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15 April 2008

The passage of time is inconceivable... About two years ago, I had much trouble conceiving and understanding the amount of time I had been alive. 34 years! I was "around in the 1970s. Holy crap. That feels so long ago. Where did the time go? Why do I remember so little? My parents look old! How did that happen?" I found the feeling slightly uncomfortable. [More:]

I visited with my parents this weekend and I think I've largely accepted never really understanding "where the time went."

Nevertheless, I wonder: Does everyone feel this discomfort at some point in their lives?
tcv. it just keeps getting frigging better, believe me!

*takes another hit of oxygen before getting up out of his chair and hoping that this is the trip to the restroom he'll actually pee.*
posted by danf 15 April | 12:01
Does everyone feel this discomfort at some point in their lives?

Constantly. I've kept a journal on and off for many years. I wrote an entry in one not unlike this back in the 1980s. And it's been 20 more years since then. But it's probably just me. I probably haven't used my time well.
posted by DarkForest 15 April | 12:11
Yes, and the older you get the quicker it goes.

I was away for two weeks and came back to see that my Mom was seemingly much older. I panicked a bit when I wondered if she had a mild stoke or something.

I suppose part of it is due to the fact that when you don't see someone everyday, the creeping changes are more aparent upon first sight.

Also, I think that little kids notice everything, which makes each moment last longer. I can spend a day as if on autopilot, not noticing anything in particular, and wonder where the day went.
posted by mightshould 15 April | 12:11
Hee, danf...I hear you. Not as well as I used to, but I hear you.

I remember the first time I referred to something that had happened in the past and said "ten years ago". I was in my 20s and was momentarily stunned that I had been alive long enough to have had anything of importance happen "ten years ago".
posted by iconomy 15 April | 12:20
Also, I think that little kids notice everything, which makes each moment last longer.

Also, as we age, each moment or each day is a smaller percentage of what we've already experienced. Remember when we were kids, and each summer seemed like it lasted forever? Well, 3 months was, like, 5% of our life at that point!
posted by muddgirl 15 April | 12:29
Whippersnappers. Just wait. I have friends now that weren't even born when I was their age. If that makes sense.

Fortunately I also have friends who are much older than I am, so I appreciate the changes time brings.

[/older person babble, grumbling about lawns]
posted by jokeefe 15 April | 13:09
The passage of time is so evident when you see your friend's kids that you haven't seen in ages - and one of them just celebrated his 21st birthday. Ouch.
posted by redvixen 15 April | 13:09
One of my habits is, when getting coffee or something, and they have the Beatles on the music system, is to observe that I was younger than they are now WHEN THIS STUFF CAME OUT. . .

I am not sure that that accomplishes, or why I do it, but I can't seem to help myself.

My other old person line is, when my daughter starts spewing BS, is "I have a pair of shoes older than you are, so what would I expect YOU to know?" (stolen from Gibson)
posted by danf 15 April | 13:17
My wife attributes the changing perception of the passage of time to ever-thinning slices of time relative to your age. When you're a kid, a weekend constitutes a much larger slice of time in your life than when you're 62.

I think it's a shame that we forget so much. :-(
posted by tcv 15 April | 13:29
Ha! My youngest child (mother of the Grandbun) just turned 21.

!!!!!!!!

(I can actually remember when Kennedy was president. I lived thru the first moon landing. And Watergate. And the Ford administration. And I don't feel one whit older than 21 myself.)
posted by bunnyfire 15 April | 15:31
I remember feeling, when I was younger, a certain sense of awe that I would be around for the dawning of the 21st century, but that I would be really, really old :-(

I listened to the first moon landing live on the radio at school, because TVs in schools were an unheard of thing back then.

Time goes faster and faster every day, but I still don't feel older than I did when I was 30 (16 years ago). Except when I look in the mirror first thing in the morning, perhaps.
posted by dg 15 April | 15:50
little kids notice everything, which makes each moment last longer.

This is absolutely true! Doing new things causes your mind to slow down again to a kidlike pace, though. Have you ever noticed that when changing jobs, say, or going on a trip to somewhere you've never been before, or doing something like hiking or sailing or visiting a museum that brings you new visual information, the day seems longer? That's when you sit over dinner and say to your companions "Did we do that just this morning? Seems like days ago!" Attention, in and of itself, helps time feel slower. I take this as a good reminder to always try to be learning and doing new stuff, to make life feel longer.

But I agree that time is astoundingly evaporative.

I like the physicist's idea that time exists just to keep everything from happening all at once.


posted by Miko 15 April | 16:18
Yeah, what she said ;-)
posted by dg 15 April | 16:24
See, you're going about it all wrong.

I started out old, and I'm growing younger ever day. By the time I'm born, I won't understand any of this stuff, but a day will seem like an eternity.
posted by Doohickie 15 April | 18:48
Ha, doohickie!
posted by Miko 15 April | 19:51
Welcome to the Human condition!

Time's Arrow Doohickie.
posted by arse_hat 15 April | 23:36
A niece of mine just a baby (a girl!) and thought, "It wasn't that long ago that I used to change her diapers and now she has a baby?!"

Another "where does the time go" moment was last year when my oldest brother turned 50.

Unpossible!
posted by deborah 16 April | 01:07
And then they said, "What the hell," and built a penis-camera. || Specklet in NYC bump!

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