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14 March 2008
Wordy Whateverdayoftheweek: What do/did you call your grandparents?→[More:]
All of them were Grandma and Grandpa (I suppose Gramma and Grampa when we were younger). If we were referring to them in the third person, they would be "Gramma Last-Name" and "Granpa-Last-Name".
I only had two -- Dad's father was called Granddaddy Rob, and Mother's mother was called Grandma.
When my parents became grandparents, they selected Granddaddy and Grandmother as their grandparent names (although my mother's first idea was "Your Majesty").
My sister is a grandmother now, and she goes by Nana. Her husband is Poppa Mole.
Dad's parents are: Grandma and Grandpa (both still living)
Mom's parents were: Mom and Grumpy Old Fucker. (They've both been dead for years. At one point a couple years after my mom's dad died my mom asked me what I remembered about him and literally the only memories I could come up with were him being a grumpy old fucker.)
Maternal: Grandpa & Grandma (and her second husband I call by his first name)
Never met the paternals. Also, my cousins call my grandparents by different names, which really freaks me out. Actually, I find most grandparent names besides grandma/grandpa disconcerting for reasons I can't explain.
Only knew maternal grandparents, who were Nana (still living) and Grandad.
Actually, I'm interested in the breakdown of people who call their grandparents "XYZ firstname" vs. "XYZ lastname". The first time I heard my husband refer to his maternal grandmother as "Grandma Felesky" I kind of freaked out. I'd never heard of that before and it seemed so formal.
Never met the paternals, and my maternal grandfather died when I was three, so I just had my Nonni. I called her by the Italian name, although in actuality she was ethnically Croatian, but I guess that was the case because the rest of the family are wops.
I really dig the mee-maw pee-paw, and if I stay any longer in the south, I may just start calling any older people by that name.
I think it is cute that one of my three year old friends calls her granny "Honey".
How did you all come to use "Grammy"? My family has a story that I was watching the Grammy awards and that's when I decided on the name. Fun times because since I was the oldest grandkid it stuck for all my siblings and cousins. I never learned that til I was in my 20s. I named my grandmother!
Maternal: Deceased before I was born.
Paternal: Adey (family-wide mispronunciation of "father"), Grandma
The coolest thing is that my nieces call my parents "Lolo" and "Lola" because those are the Filipino words for "grandfather" and "grandmother." That way there's Grandpa [Name] and Grandma [Name] and Lolo [Name] and Lola [Name].
Paternal: Mimi and Papa
Maternal: Pacho Mimi, Pacho Papa
The Mimi and Papa thing is from my mom's family; my little sister one day decided that we needed to differentiate between the two sets of grandparents, so mom's folks got the Pacho (pronounced "patch - o") addition. No one knows why Pacho, but it seemed to work for everybody so it stuck.
Both sides in my case, and both sides for all my nieces and nephews: Grandma and Grandpa. Though we pronounce it "Gramma and Grampa", and my mother insists on spelling the names that way, though no one else does.
What's always really funny is when my nieces and nephews individually reach the developmental stage in which they realize that Mummy, Daddy, Grandma and Grandpa have actual names. They ask what all the names are, and then when told what my dad's name is, say, "Grandpa's name is HARRY?!! HEEE HEEE HEEE HEEE HEEE HEEE HEEE!!!"
One generation up: Mormorsmor, Mormorsfar (did not have him), Morfarsmor, Morfarsfar.
paternal: Farmorsmor, Farmorsfar and Farfarsmor Farfarsfar.
Later I'll explain all the words in the cousin system.
Perle has a mormorsmor and an oldemor, which is her farfarsmor but since they're Danish they only say "oldemor" meaning "The old mother". My boyfriends parents want to be called "bestemor" and "bestefar" which is literally "best mother/father" meaning favorited grandparents, but since I'm Swedish I'm not having any of that so Perle calls them farmor and farfar.
Paternal: Granny/Granddaddy Region/social etc... background = Granny was from Bath, UK and Grandaddy was from Nags Head, NC; both of the country-clubbish ilk. Granny was veddeh propah and they had a hand in raising me for tracts of my kindergarden-Grade 5 years, since my parents were at times too busy being hippies to be arsed to look after me.
Maternal: Grandfather [lastname] and Grandmother [lastname]. Old money Boston elite stock; direct descendants of the Mayflower landing, ivy league, debutante class, blablabla (gad how I feared / despised being around them). I don't recall much about them besides that they terrified me with their grandeur, and their 40-room Larchmont mansion was a cold and scary place to visit. My most vivid recollections were of my maternal Aunt (a terrible snob, S.N.O.B. WASP blueblood extraordinaire in the mold of her mother; think Bertie Wooster's Aunt Agatha sans comic niceties or really, any redeeming qualities), who had alternate custody of me while Granny / Granddaddy were off travelling the world. Her husband (my uncle), a terrifyingly authoritarian despot, had my waist-length hair hacked off the second day I was in their household, since 'little girls cannot maintain long hair adequately'. I was eight at the time and it was the singular most traumatic experience of my lifetime, bar none. It still makes me furious just thinking about it. I wasn't the only 'cousin' this happened to, either. Uncle George was universally loathed.
They tried to have me carted off to a private girl's school, which was a spectacular failure. Between them, my dad's abortive attempts at a Catholic private education, and the low-rent tiny rural public school in Ohio that I alternately attended, it's a wonder I got any education at all.
My mom's parents were Grandma and Sugar. Sugar because he's from Alabama, and I'm the oldest grandchild, and when he called me "Sugar" I called him "Sugar" right back. That became his grandpanrental name for all the cousins.
My dad's parents? Louise and Don. After Don died, Louise married Vic.
Aunts and uncles were first names across the board.
Great-aunts and uncles on my dad's side were first names, and on my mom's side Aunt or Uncle Whoever.
Sugar because he's from Alabama, and I'm the oldest grandchild, and when he called me "Sugar" I called him "Sugar" right back.
I absolutely love that.
paternal: Granny, Grampy. Grampy was also known as Bozo or as The Reverend.
maternal: Nanny. My mother's father died before any of my parent's surviving children were born; in conversation with my mother, I call him "your father." (His surname is my middle name, and I get my prematurely white hair from him.)
Maternal:
Nonnie (not Italian, just the name she chose because she didn't like Grandma) and Grandpa. They were divorced by the time grandkids came around and their subsequent spouses were called by their first names.
Aunts and Uncles were Aunt [first name], Uncle [first name] until we were older and now it's just first names, except for my mum's younger sister who was Aunt Lolly (Bro#1 mispronouncing Leslie) and her first husband who was Uncle Lump (because he was the biggest lump in the bed that included the two humans and two cats).
Paternal:
Not worth mentioning.
The mister is called Grandpa (he's the only existing grandfather) and I'm called by my first name (although some "honorific" would be nice, I feel uncomfortable bringing up the subject).
I named them when i was three. They were Bama and Rempa. Bama's nickname was already Bam, and she was from Alabama, and Rempa's nickname was Rem and the obvious was bam-ma and rem-pa.
My maternal grandmother was the only grandparent alive when i was born and she was called Mama. Not to be mistaken for my mom who was (and still is) Mummy.
Our neighbours kids call their grandparents oma and opa because their dad is German, so, so are the grandparents. It's bloody adorable to hear a three year old boy yell "oooooopaaaa!".
Now for the Swedish cousin system. Are you ready?
In Swedish, your parents siblings children are "kusiner", that is, cousins. In Danish only females are "kusine" and males are "fætter".
If two cousins have kids, their offspring are "sysslingar" to each other, also known as tremänningar (three men). Their children then become "bryllingar" to each other (also known as fyrmänningar = four men). The bryllingars children are femmänningar (five men), that is a relative five steps removed. Also known as "Pyssling".
It would be a hoot (and likely impossible) to gather my families kusiner, sysslingar, bryllingar and pysslingar together once. And to try to say it ten times fast.
paternal grandparents are deceased, but I called them grandma and grandpa. My maternal grandparents are alive and i call them 'nonna' and 'nonno' which is the Italian equivalent.
Paternal: Grandma & Grandpa (immediate), Grandma Lastname and Grandpa Lastname (great grandparents)
Maternal: Grammy and Pa (immediate), Granny and Granddad (great grandparents), Ammaw and Big Daddy (great, great grandparents)
Maternal: Nana and Pop (both still alive)
Paternal: Granma (modified to Granma Stella by my mother, who hated her) and Pop (who I never met) (both not still alive)
Maternal: Nana and Pa (both gone, and oh, how I miss them.)
Paternal: When I was little, I called them MaMa and PaPa... shortened to Pop as I've gotten older, for some reason. Both still living.