You know, that sounds like a plan to me.

BtGoG, good for you.

Woohoo, you go girl!

cheers.

It will be tough.. they are truly overwhelmed and mean well, and me leaving will make them more overwhelmed. But I just can't do it anymore.

I think this is for the best, Gracey. You really tried, but that place (or more precisely, that person) is just too toxic. I don't think you'll ever regret this.

Grace, this is probably a very good decision and hard to come to. But it's evident you've really been miserable there. The situation's unhealthy, and it's not helping you. Don't worry about the other people there - they'll make it work, and if they can't, it's up to them to recognize that and quit, too. Don't put the needs of some NPO above your own health and serenity. Enjoy your time off. I hope it's wonderful and that whatever you do next is a lot more supportive.

That's excellent news, BtGoG. Congratulations!

Good luck. You didn't seem very happy to be there. Go forth!

Good news - given that you don't need the job to eat and stuff, you certainly don't need the stress. Having spent 20+ years working as a volunteer for a couple of organisations, I can vouch for what Miko says - no matter how much you may think they need you, they will manage. Sorry, but you aren't indispensible - someone else will come along that may not do the same as you, but will provide the organisation with what they need. Once you realise that, it becomes easier to walk away.

It will be tough.. they are truly overwhelmed and mean well, and me leaving will make them more overwhelmed. But I just can't do it anymore.

They may mean well. But that's just not good enough. They have to do well.

Don't try to take the weight of the world on your shoulders. It's a lot heavier than it looks.

That said, good on you. Enjoy your time off!

With any luck, they'll shake your hand, thank you for the notice, and tell you that you can leave immediately. But in case they do want you to work out your notice, promise yourself not to spend those two weeks reconsidering your decision, or counter-offers, or doing multiple mini-exit interviews. You've not been a happy camper there. Getting out as smoothly and gracefully as possible is transcendently important for your well being, as far as I can see. If you must be there two more weeks, make them quiet, simple weeks, and be gone, leaving what angst you can on their doorstep, as you leave for the last time.

Good for you, Grace. I've been in situations that came down to a choice between keeping the job or my mental health and I know it's tough. You'll find something new that suits you and that doesn't make you feel like crap at the end of the day.

Hopefully they will understand and respect your decision and not treat you like a pariah for those final two weeks. But if that happens, stay positive and don't let them make you feel as if it is all your fault.

Congratulations!

It's a month notice, not two weeks. I don't think they'll respect my decision. It's difficult to go forward with this today. My other half is not being as supportive as I need him to be right now. He thinks hugging me solves problems.

Also, I do need to have a job, it's not a superfluity financially. I will need to get another one pretty quickly.

I would do this if I thought I could find another job. Best of luck.

"... My other half is not being as supportive as I need him to be right now. He thinks hugging me solves problems. ..."

He may simply not know what to say. Sometimes, when we see people we care about struggling, we men tend to think acting as normal as possible, and hoping for the best until we have more information, is the best strategy. He may even be worried that things you are trying to do to help yourself, such as leaving your job, may only be harbingers of bigger problems to come. A lot of how he handles things like this might be remarkably like how his family of origin handled similar difficulties, and if they were stiff-upper-lippers, he may be acting as he thinks proper, from their example. Could you seek insight and counsel from your mother-in-law?

But for now, take the hugs. And do what you think you've got to do, and keep trying to let your SO know how you feel, and whether your storm clouds are thickening or clearing. As you and he get more information, and you make changes, you may need even the limited support he is able to offer, to get through your current difficulties.