My grandmother had a stroke on Monday →[More:] she also has an infection and aspiration pneumonia which were only diagnosed after she had the stroke. Apparently she'd also had one which wasn't treated properly when the "caregiver" who had been abusing her was still there. I've just gotten an email saying she's paralyzed (she'd been in a wheel chair for some time after breaking her hip) on the right and unconscious.

I'm not sure what I'm feeling; I don't like or love her, given that I saw her being a nasty, bipolar alcoholic most of my life. She became much more subdued once she was diagnosed with (I think alcoholic) dementia and put on Prozac and tranquilizers after my mother became her conservator, but that was way too late to develop any sort of loving relationship.

However, I think it's my duty to go back to LA when she dies (other than the meetup, this past week there hasn't been that great because of my illnesses and the tense situation with my aunt--it also turns out that my dad has been doing his exercises, but has gained back all the weight he lost right after the heart surgery) ...there won't be any funeral--she'll be cremated and scattered in the ocean-- but I assume there will be some kind of family gathering; complicated by the fact that my youngest uncle has been court ordered to stay away from everyone in the family (more much later on that). This may well be within the next few days.