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20 December 2007

How long should it take to get used to a new boy/girlfriend? I've been dating someone for the past couple of months.→[More:] I really like him, including sexual attraction, but I'm always thinking things like: His voice is very pleasant but it's too high (it's not all *that* high), I don't like his nose but I do like his eyes, etc. I wish he was my age instead of 5 years older. He's not TOO tall for me, but I'd like it better if he was shorter. Is this ever gonna stop? Is this just because we haven't had the time or opportunity to connect with each other on a deeper level? Or am I doomed to seek perfection and probably never find it?

post by: serena at: 23:15 | 5 comments

Are you trying to find ways out because you're afraid of it ending badly? Are you trying to preclude being dumped?

Sometimes in a relationship, you just need to look to the heavens and smile, because somewhere a star is shining.

Maybe you need to take some time to get your head together. You seemed very focused on physical details but nothing you've mentioned (except maybe the age) has much to do with your relationship.

Not to be critical. Things are probably wonderful. If they're not, you need to focus on what the real problem is. He's not going to grow any taller or younger.

posted by Eideteker 20 December | 23:22

Everything you list is a physical trait. Are you sure you are attracted to him sexually?

posted by mischief 20 December | 23:24

How long should it take to get used to a new boy/girlfriend?

If you're not sure if s/he's a boy- or girlfriend, it could take a while. I'd find out ASAP. That'll help smooth things out.

posted by shane 20 December | 23:49

Everybody gets old, in the end- bald, wrinkled, frail. Will you still want to be with him then?

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 21 December | 00:19

I don't know, it sounds like you're looking for little things to find wrong. Are you sure there isn't a bigger compatability issue or something similar that you don't want to think about?

posted by kellydamnit 21 December | 11:26

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