a stupid tattoo. (It's an Aries symbol wearing a king's crown, I'll let you draw your own conclusions). Thanks for all of your good thoughts and vibes, folks.
posted by msali 04 July | 15:37
Yeah, fuck cancer, your son will get over it or not and pretty much all you can do about him is stand by and watch and I'm sure things will get better all around (always darkest just before the dawn etc). If hopes and prayers can make it happen, it's clear that it will happen, because a lot of people are doing both on your behalf.
posted by dg 04 July | 17:38
My roommate started chemotherapy last week. Yes, screw cancer. Keep breathing and take it one day at a time. *hugs*
posted by halonine 05 July | 00:06
His cancer is back.

I'm so sorry to hear that msali... Hugs to you and your family.

Your son sounds like any other teenager; he'll be okay:)
posted by hadjiboy 05 July | 08:27
hey msali, I don't have much to add, but I wanted to add my voice to the rousing chorus of "fuck cancer". I've been soooo lucky that it hasn't touched my loved ones, and I keep knocking on wood to try to keep it that way. I am so sorry that you guys are having to go through this again. I'll keep some positive vibes coming from Canada for you guys!
posted by richat 05 July | 08:47
Yeah, fuck cancer.

*hugs* and best wishes you you and all of your loved ones.
posted by goshling 05 July | 18:57
Oh man, I am so sorry msali.

You made me LOL with this, though:

He got himself a homemade tattoo last week that looks like shit, but you get what you pay for, and US$ 20 doesn't get you very far.

There's a fiery spirit in that sentence that's going to help you get through whatever the future holds.

*hug*
posted by BoringPostcards 05 July | 22:26
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