October really is turning out to be the Month of Bummers, isn't it?

*sigh*

Well, hey, if it ain't there it ain't there. Having been the one in his shoes from time to time, I can tell you that he will eventually get over it. Having been the one in your shoes once or twice, though, I do know how shitty it feels. This too shall pass. And I imagine that you did it as gracefully as possible, under the circumstances.

As I often remind myself, why beat yourself up when there are so many other people in the world willing to do it for you? :)

My daughter's teacher went blind in one eye. The poor guy...

Ach. It seems like some sort of huge, cruel practical joke on humankind that people so often end up being desperately attracted to people who aren't at all attracted to them. I've always felt that this is somehow out of order, and that chemical signals should somehow work clearly to mutually attract/repel and spare us all that pain and wasted emotional energy.

I'm with taz. That *would* be great.

bmarkey I like that sentiment, and am borrowing it for my own brain!

Having had to work through a desperate, secret crush on a co-worker -- she's not into me at all, and for all I can tell, she may even play for the other team -- yeah, I wish I were low-grade telepathic, or sensitive to pheremones, or something.

And yes, I'm quite well aware of the hazards of dating co-workers to start with, in case you were going to mention it.

I find a lot of breakups happen in October. Must be the expiration for summer flings...

Skygazer, I've wondered about that, too.

Try not to feel bad about this, elizard. This is not something you had any control over. As long as you were honest and tactful in your dealings with the guy, you have nothing to reproach yourself for. And he'll come to terms with it sooner or later, and almost certainly find someone who does think he's a sexsai beast.

Usually October means mid-terms, and people getting serious about work. Maybe they're also thinking "do I want to spend Christmas/New Years with him/her?"

Ending it now is better for you both in the long run ((hugs))

I was in this guy's shoes more than once. The worst being when the woman in question stated that she "wanted to cancel our lovership."

It sucks, and there is no good way of doing it, but as long as you were true to yourself, it'll get better for both of you eventually.

I'm actually having a pretty good month. Work is being stressful, but in a handle-able way and I have lots of people backing me up. My personal life is actually going really well. BF and I took our first vacation together and we're past the 3-month mark and it feels like it's getting more serious. And my new apartment is great.