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05 December 2007

I have sad news My Mom died this morning after a long illness. When I typed that, I burst into tears. →[More:]

I emailed ColdChef, who called me instantaneously to offer advice, bless his heart. thanks, GJ.

The best celebration we could have would be a massive lobster bake with plenty of booze, music and dancing. Mom's friends are too old for that, but I think my sibs can celebrate her in style. She was vibrant, strong, funny, and really smart. She was other things, as well, but you don't need to hear about that today.

Would you all please call your Moms and tell her you love her. thanks.

post by: theora55 at: 12:10 | 66 comments

(((((((((((theora55)))))))))))

posted by bunnyfire 05 December | 12:19

I'm so sorry for your loss, theora55.

posted by gaspode 05 December | 12:20

I'm so sorry. She sounds like a great woman.
I sometimes think about the day my mother will go, and it seems unbearable.
Take care.

posted by Hellbient 05 December | 12:21

Aw theora, I'm really very sorry to hear it. Tomorrow will be the 7th anniversary of losing my mom, and it has gotten easier, but she has not faded in the least. I hope that the warmth of good memories quickly overcomes the pain of today's loss. My email's in the profile if you want to talk more.

love,
chewie

posted by chewatadistance 05 December | 12:21

Take care of yourself. I'm sad for you.

posted by iconomy 05 December | 12:24

My condolences on your loss. The expectation of grief does not lessen it, when it finally arrives. Honor her memory in bearing her passing.

posted by paulsc 05 December | 12:27

My heart goes out to you theora.

posted by MonkeyButter 05 December | 12:29

I'm sorry for your loss. Take care.

posted by essexjan 05 December | 12:29

*hugs theora55*

posted by brujita 05 December | 12:29

Oy. I'm so sorry theora.

posted by CitrusFreak12 05 December | 12:34

*hug* I'm so sorry. Your plan sounds great... I think I would prefer people to celebrate my memory rather than mourning it.
I wish there was something more, but in some cases there really aren't words.

And ColdChef is a wonderful, wonderful person. He was a huge help to me when my ex husband passed away.

posted by kellydamnit 05 December | 12:35

theora55, I'm so very sorry.

Take good care of yourself, and please let me know if there's anything I can do. You know I'm just a few (blocks/miles) away; my email's in my profile.

She was vibrant, strong, funny, and really smart.

Clearly, you take after her.

posted by Elsa 05 December | 12:36

Oh, theora55. Take good care of yourself. ((((hugs))))

posted by goo 05 December | 12:38

So sorry for your loss theora55. You stay strong now.

posted by ramix 05 December | 12:42

so, so sorry to hear this!

posted by Wilder 05 December | 12:43

I'm very sorry for your loss. Your Mom sounds like a wonderful spirit.

posted by rainbaby 05 December | 12:44

I'm very sorry for your loss, theora.

posted by box 05 December | 12:45

Oh theora, I'm so sorry. *hug*

posted by BoringPostcards 05 December | 12:46

It's always sad to lose a parent. I hope everything goes well for you.

posted by chuckdarwin 05 December | 12:53

Awww. Sorry to hear it.

posted by klangklangston 05 December | 13:03

I am sorry for your loss, theora. I am glad that she had such a good life.

Death sucks, though. No matter how one frames it. It just sucks.

posted by danf 05 December | 13:13

theora55: I'm sorry for your loss. I also know how sick you probably are of hearing that (or will be, anyway) - it's been a little more than 5 months since my mom died, and I got so sick of that. Maybe that's just youthful impatience, I don't know.

I don't know what your relationship to your siblings is like, but when mom died, my sibs and I all drew a lot closer than we had been in years; that was really helpful for me. everyone's different of course.

anyway. take care of yourself.

posted by dismas 05 December | 13:16

Very sorry to hear it, theora. Take care.

posted by mudpuppie 05 December | 13:19

*hugs*

posted by sperose 05 December | 13:19

My sympathies. I lost my mother to heart disease over 20 years ago (and here I am following in her footsteps). You never quite get over it, but you also never forget the good things...

posted by wendell 05 December | 13:20

Sincere condolences, theora55. Take care.

posted by chrismear 05 December | 13:20

I'm so very sorry :-(

posted by ThePinkSuperhero 05 December | 13:21

Huge hugs to you, honey; I'm so sorry for you and your family.

posted by taz 05 December | 13:25

That is sad news indeed. Please do take care of yourself. My blessings to you and your family.

posted by Specklet 05 December | 13:26

Theora, I'm so sorry. Be kind to yourself. We're thinking of you.

*hugs*

posted by Fuzzbean 05 December | 13:31

I'm very sorry to hear it, theora55. Stay well.

posted by Atom Eyes 05 December | 13:36

I'm so sorry for your loss, theora. ((((hugs))))

posted by brina 05 December | 13:42

I'm very sorry for your loss. Take care.

posted by triggerfinger 05 December | 13:43

How hard, theora. Please do take care of yourself, in whatever way you need to right now, and my thoughts are with you.

posted by occhiblu 05 December | 13:46

Oh theora, I'm so sorry. She sounds like an amazing woman. Please come back and tell us more about her when you're feeling up to it.

posted by jrossi4r 05 December | 13:56

::hugs:: Please take care, you and family both, and you should definitely have the lobster bake in her memory.

posted by casarkos 05 December | 14:17

Theora I'm so sorry. I'll be thinking of you and I'll give my mom a big hug when I see her tonight.

posted by small_ruminant 05 December | 14:17

my condolences, theora.

posted by syntax 05 December | 14:49

Very sorry to hear of your loss. Best wishes to you and your family.

posted by me3dia 05 December | 15:11

You have my condolences, theora. Take care of yourself.

posted by deborah 05 December | 15:20

((((hugs))))

posted by smich 05 December | 15:20

Please take care of yourself, sweetie. I'm so sorry about your mom.

I hadn't read MeCha today until now, but earlier in the morning I had an urge to email my mom. I sent her a note that said "I miss you. Are you drinking enough water?" She happened to be at the library so we volleyed a few quick notes back and forth. I'm really glad that happened, having read your post.

Your mom sounds like an amazing person. (hugs)

posted by SassHat 05 December | 15:24

Theora, there's not much I can say which hasn't already been said but my condolences for your loss. Take care of yourself.

posted by ooga_booga 05 December | 15:28

My thoughts are with you, too, on such a sad day. Be well, and celebrate her memory, when you can, the way you think proper.

posted by Miko 05 December | 15:28

I am so sorry to hear this. Please be good to yourself. ((((hugs))))

posted by Sil 05 December | 15:28

You are all such lovely people. thanks.

posted by theora55 05 December | 15:37

We don't know each other, but you have my condolences, theora55.

posted by dersins 05 December | 15:55

Very sorry to hear any news so sad, Theora. Please remember to take care of yourself through the next few weeks, months and so on. It's not selfish to take the time you need.

posted by grabbingsand 05 December | 15:59

Theora55, I'm so sorry.

posted by initapplette 05 December | 16:04

I'm so sorry. I will call my Mom tonight.

posted by jason's_planet 05 December | 16:13

I'm really sorry to hear this. {{hugs}}

posted by seanyboy 05 December | 16:23

/me hugs theora55

posted by jjb 05 December | 17:31

So
Very
Sorry.

There are not words to describe.
(((Theora55)))

Take care.

posted by mightshould 05 December | 17:38

Lots and lots of love to you.

So, so sorry for your loss.

posted by grapefruitmoon 05 December | 18:22

I'm so sorry, Theora. Take good care.

posted by tangerine 05 December | 18:25

I am so sorry for your loss, theora. I hope you find peace in the good memories that you shared. My condolences to all your family.

posted by redvixen 05 December | 18:34

{{{theora}}}

posted by shane 05 December | 18:52

OMG, sorry hun. BIG [HUGS}. redvixen said it best.

posted by tr33hggr 05 December | 18:55

I'm sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself.

posted by bmarkey 05 December | 19:01

So sorry for your loss, theora55.

posted by lilywing13 05 December | 19:05

Big heartfelt hugs to you, theora. I think your celebration plan is a great one. I'd love to know more about her, too, when you're up to it.

posted by elizard 05 December | 20:19

.

I'm so sorry.

posted by Doohickie 05 December | 21:47

Wow. Looks like ColdChef's already got you covered, but if you want to talk, I'm both a former counselor and someone who's lost a parent. Please don't hesitate to e-mail or call even if it's just to bullshit about the weather. Whatever gets you through; there's no wrong way to grieve. Just remember that you're still alive. Life is the greatest gift your mother ever gave you; she'd hate to see you waste it! =)

(And no, I'm not this platitude in conversation; I just like to cover certain bases in a comment, since individual comments lack the give and go of a conversation.)

posted by Eideteker 05 December | 22:38

theora55, I'm so sorry.

posted by LoriFLA 05 December | 23:23

I'm so sorry to hear this theora55.

I lost my Mum suddenly 3 years ago. That night her sisters, my Aunts and one of my cousins and my brother got really drunk and told wonderful stories about her. It helped a lot at the time.

It will be easier as time passes - but it is still pretty tough. And that's ok. I still have days where i break down and cry about losing her. I still have days when I get furious about it. Don't be surprised by how you react to things over the next few months - you will be ok.

posted by gomichild 05 December | 23:37

.

*hugs*

posted by Schyler523 06 December | 00:37

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