Aww. ((Hugs))

Things will be okay. Hang in there.

Yeah, hang in there - it's always darkest before the dawn and all that.

Hugs won't help I guess, but take one anyway:

{the great big mulp}

So sorry, dear mulp. Things sound like they're piling up, and that can just seem too daunting to deal with.

Maybe breaking it down into discrete parts and organizing a game plan with some friendly brains can help. Metachatters are great at working out this kind of thing, and always willing to help - so why not come back when you're not drunk and put the collective wisdom to work on the situation?

I'm a drunken failure, too! We should hang.

Out, I mean. Not, like, literally hang.

I've found that most of my drunken loserliness comes from a)drinking and b)deliberately refusing to make choices until circumstances are so dire that everything has been decided for me.

There's a sick exhilaration in owning nothing, having nothing, being nothing, and having nowhere to go. It's a perverse sort of freedom.

But it makes it really hard to buy booze, and it tends to lead to incarceration.

So snap out of it, soldier! Get some sleep, take some aspirin, drink some water, and then....

DO ONE THING.

ONE THING -- whatever it is. Deal with ONE THING. It'll suck, no doubt, but then, hey, that'll be dealt with and you can move to another thing. And the same way you let that rope unspool you gather it back, hand over hand, inch by inch.

I have been where you are, and I survived. You will, too. Time wounds all heels.

Metachatters are great at working out this kind of thing, and always willing to help - so why not come back when you're not drunk and put the collective wisdom to work on the situation?
You have to be careful though - when you aren't drunk, we might be.

BitterOldPunk and taz have the right idea - when everything seems overwhelming, pick something that can achieve without too much trouble and do so, then choose the next thing ... It sounds trite, but it is truly the only way.

I've been in that exact same place, mulp, and not that long ago. Things tend to work out at the last minute, when you least expect them to. It's the universe's way of saying "Ha ha, made you look!"

It's scary, but it will work out, no matter how it ends up. Just remember that.

Best of luck to you.

I don't know how I missed BitterOldPunk's post, but he's got it right.

Do one good thing today, one thing you KNOW you should do. You'll feel better, even if it's only one thing, and it'll make doing two things easier tomorrow.

Still. Hug. (((the great big mulp)))

[but I agree. Focus on one thing. It'll work itself out one way or another.]

Can't think of anything useful to add to what BitterOldPunk had to say, so I'll just add that, as another drunken failure, he(?)'s got it right. Fix what you can, and go from there.

Oh, and...

(((awkward male hug for the great big mulp)))

Dude, you're the Great Big Mulp! Not the Dinky Small Mulp. If you only knew how many times I thought to myself "Squirrel, do you know how awesome you would be if you were Great and Big and Mulpy?"...

Just seconding and thirding what the others have said, mulp- hang in there, and don't let yourself be paralyzed by despair. Do what you can for now, accept that things are probably going to suck for a while, but don't stop working to get your life back to a point where you're happy. Because you CAN do it.

Best wishes. When there are too many things facing you it's so very very hard to make a move towards resolving one of them, but it's the best advice. Course, right now, you need a hug (((the great big mulp))).
Maybe you will find someone local who can help get you started/walk you through just one thing when you're feeling a wee bit better. I know it helps me to draw on others when I'm overwhelmed...

Yeah - {{hugs}}

Sounds like a shitty place to be and I hope that things start to pick up soon for you.

Anyway - I'd say ... Lay off the booze for a week or more or until things are a bit better. Drinks great for relieving stress short term, but that stress does come back harder when you're sobered up.

I agree with everyone else. If things are overwhelming, put 'em in a list and start knocking items off one at a time.

Talk to experts or friends who know these things about why you are losing your house and how you can stop it. Put a question on AskMe. See if there is a way to reduce your debt (I assume this is an issue with debt) and keep your roof over your head. Sometimes though - you've got to cut your losses and run. This is no reflection on you, just the way of the world. Make contingencies, and hold onto the smaller pleasures.

great big (((mulp)))

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said but here's a hug and I'll send happy, nonhomelosing thoughts your way.

*beams thoughts to the mulp*

What bitteroldpunk said. Hey, I'm drunk (well, not actually at this exact moment in time, being as how it's, like, morning and I'm, like, at the office, but still) and a failure too. This is the thing, though: failure is what you make of it. It's what you say it is and nothing else. I mean, it's not definable. There's no concrete "failure" like there is, oh, the color blue or the object desk or, I don't know, ankle. Failure is entirely, totally, absolutely a subjective thing. And you can decide how to define it - or, you can toss that whole stupid winner/loser dichotomy right out the proverbial window. "So what," you groan from your hangover, "Fuck that, I know it when I see it."

Yeah, you do, because we're always meaner to ourselves than we ever would be to anybody else. BUT other people often don't see us as failures, surprisingly enough. I don't think you're as much of a loss as you think you are. Really. Seriously. Dude, you had a house. That's awesome. Hell, I had a house foreclosed on myself some years back. I lived. It's okay. It's not as big of a deal as everybody says it is. Unemployment sucks but I guarantee you it's finite. I've done that too. And you'll find a job eventually, because, get this, things do have this weird way of working out. Not always in the way you wanted them to, but in the way where, a few years down the road, you can look back and say, whoa, that did kind of work out, didn't it? Because it has.

Also, hon, hugs.

(((((mulp & BOP))))) and what mgl said.

I can only second what everyone else is saying, and offer kind and soothing whuffles.

{{{{{{mulpy hugs}}}}}

(((mulp)))

Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, "I have failed three times," and what happens when he says, "I am a failure." ~S.I. Hayakawa

There is no failure. Only feedback. ~Robert Allen

You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down. ~Mary Pickford

A man may fall many times, but he won't be a failure until he says that someone pushed him. ~Elmer G. Letterman

Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat. ~F. Scott Fitzgerald

Hang in there, and listen to some of the good folks here. I found myself in a pretty desperate situation recently...so desperate in fact, I found myself in the (gulp) "self-help section" in search of any kind of inspiration. I ended up getting "Reinventing Yourself" and found it pretty helpful. It doesn't attempt to be a "cure all" but it might get you thinking a different way about things.

{{{hugs}}}

I'm drunk, and I'm a failure. I can't find a job, I'm about to lose my home.

You make me feel a little better. I'm one or more of those quite often but at the moment all I have is "Failure" sewn up (and that chronically.)

:-)

*breaks beer bottle over head, smiles at tgbm, looks for smile back*

btw, I first read your username ad "the great big MILF." Ghaaah.

Things will look up. And for now you have the advantage of being easily amused, since presumably you been down so long it looks like up to ya.

*hugs* the great big mulp. I'm also in the "can't find a job" boat. You're not alone.

(((((mulp))))

Big hugs to you, mulp. We're here for you. Keep us posted on the situation, OK?